CoolGuy9
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- Mar 5, 2019
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Gonna get some help soon, because I really don't wanna ctb, but I don't know what to expect.
Has a therapist ever made you see yourself in a different way?Good for you! I've talked with multiple therapists and had varying experiences. I no longer see one, but the one I saw most recently made me feel like I was being heard. My friend who goes to therapy said it's really helped her. I think it's all about finding a good match!
I live in finland. People always seem to say that the system here is one of the best which gives me a bit of hope.if you're not ready for it then it's like shoving up a baseball bat deep into your bowel, no lube.
it depends on where you land, it may vary from clinic to clinic. you know the horror stories, but you also know the stories of people who found "back to life". you live in the US? i can only speak a bit about german clinics.
I'm not exactly sure what you mean by this, but I guess you could say she helped me see the problem/situation I presented to her from a different perspective. I liked her because she never forced or subtlety talk me into doing something I wasn't comfortable with.Has a therapist ever made you see yourself in a different way?
It's just that I don't really feel like I know myself. I'm not really sure what my personality is like and I don't really know what mental health problems I have and it's driving me insane. Getting a new perspective would be nice and interesting.I'm not exactly sure what you mean by this, but I guess you could say she helped me see the problem/situation I presented to her from a different perspective. I liked her because she never forced or subtlety talk me into doing something I wasn't comfortable with.
Also, for those who have gone/still go, how did you get over the fear the of actually talking to them? I'm terrified of speaking to a stranger, especially about things so deep. There's also the thought that I'd get committed and only make things worse.
No easy answer there. It really amounted to going and letting them lead until confidence grew and we became no longer strangers to one another. I was so guarded initially I talked nothing about my stepfather. Instead talking about my problem of getting the mail because I was terrified of people looking at me when I stepped outside. We explored that first. In my own personal journey, I was entirely uninterested in a one-sided dynamic. I had my own questions for her. Like what caused you to become a therapist? Have you done therapy yourself? How did it help you? As they learned about me I learned about them and conversation stopped feeling forced or awkward and became human but with a unified purpose. Sometimes just talking about trivial things initially led to deeper things that led to meaningful insight. I think back to her quite fondly a good 15 years on. Therapists that would not engage with me on that level I simply dropped.
As for being committed this is an annoyingly awkward one as liability culture really does hamstring open dialogue. It really will depend on how you convey this suicidality. There are certain red flags that they look for that will provoke an interventionist response. It really is a matter of language and implied risk and immediacy. It is not uncommon for therapists to have suicidal clients and the counsellor then exists in a state of having to make a judgement call. So if your language conveys an immediacy they will intervene as the law requires and their policies demand.
However, if you couch the language in a more vague way, implying suicidality is more like a monster that wants to eat you and you don't want to be eaten, hence why you are here to explore other options. It reframes the concern, diminishes the immediacy of risk but also opens the door to explore it. You will likely though end up being taken through a risk assessment. Which is essentially a tick box exercise and may even end up asked to sign a contract of safety. Personally, I find them to be utterly ridiculous with no proven value whatsoever. However, it is a signal they can move away from risk concern and liability and get back to therapy as intended.
It is probably better to build up a rapport with your therapist before waving red flags of suicide then ease into the discussion when it won't be misconstrued and they have a better insight into you as a person. Even still there is a risk there and you will have to make your own judgement call. I wish it wasn't this way but unfortunately, it is.
Therapy is a scam.
I did CBT and didn't work shit for me. It is a scam by my experience.How is it a scam?
The efficacy of CBT says otherwise. If it is a scam it is an oddly effective one.
The Efficacy of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy: A Review of Meta-analyses
Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) refers to a popular therapeutic approach that has been applied to a variety of problems. The goal of this review was to provide a comprehensive survey of meta-analyses examining the efficacy of CBT. We identified 269 ...www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov
A good therapist will find those answers for you, but you have to be honest.It's just that I don't really feel like I know myself. I'm not really sure what my personality is like and I don't really know what mental health problems I have and it's driving me insane. Getting a new perspective would be nice and interesting.