Help Where on my body should I self harm other than arms?

[inboxed]

Hi! I'm a new user on this site, so idrk how this site works, but I was wondering where can i cut myself other than arms? it's because as summer gets near, I'll need to start wearing short sleeves, and then people will see the cuts.

Thanks! :D

 

[Covalite]

I personaly dont due self harm but I've had friends that have done it on their upper thighs. Hope this helps.

 

[inboxed]

thank you very much!

 

[ChildrensITV]

I never understood why women get into selfharm. It's just a form of scaring that you will have to explain one day. I have enough emotional scars without needing physical reminders too. I would recommend you take pics of your arms and legs before you do it and ask yourself if you want how bad you felt on 5th April 2023 to be on your skin on 5th August 2027?

 

[ctb7767]

Don't do it at all, I probably wouldn't be here if I didn't self harm over a decade ago.

 

[vaguebluur]

I used to do my legs but just get tattoos they're like self harm but look cool

 

[Henry ?]

Inner/Upper thigh, try and buy scar gel it helps makes scars less noticeable and makes them fade faster. If you're focused on making the scars on your arms fade away quicker you could also try tanning (Privately of course). Hope this helped, im also a newer user :)

 

[inboxed]

I never understood why women get into selfharm. It's just a form of scaring that you will have to explain one day. I have enough emotional scars without needing physical reminders too. I would recommend you take pics of your arms and legs before you do it and ask yourself if you want how bad you felt on 5th April 2023 to be on your skin on 5th August 2027?

thanks :( I just don't have any other coping mechanisms other than binge eating, which the reason I'm self harming how is because I binge at today and I feel extremely guilty. I finally lost like, 2 pounds but now since I binged, the weight is probably coming back. and on top of that with lots of problems from school, I just want to die quickly and painlessly. i guess the self harm is a reminder of that I am able to harm myself and at least I can do this to myself, like I'm not a total weakling :(

Inner/Upper thigh, try and buy scar gel it helps makes scars less noticeable and makes them fade faster. If you're focused on making the scars on your arms fade away quicker you could also try tanning (Privately of course). Hope this helped, im also a newer user :)

thanks! :> i guess I'll try legs, since I've always done it to my right arm.

 

[_(´ཀ`」 ∠)_]

Yeah, you're 100% a troll.

 

[trist]

I never understood why women get into selfharm. It's just a form of scaring that you will have to explain one day. I have enough emotional scars without needing physical reminders too. I would recommend you take pics of your arms and legs before you do it and ask yourself if you want how bad you felt on 5th April 2023 to be on your skin on 5th August 2027?

since when do only women self-harm? also, not everyone minds the scars. i have tons of scars, some from four years ago, and i couldn't care less about them.

 

[noname_noface]

I know for me i normally did the upper thighs, depending on how low you go you can still wear shorts and no one know a thing. One of the best things for me personally if you're out in public (working, etc..) you can run your nails over them and feel pain whenever needed. Also from my personal experience when you go "too deep" to you where you need stitches or it wont stop bleeding.. you're not cutting anything "important". Please don't think I'm encouraging it by my own experience.. just sharing. Take care of yourself.

 

[Mixfeels]

Hi sweetie, i understand what you are going through, i cut my upper thigh since that's less visible and even with shorts you are good to go, my arm is messed up with scars but they will fade, do you need someone to talk too? you could DM me if you need to
hope you feel better soon

 

[ChildrensITV]

since when do only women self-harm? also, not everyone minds the scars. i have tons of scars, some from four years ago, and i couldn't care less about them.

I didn't say "only women".

Is op a woman or "assigned female" or a bio fem, etc?

Men tend to do other destructive behaviours.

 

[blairbear64]

I never understood why women get into selfharm. It's just a form of scaring that you will have to explain one day. I have enough emotional scars without needing physical reminders too. I would recommend you take pics of your arms and legs before you do it and ask yourself if you want how bad you felt on 5th April 2023 to be on your skin on 5th August 2027?

The same reason men get into self harm? The same reasons we're all on this site?? Why are you pointing out women specifically?

 

[ChildrensITV]

The same reason men get into self harm? The same reasons we're all on this site?? Why are you pointing out women specifically?

Because facts matter. Because biology is real. Because men and women are different, and react differently to things, and take different courses of action to things:

Women are twice as likely as men to self-harm

And a fifth of young adults have self-harmed

www.independent.co.uk

Men's self-harm tends to be drugs, hard alcohol. Women tend to cut or have EDs. This is a generalization of course.

Also, I am not on this site because I want to self-harm in the sense of "cutting myself for release". The self-harmers here - both men and women - are probably in the minority here, but of those who do it, I would guess that it would be mostly women:

Girls Three Times More Likely To Self-Harm Than Boys -- And Need Help

Adolescents who harmed themselves had a risk 17 times greater for suicide and 34 times greater for drug or alcohol overdose at a young age, compared to their peers who didn't self-harm.

www.forbes.com

I was pointing out women specifically because I made the assumption that the OP was a woman. If I am wrong, let me know so I can apologize.

 

[Roseate]

Because facts matter. Because biology is real. Because men and women are different, and react differently to things, and take different courses of action to things:

This feels a lot like shaming and to say men and women are biologically different? Well yeah men are more prone to violence. Why are you shaming someone in pain? Focus on those men that are crying about being a virgin, being single, and how unfair it is… those are the same men that go out there and commit crimes because they were "lonely." So think about that before you decide to come on a website that is about acceptance and shame women in pain. It's a coping mechanism like every other coping mechanism. It's the same as wanting to ctb yet here you are.

 

[ChildrensITV]

This feels a lot like shaming and to say men and women are biologically different? Well yeah men are more prone to violence. Why are you shaming someone in pain? Focus on those men that are crying about being a virgin, being single, and how unfair it is… those are the same men that go out there and commit crimes because they were "lonely." So think about that before you decide to come on a website that is about acceptance and shame women in pain. It's a coping mechanism like every other coping mechanism. It's the same as wanting to ctb yet here you are.

It's not worth me getting banned from this site. We can just disagree and move on.

 

[Roseate]

It's not worth me getting banned from this site. We can just disagree and move on.

Yeah let's because when you say stuff like that, it never leaves that person mind. Stuff like that triggers people. And I'm sick of people saying what they want without considering how it affects someone else. You could've given her a healthier method or a different one if you were really trying to help her.