NSFW Where can I find a guy to do it with?

[sserafim]

People definitely have racial preferences - it's just human nature. But most people find asian women very attractive.

Lol my crush and I were going to do it if it weren't for my Asperger's. I asked him to hang out and I think the reason that he agreed was to hook up haha

 

[One day too late]

Just make sure to at least take them out to dinner first. Lol

 

[sserafim]

Just make sure to at least take them out to dinner first. Lol

Doesn't the guy usually pay?

 

[One day too late]

Doesn't the guy usually pay?

Well yea but you're the one who want them to give up the goods. Lol

 

[One day too late]

@sserafim

 

[mars_b4rz]

What are your motivations for doing this? What do you hope to gain from it? I can answer those questions too based on my own personal experience if you're interested.

 

[sserafim]

What are your motivations for doing this? What do you hope to gain from it? I can answer those questions too based on my own personal experience if you're interested.

Curiosity. I hope to check off an item on my bucket list. Honestly, I wouldn't mind if I died a virgin though, but I guess I have FOMO

 

[mars_b4rz]

I think that's perfectly valid reason, for me it was primarily curiosity. But you know what they say, curiosity killed the cat

 

[sserafim]

I think that's perfectly valid reason, for me it was primarily curiosity

I just want to know what it's like

 

[mars_b4rz]

I just want to know what it's like

Obviously It would vary from person to person based on motivation and connection with the said individual but for me, I felt like I hyped it up too much you know?

 

[sserafim]

Obviously It would vary from person to person based on motivation and connection with the said individual but for me, I felt like I hyped it up too much you know?

Why does there need to be connection?

 

[mars_b4rz]

There doesn't need to be, but I suspect it may influence the experience.
When I first did it I felt pretty unfulfilled ngl. I think underwhelming is probably a word most appropriate.

 

[m4rius]

If I were you I'd get a male escort since you want your face and info private.

 

[mars_b4rz]

But now that it's happened and I know what it's like I don't even think about it anymore. Perhaps it's one of those things you just need to get it out of the way with so you can stop obsessing over it.

If I were you I'd get a male escort since you want your face and info private.

Also is your name actually Marius?

 

[One day too late]

I think that's perfectly valid reason, for me it was primarily curiosity. But you know what they say, curiosity killed the cat

Curiosity killed the cat but satisfaction brought it back.

 

[thenamingofcats]

This reminds me of

So..maybe the park?

 

[m4rius]

Also is your name actually Marius?

Yeah it is lol

Is it yours too? Cause your user has "mars" in it, a friend calls me that nickname

 

[Ah.ow]

So it looks like, from what you said, dating apps are out and irl seems like it may be out as well. Correct if me if im wrong on that last part. If thats the case, your best bet would seem to be to look here, or on reddit. If here, it may help to post your state, and see who lives nearby. Although im sure a lot of people may avoid volunteering in order to not be labeled a creep.

You could also try a website like fetlife. Its kind of a dating app/forum for people in the kink community. The reason i recommend this, is because people in the kink/bdsm community are usually more empathetic, place a higher value on consent, and try to keep eachother safe. Plus there is an emphasis on aftercare. Although it does attract predators as well, you can usually ask around about a person to see of anyone reported them of wrongdoing, and there are ways to weed out the bad actors by getting to know them. Although, as with everything, theres no way to 100% certain. Also, if irl isnt out of the question there are meetups you could attend as well. If you want help trying to find one, just lmk.

Either way, please be safe. Dont expect your first time to be great. Especially as a girl, the first time can be painful so you may need to do it more than once if youre comfortable. If you want more information, or just somebody to talk to, feel free to ask me here or message me. I wish you the best of luck and hope you stay safe. Also, try to have fun, because the more relaxed you are the better it will be.

Edit:spelling

can I ask you more about fetlife? I tried to find help related to there, and everything has been overwhelming

 

[derpyderpins]

Why does there need to be connection?

Obviously late, but since this thread resurfaced:

It's objectively better. Not from a nice-guy or moral standpoint, I mean the physical feeling of the sex is better when it's someone you care about who also cares about you. One of the big hollywood lies is that sex is best early in relationships/during random hook-ups when it's animalistic and depraved and then it gets worse as you get "bored" over time. In most cases it's the opposite. There's a positive feedback loop with sex, and actively wanting to make the other person feel good (which you can get better at over time with the same partner) will make you feel physically better.