Discussion Why do so many consider suicide notes necessary?

[Daphne]

For me it's not necessary, as people know my dire situation so my CTB would not come as a shock.
Also have a friend who is like the public broadcasting system; she knows a lot of people and she shares others' business. She does it in a kind way though so I don't mind. She knows what I've gone through and word will get around. It doesn't bother me as I have nothing to hide and maybe the person who plays a part in my downfall will be exposed.
If I wrote the a letter/statement etc, it would probably come off the wrong way and I'd be labeled as insane and dismissed.

 

[nool]

For me, it's to give people closure. To let them know how they impacted my life, even if it wasn't enough to save me. I plan on leaving a general note as an explaination, and then individual notes for specific people. I don't feel much attachment to people anymore since I know I'll be gone soon, but I still have loved ones and I want them to know the extent of my love for them in hopes it'll soften the blow a little bit. I don't want to hurt anybody, but know it'll happen anyways, so I write my notes so I don't leave my family and friends with nothing to explain my feelings.

 

[atarax1a]

I dont want my loved ones to suffer

 

[princexhhn]

I'll write a suicide note, but not for closure. I know a simple note won't do shit to relieve to grief of losing a loved one. Just as a final goodbye, a final "I love you", a thank you for being there, even if it wasn't enough to keep me alive. I'd write one to make sure that my loved ones won't blame themselves for this, that I'm grateful despite everything. Yeah, it won't matter when I'm dead, but it only won't matter to me specifically. They'll still be alive and living with the trauma which was my fault, and I don't want them going through something so difficult, even if I won't be alive to see it. I want to minimize damage at the very least. I don't want my shitty life and decision to ctb to affect them too badly.

 

[willyoucrywhenIdie]

I've been thinking for a bit as my ctb date creeps closer, and I've been considering writing notes to loved ones for the sake of closure. as i think about it more, though, i don't understand why i should, and why so many other people do as well. for context, i don't have many people close to me. i have about 3 people who actually matter to me, but that don't particularly like me. i don't see why writing notes is necessary, or people feel the need to do it in the first place. everyone will be grieving regardless, whether notes are written, or not. it might be considered the 'right thing to do', but depending on your method, you'll be out before any of that will matter. you will be dead. i would say im a fairly compassionate person, but this stumps me because i have no idea how to logically refute the idea that the notes don't matter. you will be gone, complete peace and emptiness. you won't have the capacity to think about your actions or regret, that's why its such a perfect solution to many, nothing will matter! if you're willing to put your loved ones through grief, (putting yourself over your loved ones for respect towards your own mental health, physical health, etc.) and never face their reactions toward it, why not ctb the easiest way possible? the only two things that make sense is closure & religion. religion because themes of afterlife are present, and closure because, well, closure.

sorry if this is a dumb question, but its really bugging me because I can't get the concept of eternal peace/loss of consciousness out of my head to think about this rationally. (if you can't tell, im just trying to get my ideas out on paper without forgetting everything in an instant). id love to hear your reasonings or at least a dumbed down version of them.

You wanna know? You want me to be blunt? Ok I'll be honest. It's ego. We think we matter more than we do but we don't. Whatever we would scribble on some suicide note won't mean nothing to the reader. To them one thing will matter and that'll be that we took our own lives. If they cared enough about what we would write we probably wouldn't kill ourselves to begin with but now they'll read out of guilt.

 

[dearlydeparted44]

For some, a stalling tactic, hoping that someone will notice and perhaps talk them out of it. For others, a sincere goodbye to loved ones. And then, some use it as an informal "last will and testament" for instructions on what to do with their body and possessions. I'm not leaving a note, per se. The note I'm writing is for the hotel cleaning staff, telling them that there's a body in the room and to call the proper authorities to clean everything up. Other than that, my friends will be okay without me. They'll think what they will, but I hope none of them think that they had anything to do with my decision. So, writing some type of note can have its uses.

 

[LozirM]

It depends on each person.
In my case, I won't just leave one note, but several notes and diaries. I'll even look like the riddle, hahaha.
I think notes are the icing on the poetic cake when it comes to CTB. I love reading the notes of people who did CTB and left a letter. It's not just a testimony for others, it's the last mark you'll leave before leaving this plane of existence.
I once read a letter that began, "Yes, this is suicide," so the police wouldn't have to investigate further. I found it very useful, especially if you use methods that seem suspicious.
Also, for practical reasons, I want to leave no loose ends in my family's reasoning that would lead them to do stupid things or blame others.
In my notes and diaries, I leave a lot of criticism of the world we live in and the reasons that led me to CTB.

 

[sevennn]

its nothing about ego. thats oversimplified. some ppl that ctb have families that love them and it can come out of the left field for them. a suicide note is an explanation or a goodbye to those people

 

[notanormalguy]

I have a few people who I like, even if they don't really like me. I don't want them to blame themselves and if i were in their shoes and liked me I would want to know what happend and why I did it, give some closure. On the other hand, there are definently some assholes who I do want to feel bad, but they probably won't even if I write some shit about them.