Why isn’t there a meetup version of this site?

[dilapidatedMind]

Would it get shut down?

 

[iftheworldwasending]

i wish there was.

 

[AJ95]

There is a thread for finding partners to die with.

Most people won't meet up though because they're scared of getting doxxed or committed

 

[Stick]

Suicidal people tend to isolate themselves, so I'm not sure how many people would actually go to somewhere like that. I'm sure many would, but maybe not enough to warrant an entire website.

 

[Antigonish]

I think the most attractive part of this sight is the anonymity and the lack of pressure to commit. I dont have to ctb, dont have to return to the sight, dont have to talk, dont have to show my face. No obligation or expectation. It feels liberating to be fully in control of my choices.

I feel like a physical place like this site, kinda defeats the purpose of pro choice. Sometimes peer pressure makes decisions for us.

 

[_Kaira_]

I think the most attractive part of this sight is the anonymity and the lack of pressure to commit. I dont have to ctb, dont have to return to the sight, dont have to talk, dont have to show my face. No obligation or expectation. It feels liberating to be fully in control of my choices.

I feel like a physical place like this site, kinda defeats the purpose of pro choice. Sometimes peer pressure makes decisions for us.

I concur. Although it doesn't fix how I feel about anything, I find comfort being able to talk here relatively free of judgement or criticism without having to reveal any info I don't really want to share. However, I personally don't mind having more of an open discussion through DMs that aren't so open to public eyes, again as long as it doesn't become too discomforting.

 

[Antigonish]

I'll be honest, I've never tried the dm thing. But even just being on the thread sometimes around people with similar problems feels nice. It kills the dysphoria on a really shitty day.

 

[_Kaira_]

I'll be honest, I've never tried the dm thing. But even just being on the thread sometimes around people with similar problems feels nice. It kills the dysphoria on a really shitty day.

There's a lot of details I don't like talking about so openly unless someone comes to me first about them. Highly disturbing stuff and not something I'd want to have on here, despite the anonymity. But even as such, some things are nice to get off of my chest to people who want to listen. That's why if it's online, I prefer DMs with people I trust.

Overall, it's nice to be able to speak to people who won't turn me away because they don't know how to handle my view on life and overall pessimism. If anything, I at least feel a little lighter.

 

[Antigonish]

There's a lot of details I don't like talking about so openly unless someone comes to me first about them. Highly disturbing stuff and not something I'd want to have on here, despite the anonymity. But even as such, some things are nice to get off of my chest to people who want to listen. That's why if it's online, I prefer DMs with people I trust.

Overall, it's nice to be able to speak to people who won't turn me away because they don't know how to handle my view on life and overall pessimism. If anything, I at least feel a little lighter.

I get that. I work in a customer service job, so all day at work I'm just pretending to be super happy, and giddy, and loving, caring. But when I get off from work it all stops there.

I'm always my happiest when I began that slow spiraling drift into the darkest recesses of my mind. And no one can really stand to listen without getting super depressed. Then up goes that mask again.

It frustrates me, how I'm literally not allowed to be anything but happy. When ironically I'm a realistic pessimist.

Sorry. I'm venting, again.

 

[_Kaira_]

I get that. I work in a customer service job, so all day at work I'm just pretending to be super happy, and giddy, and loving, caring. But when I get off from work it all stops there.

I'm always my happiest when I began that slow spiraling drift into the darkest recesses of my mind. And no one can really stand to listen without getting super depressed. Then up goes that mask again.

It frustrates me, how I'm literally not allowed to be anything but happy. When ironically I'm a realistic pessimist.

Sorry. I'm venting, again.

Vent away, that's what SS is for. Talk about things that would almost always be shunned IRL. I wouldn't be able to handle customer service jobs. Despite everything, I am a passive person and can't handle confrontation. If I somehow displeased someone at work, I'd most likely have one of my common panic attacks followed by a breakdown. People around me don't like to hear that. "We all have to do it." Oh please. Too immature to handle that kind of stress, forever a child in an adult body. It sucks.

 

[sourpink]

I feel like a meetup for ss would defeat the purpose and positive affect the forum has. like, most of us here are here and are more willing to share on our terms and I think most of us much appreciate the anonymity ss provides.
also, if a meetup happened, y'know, cops. there would be so much more heat directed at ss if an irl group meetup happened, imo.
I too have issues discussing every dark detail of my path leading to this point and I agree, the forum is a nice place to generally chat and meet people one might come to trust more and dm with and maybe vent to if there's comfort there.
I think ss does what it does well, and I mean no shade but I literally chuckled out loud at the thought of an ss irl meetup ... like... cops would be there, inevitably. shit would go down and not in the way I think any of us want.

 

[sadworld]

Yep, irl meetup would be a mess. Also i would be way too scared to meet anyone in real life as there could be a bad person among us.

 

[dilapidatedMind]

I feel like a meetup for ss would defeat the purpose and positive affect the forum has. like, most of us here are here and are more willing to share on our terms and I think most of us much appreciate the anonymity ss provides.
also, if a meetup happened, y'know, cops. there would be so much more heat directed at ss if an irl group meetup happened, imo.
I too have issues discussing every dark detail of my path leading to this point and I agree, the forum is a nice place to generally chat and meet people one might come to trust more and dm with and maybe vent to if there's comfort there.
I think ss does what it does well, and I mean no shade but I literally chuckled out loud at the thought of an ss irl meetup ... like... cops would be there, inevitably. shit would go down and not in the way I think any of us want.

What? Would they shoot us? Good lol

 

[Trayus]

I'd love to meet up with someone before i die, but i totally get that people would have reservations against just meeting strangers like that. Also a little afraid of getting scammed - what if you want to meet up and instead find the police and get commited to some mental hospital :\

 

[Iggie]

Yea, i would love a meetup but agreed it is risky business

 

[FuneralCry]

You cannot trust other people so any kind of real life meetup would always be a terrible idea. It would never be worth any risks, and also just having a partners megathread on this site is a really bad idea.

 

[Death is my goal]

because it's dumb, that's why

 

[unnormal9]

Do you really want to meet a bipolar 2 manic ill slug with DiD? Me in other words

 

[looking_for_peace]

Would it get shut down?

many here have been doxxed by pro-lifers. it wouldnt be safe