Will you goodbye to your online friends?

[CoolGuy9]

Lately I have been thinking about leaving goodbye messages right before I go and also on how I should do it. I have also wondered if it's even worth the effort and I should just leave without saying anything.

 

[xBrialesana]

They're the only ones I got lol so yes.
Personally I think you should have a way for them to know so they have closure and don't worry, but that's just me. Idk how close y'all are

 

[nobodyspecial]

I don't think I will. They'll know I'm gone after a couple weeks.

 

[WatermelonMel]

They probably won't even notice that I'm gone tbh, no point.

 

[vita min]

No, I'd rather be just another case of someone online who disappeared, than put more people through grief.

 

[watereyes]

kiss wizzie goodbye, meet her in hell

 

[Ramirez]

Like friends on here? Maybe. I got none left. On other platforms with "normal" people no. Did it before and they were just confused and told me to go to sleep

 

[Lmd]

If I do it they'll call the police so nope. I don't like it because some of them are really important to me but I can't do anything.

 

[Life_and_Death]

on my phone i actually have a note from my last "going to attempt" that says to tell them. i wouldnt tell them at the time because they care too much. but i would want them alerted

 

[CoolGuy9]

I can't decide if I should. I guess it's my choice and not some strangers on the internet.

 

[suisuiforum]

I answered "not sure" in this survey, but come to think of it, I probably won't. Even if I was certain that people would want to know, I can't post on discord because that would potentially get servers nuked, and if I were to tell online friends through DMs, I wouldn't want them to get in trouble or get upset over it because they couldn't "stop me" or whatever. I might make a goodbye post here though.

 

[CoolGuy9]

Interesting to see other peoples opinions on this. For me I want to do it, but I don't know if I should, because if I end up failing, I then have to deal with the annoying situation of saying I'm still here and maybe it will give them guilt over not being able to stop me. Also depending on the person, they may try to stop me by calling the cops and that adds risk.

Maybe I deserve to say my last goodbye, or maybe I'm just an idiot and I should do it alone.

 

[demuic]

No, I'd rather be just another case of someone online who disappeared, than put more people through grief.

That is why I think I won't. Better to just disappear without a trace than to give them the certainty of knowing I've died. They could imagine I've gone off to do other things.

I don't a presence online and mostly lurk anonymously on social media sites, so most people probably won't notice that I've gone, or remember me. I think it would be a bad idea to make some post announcing suicide.

There's only one place I used to frequent besides here where I would want to say anything, so I would probably just be like "Goodbye everyone, I won't be posting here any longer but thank you for all the companionship." Vague enough where it doesn't necessarily sound like I'm saying I'm going to commit suicide.

I'll definitely make a goodbye post here when the time comes.

 

[snxw]

I don't have any lol

 

[Cant go back]

I don't have any online friends. I may post something here but haven't decided yet. As others have said I don't want anyone interfering so i most likely won't say anything to anyone.
I also wouldn't know what to say so just easier to say nothing.

 

[Winklemate]

I'm not sure, but probably not. I've considered leaving vague goodbyes, not even to them directly but on like my profile page. Just like "It's been a fun", or maybe a little more detailed like "I've appreciated my talks on here with so and so but probably won't be back on". That way, I'm not imposing my goodbye on them, only if they care enough to check on my profile will the get the potential closure of a goodbye. In that way, it's not explicitly confirming death, and it's their choice.

Honestly though, even among IRL friends or former associates, I want as little people to know I've perished as possible. I've disconnected from most of them ages ago, so I've already disappeared from their life. I don't like the idea of them finding out I've died (particularly from suicide) since the only result of that is them getting at least mildly upset at the situation.

 

[Brick In The Wall]

I may drop a few vague hints but nothing concrete. The last thing I need is someone trying to be a "hero" and fucking my plans up.

 

[SuicidalAgain]

The last thing I need is someone trying to be a "hero" and fucking my plans up.

^This!

I was "rescued" once when I said goodbyes so it's not a good idea. Just write a delayed e-mail. Are there any examples I could take ideas from? I have no clue what to write in them, would hate my friends to think I just ghosted them.

 

[xBrialesana]

I may drop a few vague hints but nothing concrete. The last thing I need is someone trying to be a "hero" and fucking my plans up.

exactly. Noooo way in hell. Learned a young age. Dropped some (non specific 8th grade bs about being depressed) to my online MySpace friend in SOUTH AFRICA, I go to school the next day they cuff me in front of everyone. Ugh. I didn't even say anything specific

 

[Neowise]

I would. They are the only people that somewhat cared about me so I'd pay them the respect.

 

[CoolGuy9]

exactly. Noooo way in hell. Learned a young age. Dropped some (non specific 8th grade bs about being depressed) to my online MySpace friend in SOUTH AFRICA, I go to school the next day they cuff me in front of everyone. Ugh. I didn't even say anything specific

That's really fucked up. You shouldn't cuff people for being depressed as that would just send the message to not trust the authorities.

 

[BloodyNobody]

Yes I've known my online friends for several years now I can't leave without saying goodbye, they helped me get through some tough times growing up. I feel my death will hurt them so I've got to leave them something behind telling them how much I appreciate being a friend to me. I'll have to use a delayed email of some sort as they know my partners social media and I'm afraid they would tell her before I've been successful.

 

[sadpinky]

I plan on leaving a puzzle to solve, not so much with my death but with messages so that my presence isn't missed too much by the few that will.

 

[CoolGuy9]

I plan on leaving a puzzle to solve, not so much with my death but with messages so that my presence isn't missed too much by the few that will.

What kind of puzzle are you going to leave behind?

 

[sadpinky]

What kind of puzzle are you going to leave behind?

Something only those close to me that genuinely knew me and cared enough will care enough to find.

 

[TheUnkn0wn]

I wrote and sent a note around before my last attempt. From that experience, I wouldn't write another one as it caused too much grief/stress on friends at the time, and made things worse for me in the end. Enough people know about my struggle now that they'd "understand" what happened if found on my next attempt, so no note would be needed

 

[CatTheBus5689]

They would just try to talk me out of it or just feel guilty they couldn't stop it. It's just a lose lose and I can't imagine anything good coming out of it.

 

[Yiyo123]

No… specially if they don't
give a shit about you.

 

[DunnoWhyButYeah]

No. I don't feel like I want to tell anyone.
I'm not going to write anything here when I leave, either. And not going to leave any note irl too. I just want to disappear :)