What to do when you feel you need human contact?

[Bitterman1996]

Feeling lonely and bored but anxious, just unable to focus doing actual task. This is where my mood on the relatively better side too. It sucks.

I usually tune in to podcast/youtube/stream just to hear people talk, oddly enough the sound of real people talking in the vicinity made me anxious but not internet/virtual ones.. Asking my online friend to voice chat around is burdensome. I don't think i should bother them kind of thing. Does anyone have similiar experience or place where you can just have a random call with people ? Though some sites like omegle have a lot of perv i hear

 

[mirror_mind]

Listen to a podcast, hug a pillow, listen to ASMR videos that simulate situations with interaction like a barbershop, or play video games with in-game voice chat. Seems like I should find a way to get some actual human interaction.

 

[MentalStefan]

Indeed, sites like omegle are full of perv and trolls... I have bad experience trying to use sites such as omegle in order to cope with loneliness.

When I feel this lonely I usually play some videos on youtube to at least hear a human voice, hug my plushies and talk to them. Recently I tried talking to chat AI, surprisingly it relieved loneliness a little bit. However none of these coping techniques give me a complete relief from loneliness :(

 

[Bitterman1996]

Indeed, sites like omegle are full of perv and trolls... I have bad experience trying to use sites such as omegle in order to cope with loneliness.

When I feel this lonely I usually play some videos on youtube to at least hear a human voice, hug my plushies and talk to them. Recently I tried talking to chat AI, surprisingly it relieved loneliness a little bit. However none of these coping techniques give me a complete relief from loneliness :(

I've tried the Ai chat but i think it doesnt work on me precisely because i know it's just AI...

Idk im thinking trying from those stories where people chat online with random strangers to learn languages but i dont know if i would not be insecure interacting with seemingly normal well-adjusted people

 

[novem]

I've tried the Ai chat but i think it doesnt work on me precisely because i know it's just AI...

Idk im thinking trying from those stories where people chat online with random strangers to learn languages but i dont know if i would not be insecure interacting with seemingly normal well-adjusted people

I also dislike talking to happy people - they force false hopes on me with their emotions.
I prefer staying in a sad bubble, because I cannot be fixed and need to stick to the ctb plan.

 

[vultureilse]

i hug pillows and daydream a ton about having friends. makes me feel very very very pathetic and weird but im incapable of making actual friends and this is like the closest i can get lmao

 

[intelcorei2duo]

Having imaginary conversations in my head

 

[theboy]

You can use Chatroullete (similar to Omegle) to communicate. You can also pay some girl to have "you know".

 

[BoomBang101]

Imaginary conversations, writing it all down into a notes app, and ASMR

 

[EternalOblivion]

I daydream often—it's how I've coped with loneliness since I was a child.

 

[callme]

Scenarios of life or death conversations that never happened, in Phoenix Wright style, where I always win. In real life, habitual and compulsive wankie my yankee.

 

[Bitterman1996]

I also dislike talking to happy people - they force false hopes on me with their emotions.
I prefer staying in a sad bubble, because I cannot be fixed and need to stick to the ctb plan.

Same. Honestly i feel more depressed talking to well-adjusted people, especially high achiever type. Maybe it's just my bitterness and inferiority complex speaking. It's also kinda... Like i feel like they can tell how much of a downer i am, it feels bad trying to blend it.

You can use Chatroullete (similar to Omegle) to communicate. You can also pay some girl to have "you know".

The bar to pay for call girls or boys is too high, besides it cost $$ i'd rather spend surviving reminded me of that comic called "lesbian experience with loneliness"

 

[Heartaches]

I also tend to go to youtube or check other social media to feel less lonely. If it isn't enough, I talk to my best friend on discord. Sometimes I also go out, whether to walk my dog or simply to have some "contact", although I rarely interact with anyone I'm not familiar with; other times I try to look for in-person activities or online courses; and other times I try to distract myself doing chores around the house.

It ultimately depends on how starved for contact I am, how my mood is and how busy the week is. My plans can drastically change based if my depression and anxiety are low or high; if I have any appointments or things I must do; or if I know I'll have contact with someone very soon.​

 

[BBBB]

I come here.

 

[theboy]

Same. Honestly i feel more depressed talking to well-adjusted people, especially high achiever type. Maybe it's just my bitterness and inferiority complex speaking. It's also kinda... Like i feel like they can tell how much of a downer i am, it feels bad trying to blend it.

nobody is better than you. Just are people. So dont worry

 

[BeautifulMosaics]

You can go in Discord servers for your interests. You don't even have to have your microphone on you can just listen. Try and find one for making friends.

 

[Bitterman1996]

You can go in Discord servers for your interests. You don't even have to have your microphone on you can just listen. Try and find one for making friends.

Ohh i tried that one times but kinda... You know, people there are mostly (well seemingly well-adjusted). Sorry if it comes out petty, but one dude there was high achiever and they kinda talk down on other people who failed academic achievements etc. While i didnt talk at all, hearing that kind of stuff kinda hurts, just reminded me how much of a failure i am as human being lol

Still in the group, but just a painful reminder that it's the norm.

 

[BeautifulMosaics]

Ohh i tried that one times but kinda... You know, people there are mostly (well seemingly well-adjusted). Sorry if it comes out petty, but one dude there was high achiever and they kinda talk down on other people who failed academic achievements etc. While i didnt talk at all, hearing that kind of stuff kinda hurts, just reminded me how much of a failure i am as human being lol

Still in the group, but just a painful reminder that it's the norm.

There's most definitely got to be a group not full of arseholes. If it's based on hobbies, why do people happy with their lives even need to bring up their achievements to shit on others? I'd keep trying :)

And I thought Discord was known for the non-well adjusted?

 

[Bitterman1996]

There's most definitely got to be a group not full of arseholes. If it's based on hobbies, why do people happy with their lives even need to bring up their achievements to shit on others? I'd keep trying :)

And I thought Discord was known for the non-well adjusted?

Haha it was a group to learn art etc, it's okay.

 

[Source Energy]

I am starving for warmth and kindness. It is killing me - literally and metaphorically. I find comfort in thoughts of transition.

 

[timetosleep]

I remind myself that it's not worth it, that I will get hurt since most people are predatory. Then I hug myself to sleep.

 

[picapica]

Do you like multiplayer shooters? I can recommend you one where you can join and leave the fights and squads as you please. I use it a lot when I feel lonely, just join a random platoon and listen to people talk.

 

[disillusion]

I go grocery shopping. Although i talk to nobdoy I am surrounded by tons random strangers. No i dont enjoy grocery shopping but It is needed task and Okay there some human contact.
Or i watch youtube. Come here. Cuddle my kid
I never call my family ever. They dont really either. If they do. Really shalllow fake convo anyway. 0 connection. I do have a few friends that I stilt keep in touch with but they all really busy ( jobs. Relationships. Their own friends and hobby etc). I am always lonely but again i like being alone too…just so used to it.

Was extrovert in the past. Would hang out all the time with People / friends and all but lost interest in that bs now. Also nobdoy really wants me anymore as i dont make jokes anymore. Dont talk much and yeah i look depressed as hell so…downer.

I have couple online friends too that i met while gaming. I sometimes tell my heart. They dont judge me.