what questions do people usually have for those who have committed suicide?

[nembutal]

i would like to include every answer possible in a detailed "side" note for my family. i know what it's like to be left with questions, how destructive and festering that feeling is, and i would like to prevent that after my death if possible.

 

[jodes2]

Why did you do it?
Why didn't you ask for help?
What could we have done differently?
Why did you abandon us?
Why couldn't you just live out your life?
Weren't you worried about going to hell for this?
Weren't we enough for you?
Did you think we'd just be able to move on?
Why did you do this to us?
Should I follow in your footsteps?

 

[WorthlessTrash]

"Why did you do it?"

"was there anything I could have done to change your mind?"

"Do you regret it?"

"Was it my fault?"

"How long have you decided on committing suicide?"

 

[wait-bus-stop]

Probably: Why?
and guilt they didn't see the signs

 

[Infinite Conscious]

How did you manage to overcome your SI? Did you instantly regret it?

Was the process of dying itself traumatic, how long before there is no more pain?

How much counseling do we have to go through up there? Are we forgiven the act of suicide?

Do we really have to come back to this Earth? Can we reject it and choose some other, less demanding plane of developing the soul?

I know all the answers. I just want the confirmation.

PS. I misunderstood the question. My questions are for the soul which committed suicide.
As for the questions of the people left behind, just tell them it's not their fault. They will not understand the act anyway.

 

[SamTam33]

I'm reading an article now that says those who are blindsided by suicide and asking how they missed the signs - should realize that "prevention is a long-term activity, rarely possible in the final crisis."

I feel like that's important for people to understand. Suicide is often a long time in the making and not something that can be prevented with superficial actions.

Parents would need to undergo changes to their behavioral patterns (if they're the source of the problem). Suicidal individuals would need to adopt new ways of thinking. Institutions that lend themselves to severe stress (economic and racial) would need to be overturned.

How likely are those things to occur?

So while technically not a Q&A type format, it's still something I'd stress in my final letter.

 

[FuneralCry]

In a note I would just say things like 'there is nothing that you could have done', and 'this is what I wanted', just so those left behind have some closure and I would maybe try to explain my feelings towards life and how suicide was the best option for me. I think the point of a note is to try and give those left behind some understanding.

 

[GettingOut]

This is a topic close to my heart as I feel my date approaching fast. My feeling about suicide notes have changed a lot since my last post on this topic.

Questions my family and friends might have would like answered are:

• What did you struggle with?
• Is there something we could have done?
• Why did you feel hopeless?
• Why now?
• Why is it better for you to sleep eternally and let the rest to continue?

Of course I'm not going to name any names. Haters will know. I want my letter to be loving, not pointing fingers or spreading hate. Just my struggles and objectives in life and why I feel they will never be reached no matter how long I live. Be honest, respectful and appreciative.

 

[allblackallwhite]

Probably: Why?
and guilt they didn't see the signs

Funny thing is they will have that guilt no matter how many times you straight up tell them. I've started talking openly and nothing changes.

 

[MidnightCat]

Why did you do it?
Why didn't you ask for help?
What could we have done differently?
Why did you abandon us?
Why couldn't you just live out your life?
Weren't you worried about going to hell for this?
Weren't we enough for you?
Did you think we'd just be able to move on?
Why did you do this to us?
Should I follow in your footsteps?

Your answer is literally the only thing that terrifies me about ctb.

I'd hate to hurt people in that way. If someone suffers must be me...

 

[randy]

"Can I have your ipad?"

 

[ylenol]

Why did you do it?
Why didn't you ask for help?
What could we have done differently?
Why did you abandon us?
Why couldn't you just live out your life?
Weren't you worried about going to hell for this?
Weren't we enough for you?
Did you think we'd just be able to move on?
Why did you do this to us?
Should I follow in your footsteps?

love the questions, rather than ask questions that lead to more venting or which comfort the suicidal writer by implicating the idea that it's the relatives fault for being passive, you force the blame on the suicidal person or at least force them to acknowledge that they'll be entirely responsible for the despair caused by the suicide. 10/10 for the last one

 

[DukeDestroyer]

When I ctb, I will not be leaving any kind of note. Everyone will just be blindsided.

 

[erwyn]

"Can I have your ipad?"

tbh i think they would want to know what to do with their stuff that they left behind sooo