What am I supposed write in my letter?

[eggshells]

I want to leave a letter for my family and friends but I don't even know the first thing I'd put in one. I've had a pretty fortunate life thanks to my parents and they've done so much for me and now I'm just going to throw it away. Am I supposed to apologize for doing it? Or just explain why? it's not like they'll understand or forgive me.

 

[IWillSmileWhenIDie]

it's your choice, you can just write nothin, that's what i think i'll do.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I think most people go for 'sorry'. That you're grateful for all they did for you. That you know they would have helped if they could but no one could help type thing. I don't know how long you've been suicidal for but that's something I want to put in- that it was a wish I'd had for a very long time and I hung on for as long as I could. So- it wasn't an impulsive act. I think it would be good to try and explain why. It's probably true that words are never going to be enough but I think it's better than nothing.

Someone posted this the other day- to try and work out what questions they might try and answer in a note- maybe it might help:

what questions do people usually have for those who have committed suicide?

i would like to include every answer possible in a detailed “side” note for my family. i know what it’s like to be left with questions, how destructive and festering that feeling is, and i would like to prevent that after my death if possible.

sanctioned-suicide.net

 

[mushroomhive]

well, say that, then. that you've had a wonderful life (edit: or we'll. not wonderful obciously if ur CBTing but that they didn't give u a bad childhood or anything) and that they didn't do anything wrong and you love them. maybe awnser some possible questions they might have . like "why?" you can explain how awful your mental health is regardless of how hard they tried. that there was nothing you could do

 

[Kobusu]

Nobody can really tell you what you should write, it's too personal for anyone to advise you on. I had a note last time I tried, but I myself am very pragmatic and ended up just outlining funeral plans. I find for myself it's too hard to condense anything into a note. My first note ended up turning into a book I'm still writing to this day. Maybe yours won't be so long. Maybe you won't have one. Maybe you even change your mind altogether. Whatever the case, all that matters is that it satisfies you above all.

 

[itsallpointless]

1)early life
2)your loves and interests
3)happiest memories
4)world view what you would change about the world
5)what makes you happy
6)what your dream is/was
Hope someone can add to the list

 

[eggshells]

I think most people go for 'sorry'. That you're grateful for all they did for you. That you know they would have helped if they could but no one could help type thing. I don't know how long you've been suicidal for but that's something I want to put in- that it was a wish I'd had for a very long time and I hung on for as long as I could. So- it wasn't an impulsive act. I think it would be good to try and explain why. It's probably true that words are never going to be enough but I think it's better than nothing.

Someone posted this the other day- to try and work out what questions they might try and answer in a note- maybe it might help:

what questions do people usually have for those who have committed suicide?

i would like to include every answer possible in a detailed “side” note for my family. i know what it’s like to be left with questions, how destructive and festering that feeling is, and i would like to prevent that after my death if possible.

sanctioned-suicide.net

the idea of having an FAQ section of my suicide note is hilarious to me but that's exactly why its honestly something that I would do. I find a lot of humor in my own death. this genuinely was helpful. thank you.

 

[Forever Sleep]

1)early life
2)your loves and interests
3)happiest memories
4)world view what you would change about the world
5)what makes you happy
6)what your dream is/was
Hope someone can add to the list

This is SO lovely. To write about happier times and to show you cherished some memories.

 

[eggshells]

1)early life
2)your loves and interests
3)happiest memories
4)world view what you would change about the world
5)what makes you happy
6)what your dream is/was
Hope someone can add to the list

thank you, I think I will add some of this to my note. they were the highlights of my life. maybe not my aspirations tho, I think it would make it a lot sadder to have to think about the future I didn't have.

 

[Somber]

1)early life
2)your loves and interests
3)happiest memories
4)world view what you would change about the world
5)what makes you happy
6)what your dream is/was
Hope someone can add to the list

7) What you want them to remember about you
8) Reasons you chose suicide (preferably supported by logical arguments so they might understand)
9) That your suicide is not their fault and that they couldn't have prevented it

 

[CTB Fella]

I want to leave a letter for my family and friends but I don't even know the first thing I'd put in one. I've had a pretty fortunate life thanks to my parents and they've done so much for me and now I'm just going to throw it away. Am I supposed to apologize for doing it? Or just explain why? it's not like they'll understand or forgive me.

Write the absolute truth.

Because, believe me, everyone will be trying to cover their backs.

ESPECIALLY the "professionals."

Take no prisoners, just sink them all.

 

[FuneralCry]

It's really up to you what to write in a suicide letter, I believe that it's a completely personal thing but for me the focus would be on giving those left behind a form of closure so they aren't left with unanswered questions. I would say things like "this is what I wanted" and maybe explain why I decided to do this and I would make it clear that suicide was the best thing for me.

But I guess that if someone was to leave it wouldn't particularly matter if others understood what the person went through or not, it isn't like the suicidal person will be there at that point anyway, but I would still see it as being best to write a note rather than leaving nothing at all.

 

[cellar door]

7) What you want them to remember about you
8) Reasons you chose suicide (preferably supported by logical arguments so they might understand)
9) That your suicide is not their fault and that they couldn't have prevented it

10) people you don't want to be at your funeral