NSFW was this appropriate on the first date?

[mittymittens]

this happened awhile ago but i lost a friend over this so it is on my mind every now and then

basically i met this guy in class, in hindsight he was lovebombing me very quickly on. i did tell him i had bad experiences and i woild like to take things slowly. he agreed to that.
our first date (and essentially it hadnt even been a week since we knew each other) at some point i was hugging him and he just randomly grabbed my neck twice . it was def in a sexual way not that he wws tryna kill me. i didnt rly like it bc we were in public but i was just silent and judt told him what if anyone saw or sth and moved on cus what else r u suppose to do

had an ex friend tell me that boys are just like toddlers and dint know any better and that i probably confused him but the thing is i told him i wwnted to take things slowly the day prior

 

[Zura]

well he was clearly rushing things even when you said that you wanted to take it slow thats not good and it also depends how he reacted when you showed you were not comfortable with that was he apologetic or regretful of his actions
at the end of the day you shouldnt be with someone you are not comfortable with regardless of what your ex friends says just because everyone is getting in relationships doesnt necessarily mean you gotta be in one too tho yea loneliness can get to one at times but whats the point if you are with someone you dont feel safe with
what do you think of this whole interaction do you think he can improve on this or stop being so pushy if he was apologetic at all or do you think he is someone you dont feel comfortable with at the end of the day its your call and you shouldnt let what your ex friends or current friends say influence you
to me personally it did look like he made you uncomfortable