What is the worst thing your parent/s ever said to you?

[Eden2k]

Im more amused than offended by the vile crap that comes out of my mothers mouth. I tend to shrug off most of what she says, as she clearly has issues of her own. I pity her.

My mother does not know how to speak without cursing. My fingers would fall off if I had to type all the shit that comes out of her disgusting mouth that is directed at me.

Her favourite insult to me is, "you are a half-baked coon", or walks past me and shouts, "nigga nigga pull the fucking trigger."- this is her favourite, or "you are a black bastard just like your father. When she is drunk, that is a whole other ball game.

My dad is black with Indian mixed in and my "lovely" mother is half white half Japanese. She clearly has issues with her racial identity.

She stormed in my room before, accusing me of hiding her house keys and demanded that I say sorry. I didn't even look up at her, but apologised anyway to get rid. Low and behold, she has just found her keys in her bag lol. Dumb fuck!

I know I'm not the only one, on here, with a dumb fuck for a parent.

 

[Jen Erik]

Spoiler: TW: intra-family child sexual abuse

"If you were really molested, tell me what your father's penis looks like."

Edited to add trigger warning

 

[Eden2k]

"If you were really molested, tell me what your father's penis looks like."

Omg I am so sorry that came out of her mouth. When I read that I had to hold my breath for a few seconds. In alittle shock I think.

 

[Jen Erik]

Omg I am so sorry that came out of her mouth. When I read that I had to hold my breath for a few seconds. In alittle shock I think.

Thanks. I'm sorry, I hope it was not too upsetting.

My mother said that to me, very recently. It is absolutely shocking, and I think part of her motivation is to trip me up, as if I am telling a lie; she is still in denial, 40 years later. I've learned to just look at her and not react when such garbage falls out of her.

 

[Eden2k]

Thanks. I'm sorry, I hope it was not too upsetting.

My mother said that to me, very recently. It is absolutely shocking, and I think part of her motivation is to trip me up, as if I am telling a lie; she is still in denial, 40 years later. I've learned to just look at her and not react when such garbage falls out of her.

Hey you have nothing to apologise for. Your mother... wow! Sounds like your mother needs to have a geography lesson and learn that denial is not a river in Eqypt.

 

[Stillnotsure]

Im more amused than offended by the vile crap that comes out of my mothers mouth. I tend to shrug off most of what she says, as she clearly has issues of her own. I pity her.

My mother does not know how to speak without cursing. My fingers would fall off if I had to type all the shit that comes out of her disgusting mouth that is directed at me.

Her favourite insult to me is, "you are a half-baked coon", or walks past me and shouts, "nigga nigga pull the fucking trigger."- this is her favourite, or "you are a black bastard just like your father. When she is drunk, that is a whole other ball game.

My dad is black with Indian mixed in and my "lovely" mother is half white half Japanese. She clearly has issues with her racial identity.

She stormed in my room before, accusing me of hiding her house keys and demanded that I say sorry. I didn't even look up at her, but apologised anyway to get rid. Low and behold, she has just found her keys in her bag lol. Dumb fuck!

I know I'm not the only one, on here, with a dumb fuck for a parent.

My mother said: I'd rather have a cigarette than you! You're getting so fat, are you pregnant (to 13 and 20 years old me) ( and she's freaking fat). You should stop eating, you might lose a little weight that way. And I'm not letting you try out for cheerleading, they don't take fat girls.

Man was she f'd up. One time my sister and I got head lice from school. We were standing naked in the tub getting our hair Nixed, and she says, if you go to prison this is what they'll do to you. We were 10. She also claimed to see angles and be able to talk to god.

 

[peachesNpoison]

- various times my parents behaved as if my severe depression and desire to die was just an inconvenience for the family, co-opting the pain for themselves, and speaking on the matter as if it will hopefully end soon

- My mother trying to tell me how lucky I was to be alive by telling me that they didn't plan to have a third child, and that when the nurse heard about that and asked if she wanted to have me terminated, that she indignantly stated that they don't do that (they're pro-life). This particular information didn't hurt my feelings, I think I was more bummed that she didn't make the right decision and terminated an unwanted child as opposed to just making it feel unwanted in every way for its entire life.

- My father muttering that I was useless. This hurt because he was right.

 

[Eden2k]

My mother said: I'd rather have a cigarette than you! You're getting so fat, are you pregnant (to 13 and 20 years old me) ( and she's freaking fat). You should stop eating, you might lose a little weight that way. And I'm not letting you try out for cheerleading, they don't take fat girls.

Man was she f'd up. One time my sister and I got head lice from school. We were standing naked in the tub getting our hair Nixed, and she says, if you go to prison this is what they'll do to you. We were 10. She also claimed to see angles and be able to talk to god.

Your mother sounds like a delight! These people don't sound like they have a maternal bone in their bodies.

 

[Eden2k]

- various times my parents behaved as if my severe depression and desire to die was just an inconvenience for the family, co-opting the pain for themselves, and speaking on the matter as if it will hopefully end soon

- My mother trying to tell me how lucky I was to be alive by telling me that they didn't plan to have a third child, and that when the nurse heard about that and asked if she wanted to have me terminated, that she indignantly stated that they don't do that (they're pro-life). This particular information didn't hurt my feelings, I think I was more bummed that she didn't make the right decision and terminated an unwanted child as opposed to just making it feel unwanted in every way for its entire life.

- My father muttering that I was useless. This hurt because he was right.

You aren't useless, you just have useless parents.

 

[creationisdeath]

Nothing.

 

[Johnnythefox]

My father was the one who would apprise me with his words of wisdom, there are so many that it would probably overload the server! So I'll quote some of his more outstanding ones.

"you want to stop eating you"

"I want you out of here when you're sixteen (that was his daily mantra)"

"I wish I'd never married and had a family"

"I wanted my boys to have mens jobs (he was under the impression that only homosexuals and females became nurses and cooks)"

"you think you're a big man?(whilst pinning me to the wall by the throat)"

"you want to stop running after they weans(when seeing my kids after the marriage breakdown)"

Sometimes actions speak louder than words, and this really showed what a fucked up excuse for anything resembling a human he was.
"I seen him using my toothbrush one time, I don't know how long he'd been doing it"

There are many more, he never had anything good to say to me.
My sister walked in on him when she was young, having sex with my cousin.

 

[Eden2k]

My father was the one who would apprise me with his words of wisdom, there are so many that it would probably overload the server! So I'll quote some of his more outstanding ones.

"you want to stop eating you"

"I want you out of here when you're sixteen (that was his daily mantra)"

"I wish I'd never married and had a family"

"I wanted my boys to have mens jobs (he was under the impression that only homosexuals and females became nurses and cooks)"

"you think you're a big man?(whilst pinning me to the wall by the throat)"

"you want to stop running after they weans(when seeing my kids after the marriage breakdown)"

Sometimes actions speak louder than words, and this really showed what a fucked up excuse for anything resembling a human he was.
"I seen him using my toothbrush one time, I don't know how long he'd been doing it"

There are many more, he never had anything good to say to me.
My sister walked in on him when she was young, having sex with my cousin.

What the hell!!! Your father sounds like a fine specimen of humankind! He's a f**king arsewipe. Sorry I don't mean to offend.

 

[peachesNpoison]

"you want to stop eating you"

what exactly did he mean by this? I read it as him shaming your eating habits but i'm not sure.
I'm sorry about your abuse.

 

[Johnnythefox]

what exactly did he mean by this? I read it as him shaming your eating habits but i'm not sure.
I'm sorry about your abuse.

It was just his way of finding an excuse to abuse me, I wasn't overweight and didn't have an eating disorder. I was only taking a biscuit from the cupboard when I was a teenager.

 

[Jen Erik]

he never had anything good to say to me.

He sounds like a tremendously worthless parent. I'm sorry he was such a shit.

 

[peachesNpoison]

You aren't useless, you just have useless parents.

In their defense, they weren't useless to my other siblings

I could go into more detail if it's wanted by the forum, but I actually wound up cutting my entire family out of my life about 6 years ago. I know this sounds hard to believe - and I expected to do so myself since I'm always fearful of decisions like this - but I haven't regretted the decision even one second since. It genuinely improved my life and emotional well-being to a greater degree than I ever would have expected, and it's one of those things I wished i'd done it way sooner.
My life is still pretty awful (I still have to live with all the PTSD they inflicted or caused), but I think there's one thing universally known on this forum: even if it's already unbearable, life could always be worse.

 

[Johnnythefox]

What the hell!!! Your father sounds like a fine specimen of humankind! He's a f**king arsewipe. Sorry I don't mean to offend.

No you didn't offend, I would fantasise about killing him many times. I would have the night I snapped if my brother wasn't there to pull me off him.

 

[peachesNpoison]

It was just his way of finding an excuse to abuse me, I wasn't overweight and didn't have an eating disorder. I was only taking a biscuit from the cupboard when I was a teenager.

nipping your self-esteem in the bud, eh? what a dikfur.

 

[Eden2k]

In their defense, they weren't useless to my other siblings

I could go into more detail if it's wanted by the forum, but I actually wound up cutting my entire family out of my life about 6 years ago. I know this sounds hard to believe - and I expected to do so myself since I'm always fearful of decisions like this - but I haven't regretted the decision even one second since. It genuinely improved my life and emotional well-being to a greater degree than I ever would have expected, and it's one of those things I wished i'd done it way sooner.
My life is still pretty awful (I still have to live with all the PTSD they inflicted or caused), but I think there's one thing universally known on this forum: even if it's already unbearable, life could always be worse.

There is no defence for how they treated you, regardless if they were nicer to your siblings. If anything, it makes it worst that they signalled you out.
Sounds like you did the right thing cutting off your entire family. I had always wanted to do the same, but never had the guts to through with it. Well done.

 

[Eden2k]

No you didn't offend, I would fantasise about killing him many times. I would have the night I snapped if my brother wasn't there to pull me off him.

Your father would have deserved it.

 

[Johnnythefox]

Your father would have deserved it.

Yes, I reckon I would have got off with it, there's many things I don't know about and never will. He abused my sister also and I'm the only one of her four brothers who believes her unequivocally.

 

[Eden2k]

Yes, I reckon I would have got off with it, there's many things I don't know about and never will. He abused my sister also and I'm the only one of her four brothers who believes her unequivocally.

He's dead now right? Or is that just wishful thinking on my part? I read in a previous post where you mentioned your sister and the warning she gave you about not allowing your father to be alone with your daughter when she was young. I just don't understand your brothers. Families hey! Who'd have em

 

[Thoughtforms]

There are people who are so desperate to have kids and then there are others who do have kids but just shouldn't have.

 

[Eden2k]

There are people who are so desperate to have kids and then there are others who do have kids but just shouldn't have.

Very true

 

[Johnnythefox]

He's dead now right? Or is that just wishful thinking on my part? I read in a previous post where you mentioned your sister and the warning she gave you about not allowing your father to be alone with your daughter when she was young. I just don't understand your brothers. Families hey! Who'd have em

He's dead four years now, Re: my brothers, sometimes people don't want to believe.

 

[Eden2k]

He's dead four years now, Re: my brothers, sometimes people don't want to believe.

It's sad it really is. I can only imagine how your sister feels. At least she has you on her side.

 

[peachesNpoison]

There are people who are so desperate to have kids and then there are others who do have kids but just shouldn't have.

True. It's like a Corollary to the Bertrand Russell quote:

The whole problem with the world is that fools and fanatics are always so certain of themselves, but wiser people so full of doubts.

 

[peachesNpoison]

There is no defence for how they treated you, regardless if they were nicer to your siblings. If anything, it makes it worst that they signalled you out.
Sounds like you did the right thing cutting off your entire family. I had always wanted to do the same, but never had the guts to through with it. Well done.

Heh, I wasn't really defending them, just being a little ironic about it. It did make it worse, they were the princes and I was the pauper on every level.
My mother still emails me asking if I need anything, she doesn't understand that it's too late to decide to be a parent. I did respond to her once essentially offering to engage in a discussion about her accountability but she ignored it and just keeps sending me the same ol' shit. Unfortunately, I'm not the type of person that will let you buy your way out of accountability.

 

[Eden2k]

Heh, I wasn't really defending them, just being a little ironic about it. It did make it worse, they were the princes and I was the pauper on every level.
My mother still emails me asking if I need anything, she doesn't understand that it's too late to decide to be a parent. I did respond to her once essentially offering to engage in a discussion about her accountability but she ignored it and just keeps sending me the same ol' shit. Unfortunately, I'm not the type of person that will let you buy your way out of accountability.

They never apologise. My mother, when she knows she has pushed me too far and is scared of the consquences, i.e me disowning her, she'll also ask me if I want anything and she'll pay for it, but never an apology.

 

[peachesNpoison]

No you didn't offend, I would fantasise about killing him many times. I would have the night I snapped if my brother wasn't there to pull me off him.

There's a member of my family, the truly worst person, that I can't help fantasising about punching in the face until disfigured and then walking away.