Discussion Were you severely bullied as a kid in school?

[FTL.Wanderer]

Did you tell any adults about it? Did any teachers witness it? If so, how did the adults who knew what was going on react? Do you feel they did enough to keep you safe?

 

[Exile]

Yes and nobody did anything about it. The only reactions came when I stood up for myself. It seems that wasn't allowed.

 

[Pepega]

I didn't told anyone because of my ego, I hoped to just die from sadness or heart attack lul

 

[Reapentence]

Of course. This one kid followed me and my friend around and harassed us all the time. Teachers watched and did nothing. Didn't expect them to do anything though, I'm sure they have enough on their plate. They couldn't really do anything either. You can't avoid cunts at school. They will always be there. If they want to harass you, they can and will, and there is not much you can do to stop it. Additionally, this dude was a 6ft greasy smelly ass beast with the biggest ego ever, so there was no point in trying to stick up for myself, especially when I was only 5ft 4.

 

[kkatt]

I was that kid nobody even bothers bullying.
Until I became that kid who has naughty things you might want. Then I was that kid.

 

[21Neberg]

I used to get bullied a bit when I was young. Throughout high school I actually wasn't bullied, to my surprise. Though really at that time I was my own bully. In fact, I think I still am.

 

[Exile]

I used to get bullied a bit when I was young. Throughout high school I actually wasn't bullied, to my surprise. Though really at that time I was my own bully. In fact, I think I still am.

I don't think you're alone on that one - many of use here have internalized our oppressors and rarely miss an opportunity to beat ourselves up. I'm definitely like that.

 

[Final Escape]

Yes a little bit, once I got to age 13. I became a target of a female bully at my school. It was awful. Then when I started in the strip club, there was an even worse female bully also working there. I didn't get bullied as much by guys, although now that I think about i was bullied by a couple of boys as well. I was very shy and quiet. Terrified of the other kids. I know it's because I was abused at home by mother, and the pedophile. It set me up for having trouble standing up for myself. Bullies can tell if u have been wounded I think, this is why they target u. One reason I think. I had forgotten about all the bullying I received in my school days until now that shit was painful to the extreme. I remember how shitty I felt about myself. Now that I think about it, bullying actually effected me in jobs. Since women often work in jobs with other women it can get nasty especially if you are young and attractive. There will be other women trying to mess with u.

 

[TAW122]

I did and it sucked. The worst times were during middle school and early high school.

 

[FTL.Wanderer]

Yes and nobody did anything about it. The only reactions came when I stood up for myself. It seems that wasn't allowed.

Very important point. I've seen that a lot--and continue to see it, even among adults. We tolerate bullying, despite the PC position statements we make in schools and workplaces. But when the bullied stand up to their tormenters, they are then perceived as the threat. Idiocy.

I didn't told anyone because of my ego, I hoped to just die from sadness or heart attack lul

That makes me deeply sad. Really, really sorry.

Of course. This one kid followed me and my friend around and harassed us all the time. Teachers watched and did nothing. Didn't expect them to do anything though, I'm sure they have enough on their plate. They couldn't really do anything either. You can't avoid cunts at school. They will always be there. If they want to harass you, they can and will, and there is not much you can do to stop it. Additionally, this dude was a 6ft greasy smelly ass beast with the biggest ego ever, so there was no point in trying to stick up for myself, especially when I was only 5ft 4.

Love it! (Not that it happened to you & no one did anything--that's loathsome. But I admire your near stoicism. All the laws we've passed on bullying over the decades and it's still prevalent. I think you're right.)

Bullies can tell if u have been wounded I think, this is why they target u. One reason I think. I had forgotten about all the bullying I received in my school days until now that shit was painful to the extreme. I remember how shitty I felt about myself. Now that I think about it, bullying actually effected me in jobs.

First off, very sorry. You're absolutely right: "that shit was painful to the extreme." You've probably read the reports that scholars who study the effects of bullying find it tends to last over the life-course. Bullied kids have significantly greater odds of being bullied throughout school, university, and even beyond into the workforce. You're right, again, that the effects don't disappear just because we grow up and are on our own.

 

[FTL.Wanderer]

Yes this was a reason I struggled with employment. As I got older it seemed to get less severe but in my teens and 20's it effected me in jobs. I always attracted the attention of that one psychopath or narcissist in the bunch lol!

I really liked what you said earlier (and the research literature bears it out): the emotionally hurt, vulnerable attract the attention of bullies like sharks to a bloodied animal far away. Says a lot about the nature of life that among other animals and humans the "weak" already in pain are the ones ripped apart preferentially.

 

[Nitromask]

I went to a pretty rough school and was bullied, but also bullied other kids. I was mid-tier in the bully food chain lol

 

[Final Escape]

Government schools are kind of like lord of the flies playing out. The more sensitive and behaved kids have to put up with abuse from other people's pathological kids. We're herded into a prison like environment and not around adults much other than the teacher and staff. Unfortunately the teacher is not teaching u how to behave like a mature adult. It's the other kids who have the most influence on u, keeping many kids from actually maturing since we have to spend many hours a day there. We only see our parents for a little bit after school and on weekends. I'm not blaming the bullies entirely because they will always exist, but not having the skills to handle them can be detrimental. I also don't agree with allowing of kids to be abused in a learning environment where u should be free from abuse.

 

[Final Escape]

https://www.lifesitenews.com/opinio...ds-to-public-school-just-might-be-their-souls. Good article on toxicity of public schools.

 

[Circles]

I was bullied from the start from pre-school to the first year or two of high school until I started fighting back. Most of it boiled down to just making fun of me for having a promiscuous cheerleader sister or my supposed physical deformities whether that was me being quiet, short, hairy, cross eyed, or whatever I was wearing being a goth kid. And since that wasn't enough being talked down by family members or punched constantly by my brother who now wonders why I don't speak to him much. So much unnecessary shit. They say sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me, but it did.

 

[FTL.Wanderer]

So much unnecessary shit. They say sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me, but it did.

AMEN!! And here we are...

 

[KiraLittleOwl]

I was bullied throughout school but most traumatic experience was in 10-11 grade. New students were added to the class and they came from really bad environment. Nobody really did that stupid shit in high school anymore but they were behaving like 12 year olds. It haunted me for good ten years or maybe more because I am too way sensitive I guess. Some people will say it wasn't severe bulling, I don't know, it was enough for me.
Of course nobody did anything, bullies even prayed on teachers, making them cry.

 

[Cookiedough8956]

Unfortunately, yeah. It was the worst period of my life. I did tell an assistant principal, only because I wanted to change classes badly.
They didnt even care. Actually, they forgot about it.
My teacher was the one who helped me, I'll be forever thankful to him.

 

[Philip]

Yeah, from kindergarten through 12 grade. School was hell for me. Reason I tried to hang myself twice when I was 15. No one gave a shit either

 

[lemmeeleev]

No, unless yourself counts. Then most definetely yes, but no one has ever bullied me. Kinda surprised I haven't, I guess its cause nobody even seems to know I exist. Oh well.

 

[Exile]

https://www.lifesitenews.com/opinio...ds-to-public-school-just-might-be-their-souls. Good article on toxicity of public schools.

Hate propaganda is what that article is, but that's typical for lifesite.

 

[Final Escape]

Hate propaganda is what that article is, but that's typical for lifesite.

I wanted to clarify that I was not raised with religiousity. I'm not trying to force pro life or religious ideas on anybody. If I had not suffered the painful life consequences directly from not adhering to established science, facts, and moral values in my personal life I would never have felt a change of heart on some of these issues.

I still don't think the Bible way of teaching morality is the best way because it's difficult to comprehend an all powerful sky god watching us for example. Or like the Virgin Mary getting pregnant without sex. Things like this killed it for me lol! However I do think human beings need some sort of way to be influenced to behave in moral ways that require u to put aside your selfishness for the sake of the highest good outside of yourself. This also gives people meaning.

 

[Exile]

I wanted to clarify that I was not raised with religiousity. I'm not trying to force pro life or religious ideas on anybody. If I had not suffered the painful life consequences directly from not adhering to established science, facts, and moral values in my personal life I would never have felt a change of heart on some of these issues.

I still don't think the Bible way of teaching morality is the best way because it's difficult to comprehend an all powerful sky god watching us for example. Or like the Virgin Mary getting pregnant without sex. Things like this killed it for me lol! However I do think human beings need some sort of way to be influenced to behave in moral ways that require u to put aside your selfishness for the sake of the highest good outside of yourself. This also gives people meaning.

Thanks for your clarification. Are there any particular insights from the article that you think are valid?

 

[wiIIow]

hell yeah I was bullied, and the teachers didn't give a fuck. I was a weird, shy kid with no social skills, and a mother that altered my appearance in a way that ensured I would recieve maximum abuse at school. no, seriously: my father had the audacity to take me to get my hair cut once. she had such an aggressive need for control over everything that she took me to get my hair re-cut, this time chopping all my hair off. she would keep this haircut on me through all of elementary school, while dressing me in shitty clothes (she could afford all the nice clothes and booze for herself though). girls wouldn't let me near them because they thought I was a boy, boys avoided me because I looked like a fucking dork. There was much namecalling, rock-throwing, laughing, I was a damn spectacle apparently.

the worst year was the one where this boy would follow me and my cousins home (we lived with my aunt for a bit) and he ran me over from the back with his bike a couple of times, usually he would just corner and threaten me.
that same year, my cousin's biological mom killed herself, and the news got out at the school somehow. it wasn't me, but I sure got the blame for it. my aunt, having a hard-on for public humiliation, saw to it that I would be properly punished. made me stand up in front of the class and apologize to everyone for being so Dishonest and Selfish, as well as making me alter one of my publicly displayed art projects to display my new status as such. I'm sure you can imagine how the rest of this year went.

Oh. and I was always the new kid at school, since my mom was very unstable and moving all over the place as a kid. that certainly didn't help

ahhhhhh memories

 

[sólstafir]

Yeah, from kindergarten through 12 grade. School was hell for me. Reason I tried to hang myself twice when I was 15. No one gave a shit either

:(

 

[Eren]

Yes, for years, I think it has had a great influence on my behavior and on being socially isolated today.

 

[meaningisgone]

I wasn't severely bullied at school. I was mostly ignored. Sometimes the popular kids would call me if they got stuck and needed help in a video game (pre-internet society). Overall I felt like an outsider and was frustrated by that, but I didn't endure the kind of terrible stuff that some kids have to deal with.
At home, on the other hand... my mom was a big brute of a bully.

Yes, for years, I think it has had a great influence on my behavior and on being socially isolated today.

I would have been your friend and stuck up for you.

 

[Eren]

I wasn't severely bullied at school. I was mostly ignored. Sometimes the popular kids would call me if they got stuck and needed help in a video game (pre-internet society). Overall I felt like an outsider and was frustrated by that, but I didn't endure the kind of terrible stuff that some kids have to deal with.
At home, on the other hand... my mom was a big brute of a bully.

I would have been your friend and stuck up for you.

Thanks you.

 

[FTL.Wanderer]

Hate propaganda is what that article is, but that's typical for lifesite.

What do you mean?

 

[Exile]

What do you mean?

What I mean is that it treats perfectly healthy things like homosexuality as social ills.