What would your friends and family say if they knew you were on SaSu

[rozeske]

They would respond with that cliché of "oh no, we didn't realize you were struggling! Why didn't you reach out for help? How could you do this to us?"

 

[catladyJ]

I don't think they would be surprised, but I don't know what they would try to do about it. I have a hard time imagining how it would make them feel because I've been this way for more than 30 years (most of my life) and much of my reasoning for wanting to die is reflected back at me by society. That makes it difficult for me to believe that anyone cares or wants me to live, you know?

 

[J&L383]

At least one of my brothers would probably try to throw me in the bin.

 

[akvalentine]

My friends wouldn't say much since I don't really have any. My ex fiancee of two years isolated me intentionally and I took care of her 24/7. My family, on the other hand, knows about how I feel, but I'm sure they would hospitalize me if they found out I was on a suicide forum lol

 

[Abditory]

Perhaps you need to find different friends. Real friends will accept you for who you are.

True but I can understand the reasoning for most of their reactions, mainly concern over me.

 

[DeathOfKane]

They wouldn't understand it and would be upset. I feel like anything that brings further increases my comfort with dying, that has useful suicide information, would be seen as an enabler. Completely forgetting the fact that I was already like this.

 

[loslassen]

honestly I haven't spent enough time pondering on this question, I don't even know and to be honest I'm not sure, my partner knows and he understands it's a place of comfort for me, but the rest of my family and friends? It would freak them out, they simply wouldn't understand, they'd be scared, they'd strip my privacy from me

 

[Linda]

I don't think they would be surprised, but I don't know what they would try to do about it. I have a hard time imagining how it would make them feel because I've been this way for more than 30 years (most of my life) and much of my reasoning for wanting to die is reflected back at me by society. That makes it difficult for me to believe that anyone cares or wants me to live, you know?

I care and I want you to live, provided you can find a way to live reasonably happily. If you can't find that way, and you choose to ctb, we'll do our best to support you as you go.

 

[Gorgone]

Don't have any friends. My partner/BD would probably end up lecturing me about it and how it makes him feel and etc etc etc.

I wouldn't want to deal with the annoyance of sitting and being talked at for an hour+.

 

[NeedAnEscape]

They would never rationalize my decision to join this forum. I know they would be deeply concerned about my health and would want me to leave this website immediately. Though, simultaneously, they cannot understand my self-harm, my disconnection from community, and my desire to end my own life. They'll force me away from SaSu to "better my mental health," yet they have no idea how to handle my struggles. I'd find myself paired with a therapist and in a cycle of failing to be understood all over again. I have been let down by the people I love time and time again, and I am genuinely not interested in 'reaching out' to people beyond this community anymore. I wouldn't be here, if my friends and family could understand my struggles or if the 'help' I was provided with actually helped me.

 

[DyingToDie123]

lol mine found my old account. They didn't really react strongly. Someone screenshotted a bunch of my posts to send to my lawyer to ideally send to my psychiatrist but my lawyer did not care, he just shared it with my parents who, again, did not care. I wish I had something more interesting to share, but that's it.

 

[bugs_for_brains]

my mum and nan would act all sad and tell me to get off it but then when they get mad they'll just use it as another thing to berate me about

 

[Crash_Bash_Dash]

I really don't know how would they react. Perhaps my family would be concerned about it and try to talk me out of here and try to interrupt my interaction with this platform in the worst scenario. And my friends would say something that "Let the life win and there's still potential in you so don't lose it on this website!" or something like that. But they're not aware of the struggles and pain I have (and so doesn't the community here) in full scale so nobody shouldn't be saying anything.

My supported housing facility's staff would be on the other hand very interested to put me in psych ward if I they knew about my activity over here so I would be most concerned about them knowing I am here.

 

[cemetorium]

It would probably depend on the person. A few of my friends who are aware of how deeply suicidal I am would probably not be surprised, but I imagine others would be shocked. My family would probably be horrified to find out that I've been on this site for years.

To be fair, I was surprised to find out that my friend who died via suicide used this site before her death. I didn't know she was on here until several months after she died, and by the point I found out I had had an account for months and had been lurking for quite a while prior (I was lurking here before she died).

 

[a time in time]

Only a fool would be surprised I am here.....my wife and I were supposed to acquire 2 guns and go together but everything happened so fast I wasn't ready and now I am left to figure it out myself.

 

[TheHolySword]

I think that it would break my younger brother's heart to know that I was here, to see what I'm saying. I hope he never finds out I spent any time here.

 

[SchizoPolyGymnast]

I told my psychiatrist. I had to talk her out of calling an ambulance.

 

[LostLily]

They would all be horrified and shock that something like this exist. My dad would probably take away all my electronics

I told my psychiatrist. I had to talk her out of calling an ambulance.

When I told my counsellor she warned me and told me that those kinds of sites are full of"malicious people" . I beg to differ ,they are some of the most open and most understanding people I met

 

[J&L383]

I spend so much of my time here and I really feel safe talking to everyone here about the very difficult things that I am experiencing. However, it bothers me that the people in my life whom I am closest to will never know. I love them, but I am also afraid of them. I live alone so it's not that hard to hide it from everyone, but I wish I could share some of the incredible things that I have learned here. So many of you have shared such thought provoking insights into humanity and life that I would love to discuss with the people in my life, but I know they would be so worried and possibly angry if they knew I was here at all.

Does anyone else feel this massive disconnect between life on SaSu and irl?

Also, feel free to move this to Offtopic if it doesn't belong here, mods.

I feel the same way. Anybody I know, the few friends I have, and the three siblings, would not begin or even try to understand. One brother might even try to put me on a 72-hour hold. Thank you for your post. You are in good company.

 

[dyingslowly]

I spend so much of my time here and I really feel safe talking to everyone here about the very difficult things that I am experiencing. However, it bothers me that the people in my life whom I am closest to will never know. I love them, but I am also afraid of them. I live alone so it's not that hard to hide it from everyone, but I wish I could share some of the incredible things that I have learned here. So many of you have shared such thought provoking insights into humanity and life that I would love to discuss with the people in my life, but I know they would be so worried and possibly angry if they knew I was here at all.

Does anyone else feel this massive disconnect between life on SaSu and irl?

Also, feel free to move this to Offtopic if it doesn't belong here, mods.

lol, they will say why aren't u dead yet?

 

[Szarur-abi]

Told few friends and therapist, got mixed reactions.

some were happy that i found safe place here but most reactions including therapist was that i should not get in there and leave it, cause it 'affects' my mental state (Tho i think life and world wosens it and not Sasu)

 

[blacklemonade]

theyd probably be shocked and would trt to tell me, suicide is not the answer, theres so many people who love you blblabla, funny thing is since months, and especially the last 2 weeks, after the breakup with my partner, that is so special to me, whom i still love with all my heart, and which left my heart broken, im trying to be very transparent with how i feel, that i dont want to live anymore, that the breakup was the last drop and that there is more than this hurting me. in my life and leaving me hopeless, noone seems to really care.
leaving me with phrases like: things just need time... noone calls, obe of my i thought very close friends call me and dont say anything really, they font come. over, noone cares to hug me or just spend time with me, sitting with mr, anything. my sister, never calls, i thought were close, but she cant even take 20 minutes from her evening to call me. instead i can write to her and she will anser whenever she can. i m sorry im just shocked that, actually you are alone with your struggles very alone. people only start to really care when you are dead.

 

[NormallyNeurotic]

Some would understand, some would be interested themselves, some might want to send me to a mental hospital, and... selfishly I hope some would finally notice my struggles. Maybe just reach out more. Get closer.

 

[Tombs_in_your_eyes]

My favourite person has never been suicidal themselves but understands my pain completely. I vividly remember a conversation from many years ago where they said (through tears) that if I really couldn't stand the pain of being alive (I had been suicidal and severely physically disabled for several years by that point) that they wouldn't stand in my way, and that if it came to it they would even support me to do it.

Now that person is terminally ill, and so I intend to die shortly before / after they do. Nobody else gets me, loves me, understands me like they do. I can't go on without them.