Why is there no solution?

[IsThisTheEnd?]

I could do a thousand google searches talk to family and shrinks but there is no solution there just doesn't seem to be anyway to happiness it's just so bad and it's so horrible lonely and confusing.

Just why is there really no solution???

 

[FuneralCry]

I understand. For me there is nothing that can make me feel better, it is all just hopeless. I think in my case, I am not meant for this life. I'm sorry you feel like this, I wish you the best.

 

[timf]

In the depths of despair happiness can seem a distant abstraction. It can be a long path to apply various solutions just to work one's way up to boredom. Happiness can seem still a long way off.

Sometimes a focus on the ultimate goal of happiness can make things worse because it seems so unobtainable. Some focus might be spared to notice the small steps one can take today that make even slight improvements.

The closer attention can also allow one to give themselves credit for success of just making it another day. One can look at what one can control like food, sleep, what is read or watched. There can be periods where amusement or even enjoyment can be obtained. These successes should be given credit and can become a foundation upon which to build.

 

[quakociaptockh2]

What is your opinion on love? Would you get better if someone loved you?

 

[Deleted member 8579]

It is a distinct shortcoming of the human mind to search a solution for a problem that cannot be expected to have one.
The human mind tries to approach problems rationally, a strategy destined to fail; the world is not rational, yet we expect it to be.
Do not waste your time searching for solutions that do not exist; waste it on avoiding problems, for waste your time you must.

 

[IsThisTheEnd?]

What is your opinion on love? Would you get better if someone loved you?

I would like someone as mental as me? would such a person exist?

 

[summers]

I could do a thousand google searches talk to family and shrinks but there is no solution there just doesn't seem to be anyway to happiness it's just so bad and it's so horrible lonely and confusing.

Just why is there really no solution???

Not a critique, just a question - have you identified what would actually make you happy? Not abstractly, but concisely. For example, let's say money would make you happy - why? What specifically would you buy? Love - what specifically are you looking for in a relationship, and what kind of person.

If you can identify what would make you happy, then you can develop and implement a plan to get you there.

It's not going to happen without work on your end.

 

[IsThisTheEnd?]

I think like other people here I'm alone and can't get anywhere, you just can't when you have no one there's nowhere to go, just stuck obviously thinking about Ctb.

 

[quakociaptockh2]

I would like someone as mental as me? would such a person exist?

The other way around. If someone loved you as you are?

 

[IsThisTheEnd?]

if i could find someone.

 

[Annabella]

I could do a thousand google searches talk to family and shrinks but there is no solution there just doesn't seem to be anyway to happiness it's just so bad and it's so horrible lonely and confusing.

Just why is there really no solution???

Stop lurking internet + start believing again + read great books.

I wrote a more concise comment in another thread. Look it up.

 

[quakociaptockh2]

That's a different story. We're all in the same boat.

 

[Teardrop2021]

I feel the same way. I've been trying so hard to recover and not CTB bc I have a husband and family, but I can't seem to get better. I even checked myself into the hospital and am now in a specialized treatment facility and am honestly trying as hard as I can, but still feel hopeless and in despair. I've been begging my husband and mom to let me euthanize myself (I have N), saying if I had a pet that was suffering this much I would put it out of it's misery, but of course they don't want me to. I'm afraid to do it alone. I feel like I can't go on. I don't know what to do.

 

[tabletop]

I could do a thousand google searches talk to family and shrinks but there is no solution there just doesn't seem to be anyway to happiness it's just so bad and it's so horrible lonely and confusing.

Just why is there really no solution???

Like many others here I can relate SOOOO MUCH!!! And hence I STRUGGLE with suicidal thoughts.

I wish we could actually do something about it. I wish we could fix ourselves SOOO BADLY!!!

Hugs

 

[callme]

I think if there's one universally good thing you should do, it has to be giving up believeing in happiness. Concentrate on getting there, instead of just having or being.