why is the average person so ok with coping?

[jengablocks]

it's just different brains i think, different people can experience the exact same stimuli and have drastically different responses to it based on nature or the nurture that develops that nature. some of the antidepressants that have worked for me make bad experiences "slide off" and not bother me as much, whereas when i'm off of them the same bad things just outright feel worse to experience and stick to me for longer.

the sentiment of intelligence correlating to despair isn't so off the mark either, i think. other animals as far as we can tell don't really have the capacity for excessive self-criticism. the ability to look at your circumstances and actions and analyze them through an emotionally articulate lens can be destructive. i've heard an analogy before like: an animal in the wild doesn't unsuccessfully forage for food and start thinking they're an irredeemable failure, they just continue trying to forage for food.

and the two concepts together can spiral into something really bad. i think that's why psychiatry and therapy together are the recommended first-line form of treatment for mental health issues, the former aims to lessen the intensity of the bad feelings while the latter stops you from spiraling with those bad feelings. they're obviously not perfect, though

 

[bobsacamano]

i just got around to reading it all. i will probably go back to reading it again. i really liked it. especially the attachment and human yearning part. i resonate with those ideas. thank u for recommending me that


no, you really did answer it in a way

You're kind. You raised a great question. I guess if we had an easier time seeing what positives there are in all of this, we could cope better. For me seeing the positive equals saying "it could be worse" and well that's not super satisfying.

Best wishes.

 

[violetforever]

it's just different brains i think, different people can experience the exact same stimuli and have drastically different responses to it based on nature or the nurture that develops that nature. some of the antidepressants that have worked for me make bad experiences "slide off" and not bother me as much, whereas when i'm off of them the same bad things just outright feel worse to experience and stick to me for longer.

the sentiment of intelligence correlating to despair isn't so off the mark either, i think. other animals as far as we can tell don't really have the capacity for excessive self-criticism. the ability to look at your circumstances and actions and analyze them through an emotionally articulate lens can be destructive. i've heard an analogy before like: an animal in the wild doesn't unsuccessfully forage for food and start thinking they're an irredeemable failure, they just continue trying to forage for food.

and the two concepts together can spiral into something really bad. i think that's why psychiatry and therapy together are the recommended first-line form of treatment for mental health issues, the former aims to lessen the intensity of the bad feelings while the latter stops you from spiraling with those bad feelings. they're obviously not perfect, though

oh i really like your reply