Discussion Why do you worry so much about your future corpse?

[JesiBel]

I've read several users concerned about this issue. Many want their bodies intact, or to remain untouched and unexamined during autopsies. So..

Why do you worry so much about your future corpse?

Is it due to beliefs or religion? Is there some kind of "divine punishment" if the body is "desecrated"?

Is it a matter of "ego"?

Is it unethical to think that a corpse becomes a mere object? It no longer has "consciousness" or "soul". It's a pile of flesh and bones destined to decompose, the remains of what I once was. My mind will no longer be working to worry about it or do anything. Within a few hours of death, the body will already look horrible and different from what I once was, it will even smell bad. I will no longer be "that."

 

[divinemistress36]

Ego

 

[Daenerys Targaryen]

by my corpse if wakes up in the morgue

 

[bankai]

it's the only attachment we have to this world, it's hard to let go for some. I absolutely feel this way but after years and years of exercise, supplements, salads, protein shakes, health maxing I just feel bad about just fucking up my body on the way out.

so although I don't really give an eff there's still some sentimental feelings attached.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I'm not overly concerned. For me though, it's more the humiliation around body issues that I felt in life following me into death. I feel embarassed and sorry for the people who will have to deal with my corpse.

I feel embarassed about my weight, my uggliness, right down to the skin tags on my neck and hair sprouting where I don't want it. Our skin receeds in death so- it can look as if our hair and nails have grown!

I also realise it's kind of dumb. Even briefly working in a care setting, I know that doing those sorts of jobs, you're not really judging a body. You're just trying to do the job as best you can. Plus, I'm sure they will have witnessed worse.

I also do worry that they may ask a family member to identify me. I don't know if that's just standard practice- even if you die at home. But, I don't like the thought of it upsetting them seeing me all blue (from SN most likely.)

 

[Blueberry Panic]

Idk as long as I end up as ashes in a urn I'm fine with it.

 

[Griever]

I don't want my body to decompose in a coffin underground, but I want to be cremated and then buried in an urn

 

[Gustav Hartmann]

Antigone died for the corpse of her brother. Burial rites are very old, I think it is an achetype around them.

I would like to break this rules, plastination would be perfect, but it is not compatible with suicide. So my body will probably hang from a tree and rot, what is ok for me.

 

[alwaysalone]

I also do worry that they may ask a family member to identify me. I don't know if that's just standard practice- even if you die at home. But, I don't like the thought of it upsetting them seeing me all blue (from SN most likely.)

I don't know where you live but in the U.S. it greatly depends on the state or even county where you live. My mother in law passed away alone in Pennsylvania at home. (Natural) She was dead approximately 3 days. I called for a welfare check and they found her. They used her driver's license to ID her. My brother passed in Texas he had a heart attack his roommate was home and called 911. Ems couldn't revive him. My sister had to ID his body b4 he could be cremated.

 

[divinemistress36]

by my corpse if wakes up in the morgue

As a vampire. Been watching Buffy the Vampire Slayer lol

 

[lament.]

If a necromancer wakes me up I need to be looking my best.

 

[Daenerys Targaryen]

As a vampire. Been watching Buffy the Vampire Slayer lol

I am a corpse and I am quite dead

 

[FuneralCry]

I never would as after all if I'm gone then nothing can concern me, for this existence I always saw as the most cruel, terrible mistake to be no longer my problem is all I wish and hope for. I just want to never suffer ever again, I just wish to be unconscious for all eternity, for me non-existence really is the only relief and is all I see as positive, I see death as completely normal anyway, everyone has to cease existing someday, it's all that's inevitable, for me existing really is just waiting to die.

 

[Michelstaedter]

Te voy a hablar en español ya que usare muchas palabras usuales y preferiré ser más claro en lo que entiendo es la complejidad de preocuparse sobre nuestro cadáver.
La muerte es un tema complejo de abordar y tendemos, por instinto, a imaginar cosas futuras tales como ¿Qué pasará cuando estemos muertos? ¿Cómo reaccionaran nuestros familiares? ¿Cómo se verá nuestro cadáver? Esto último es clave cuando se utilizan métodos tan agresivos como lo es saltar desde un lugar alto y reventarse la cabeza contra el pavimento, así como aventarse a las vías del tren/metro/subte y que este te destroce el cuerpo de una forma totalmente antiéstica en términos de "morir" desde un aspecto muy literario, muy poético o como le queramos llamar. El punto es que los seres humanos tendrán esa sensación de que aunque ni de coña verán su cadáver, más allá de las ideas religiosas, de duda metafísica de si "te veras a ti mismo desde el más allá" y cosas así, pues la idea es instintiva, impulsiva, motivada por la ansiedad de tener miedo, de capaz seguir sufriendo o que existan problemas al que quizá se enfrenten como que si por ejemplo mueren de una bala en la cabeza, reencarnen como seres con retardo en la siguiente vida o cosas así. Lo del ego puede ser una teoría más, pero como te digo, es más instintivo que otra cosa, es casi como la sexualidad humana, muchas personas quieren tener sexo con alguien físicamente bello y sí, es por el ego, pero también por lo biológico, lo instintivo de "dejar buenos genes" en la descendencia, pero al final sólo son ideas, creencias y cosas que el humano, de forma irracional, lo llevan a sobrepensar y capaz como te digo, es meramente por cuestiones estéticas, metafísicas, no en sí porque quieras dejar un cuerpo "hermoso". Si eso fuera ya no sólo no querrían morir, sino que no querrían morir en la vejez, pero es la desesperación humana de escapar de cosas que son inevitables.

 

[IDontKnowEverything]

(Edit: just wanted to change 1 word)
On one side what I desire for myself is to be at my most self mutilated ever, dripping blood from everywhere, cuts deeper than ever while walking deep into some forest where I can die dancing and laughing before getting a heart attack or something and getting mauled by a wolf or a wild fox when dead.
I don't know why I often desire many variations of this but I've ruled other people out. I don't even want others to witness that or know it happened, I want that for me and why, beats me but I'd like to figure it out if I can.
Personal fantazies aside, I want the face of my corpse if or when I choose to go through with it to look peaceful, like I'm sleeping.
Funerals are for the living, not for the dead (if they mattered, they mattered while we were still alive).
So be it in a morgue or if I get a funeral (I don't want anyone to pay for one though, I may ask about this here eventually), for the sake of those who do get to see what remained of what they associate to me, since it will make a difference for them to see me peaceful and not in a bad condition, it matters.

 

[alwaysalone]

Funerals are for the living, not for the dead (if they mattered, they mattered while we were still alive).
So be it in a morgue or if I get a funeral (I don't want anyone to pay for one though, I may ask about this here eventually), for the sake of those who do get to see what remained of what they associate to me, since it will make a difference for them to see me peaceful and not in a bad condition, it matters.

I agree funerals are for the living. A tangible symbol to say good bye.

 

[Pale_Rider]

I honestly couldn't answer that. Maybe it is ego? , but directive 4 ( my own rule to do minimal damage to my body ) is partly intended to prevent life altering injuries if I am saved. Life is already bad. I dont need somebody to save me from an attempt to now have a damaged body. That potential could put me in a position where I have to try an unagreeable method, or worse not get to try again.

 

[Zyntkalla]

For me it's a bit of ego and I want to go peacefully. Mostly I just don't wanna be found at all. So far, I am planning to go deep in a forest to do it.

 

[angelalexandra]

i think im worried how much seeing my corpse would hurt my friends, personally im very much a beliver in "ashes to ashes, dust to dust", i want a natural burial to have as little impact on the enviroment as possible, but i hope my body will be in a good enough condition for my friends to be able to have a funeral, if they think itd help them

 

[iwannabemyself]

I want to be beautiful in death

 

[futileflutters]

My body is private, I've always hated it and I want my shame to stay buried. Either in nature or under the lid of an urn.