EvisceratedJester

EvisceratedJester

|| What Else Could I Be But a Jester ||
Oct 21, 2023
3,301
I was suicidal long before my first relationship and I'm still suicidal now.
 
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AbsentMindedHuman

AbsentMindedHuman

One day, ill be free
Apr 25, 2024
126
I was suicidal before my first relationship and was naive in thinking that maybe having someone to share myself with would make things better but it in fact did the opposite. Love is messy and emotions are high.
 
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We Are Angels

We Are Angels

Member
Sep 24, 2024
84
What relationship? Never had one.
 
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Sarros

Sarros

Student
Sep 2, 2021
111
I was suicidal, before, during, and after my relationship. But I believe due to the unique circumstances surrounding that relationship, that if there's a next time, it will be different. It helped me know what it is I want out of a relationship and what things I can and cannot compromise on.
 
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PI3.14

PI3.14

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Oct 4, 2024
58
I was suicidal before my first relationship and was naive in thinking that maybe having someone to share myself with would make things better but it in fact did the opposite. Love is messy and emotions are high.
I can't form an opinion in this yet since I have never had a relationship.
 
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redkitsune98

redkitsune98

Broken beyond repair
Sep 2, 2024
179
I was, but I was doing fine. Then i met my soulmate, the perfect man, and he was with me, but now he left, and i am gonna ctb soon
 
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waterrrrrrrrrbottel

Student
Jul 18, 2022
170
I was suicidal before, the relationship buffered it for a bit. I'm now deadset on suicide again.
 
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Aloneandinpain

Experienced
Dec 25, 2023
225
Haven't even had my first kiss yet, so certainly no first relationship. Don't suppose I will ever have one, it really makes me feel like a complete failure.
 
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WildAtHeart

WildAtHeart

tired
Oct 1, 2024
102
Yea, heavily suicidal before my gf. Still with her now and still suicidal. She's the only thing stopping me.
 
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waterrrrrrrrrbottel

Student
Jul 18, 2022
170
Are you still in the relationship? If not, is it now the reason you want or think of CTBing?
I'm not. But it did help me realize that I'm more incompetent than I thought I was. And boy, that's saying something.
 
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cohomology

cohomology

Member
Oct 5, 2024
39
I've never had a relationship.
 
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Dr Iron Arc

Dr Iron Arc

Into the Unknown
Feb 10, 2020
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I'm suicidal and have never had a relationship before but since most of my suicidality comes from this lack of a relationship then I at least want to believe that if I did have one then I would commit to stopping being suicidal.
 
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PI3.14

PI3.14

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Oct 4, 2024
58
I'm suicidal and have never had a relationship before but since most of my suicidality comes from this lack of a relationship then I at least want to believe that if I did have one then I would commit to stopping being suicidal.
I relate to this. It's easily 75% of my reason to even think of CTBing
 
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ezziiooo678

ezziiooo678

Member
Oct 11, 2024
23
wasn't really suicidal before, but after it was pretty bad
 
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ilikehamsters

ilikehamsters

Sleep, sleep is my happy place
Oct 2, 2024
29
Yes, as i don't think a nine or ten year old can be in a relationship.
Did being in a relationship help? Different phase of my life, didn't melt down as much so i think so?
 
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sancta-simplicitas

sancta-simplicitas

Arcanist
Dec 14, 2023
453
I can't remember, had my first girlfriend at 14 and I'm not sure when the suicidal ideation started. If relationship helps against suicidality? Not in my case, no. They can't take away my traumas. A couple of them even landed me with more.
 
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norain

norain

Member
Oct 18, 2024
30
Yes, I had some tendencies, although I think that entering into the relationship made things a little worse because I engaged in toxic behavior and I currently feel in emotional shock.
 
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PI3.14

PI3.14

π
Oct 4, 2024
58
I'm quite surprised that few of you have been part of a toxic relationship. Makes me wonder if having suicidal ideation and depression makes one more prone to be with the wrong people.
 
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Homulily

Homulily

Witch of the Mortal World
Jun 1, 2023
73
My first relationship ended up with me having an eating disorder, a very incorrect view of what love is, and much worse self esteem.
Relationships have the potential to make you feel better but that then relies on that continued presence of that person, and for that person not to take advantage of you, or for things to continue working out between you two.
You can never be certain someone will stay, and one minute when you think everything is going fine, the next could have them wanting to break up with you.
The one I'm in right now has been lovely but, I'm still scared one day she'll lose interest in me for some other girl.
especially after my first relationship, and a few other abusive ones I was in.
it just leads to me thinking "okay she's being nice to me but how long will this last for?"
even though shes shown no signs ever of being angry at me.
Its so hard to shake the feeling that one day things will change, or somehow i'll ruin it all.

i was suicidal before it, and worse off afterwards.
 
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vitbar

vitbar

Escaped Lunatic
Jun 4, 2023
346
Suicidal before and during. Each stopped any ideation at first, but not permanently. Some worsened my issues during.
 
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greebo6

Enlightened
Sep 11, 2020
1,600
I was suicidal before my first relationship and I will still probably be suicidal before ,during and after any other relationship I may have in whatever life span I have left. Although the chance of a relationship for me is now very sadly nil.

A quick observation on this subject:
Relationships are difficult for those with depression, anxiety and other baggage and weights you have to carry around with you.
If you get together with someone who has same problems , you can understand each other but can still drive each other mad.
If you get together with someone who doesn't have any of the same problems (they function okay , are happy, have never had depression , etc...) then they will often walk away sooner rather than later because they just cant handle it and get a kind of compassion fatigue after a while.
Its really not their fault .They care, they can love you , try their best to make it work but it all just gets too much for them and eventually they have to put their own happiness and future first.
However any relationship can turn toxic and go wrong regardless of who is involved but its just harder when you have these kind of issues.
But not impossible.
So if you are lucky enough to find someone special make the most of it and them. Don't let that bit of happiness pass you by.
 
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PixelPlant

PixelPlant

smile, you’ve lived :)
Aug 15, 2023
115
was suicidal way before having a relationship, and no it didn't get any better and I don't understand why it would. I can't maintain a relationship and I feel worse after it every time. I just don't see anything positive about being in a relationship.
 
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Twiceler

Twiceler

Pro-suicide. Blackpill.
Dec 16, 2021
87
Was close to find a relationship with a single girl from my circle once, got a short "no" to me, then immediately got back to my normal suicidal state.
 
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__dystop1a__

__dystop1a__

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Jul 30, 2024
28
Very suicidal during and after my first relationship. Not really before. I have BPD so everything goes together. He left me 3 months ago and I still cry every single day. I only get worse and worse and I know I will die soon.
 
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MatrixPrisoner

MatrixPrisoner

Enlightened
Jul 8, 2023
1,514
Relationships are so exhausting and overrated. There are rare cases where they're not, but please don't feel like you're missing out if you've never had one.
 
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sevennn

sevennn

Arcanist
Sep 11, 2024
490
will never have one. i'm not human. and will never be. wont ever have anything human. no human experience. i live for nothing. just rot in my room. i'm amazed i haven't killed myself yet. just fear of physical pain holding me back. i'll never have anything normal. isolation and loneliness. when love and support are human needs. it's very very painful. i just need to die. i'm just scared of the pain it'll bring. it's cruel how the world won't let me go peacefully.
 
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Lostandlooking

In limbo
Jul 23, 2020
454
It's been so long ago I can't say for certain if I was suicidal before my first relationship. I know I was struggling with life though. But after it ended I definitely was suicidal, did dangerous stuff and started self harming.

I wasn't fully aware of the severity of my psychological problems and I thought I had found something really special. At the time I felt I made a deep connection with this person. When that ends it can be devastating. I think the relationship lasted a couple of months. But I was heartbroken for years after that. I'm okay now, and although I never think about that person anymore, it did leave some sort of mark. I've never felt a connection like that again, maybe I'm unable to feel that again, maybe it's to protect myself from getting hurt.

Not really sure what I'd like to add. It can work out sometimes, sometimes it doesn't. And every relationship leaves a mark. I feel sad about the fact that not everybody gets to experience a relationship. It can turn out good or bad, but to never have had the opportunity to form such a relationship may be even worse.

'It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.'

Edit: spelling
 
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Tig

Tig

Member
Oct 17, 2024
32
Been suicidal for years since my wife passed, took years to find a way to deal with it, started another relationship that failed wildly as the woman turned out to be married.
Ready to CTB any day now, just looking for a partner.
 
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