i dont really mean enforcing healthier habits, or even talking to other people. i mean listening to your body. youre presented with a situation and typically with that would be a discomfort or thoughts. sit with them, figure out what theyre trying to tell you, what you need.
an example might be my bpd/abandonment issues. maybe my bf got called into work and he didnt have time to tell me. i expect him to message me because he always does, why isnt he today? this would send me into a tizzy. but i have to stop, breath remind myself he loves me im sure theres a good reason (because thats what i need to hear) and he'll talk to me as soon as he can.
thanks to doing that, i dont freak out anywheres near as much anymore (the time has to add up to a bit before i will now)
i hope i explained it well enough.