You should really try doing it now instead of waiting for things to get worse. CSEM is illegal and you don't know if he may have done this to others too. Waiting for the situation to escalate isn't safe.
When i was trying to explain that we needed to set boundaries he said "oh no, this is how all my past relationships ended."
Thank you
And don't worry, i'm not religious either, so that's fine
That's a big red flag. Respecting boundaries is a very important part of a good relationship. It's likely that he may have tried or has done similar things to others in the past. Please contact the authorities about this. A lot of people wait until the situation escalates and it leads them being seriously harmed, whether it be physically, psychologically, or both.
i've already been psychologically harmed. I'm paranoid. Also this isn't the first something like this has happened to me. He also said i was being aggressive because i wasn't sending pictures
Honestly, I think you do know what to do. You need to leave that terrible situation!
He's manipulating you. He's trying to guilt trip you into doing what he wants.
yeah :( i feel obligated to stay with him though
You are not obligated to stay with anyone. If he doesn't make you feel safe and is harming you then you do not have to stay with him. Your safety and well-being is your first priority. You need to be there for yourself and part of that is making sure to recognize that if someone makes you feel unsafe, you are allowed to leave.
These guys all have the same kind of handbook apparently, it's insane.
thank you, i'll try
the only good guys i'd be willing to date are wayyy older than me and married (spencer charnas and hugh dancy my loves
) but in all seriousness, thank you. It means so much to have some who understands or can understand what i'm going through
No problem, I'm glad I'm helpful for once lol.thank you, i'll try
the only good guys i'd be willing to date are wayyy older than me and married (spencer charnas and hugh dancy my loves
yeah, i've only ever been attracted to guys way older than me. It's a problem.. But also, i look and act way older than i am, but i also was forced to grow up faster than my peers.
the only good guys i'd be willing to date are wayyy older than me and married (spencer charnas and hugh dancy my loves
Do not date men who are older than you (and I mean by several years, not just one or two years), at least not until you are an adult. I understand being attracted to older men but any older guy willing to date you is just taking advantage of you because of your age. A lot of these men are abusers who will throw you away for someone else younger. I think it would be better for you, moving forward, to try sticking with guys your age. There are plenty of teenage boys who happen to look older for their age who are probablymuch better to go out with. Do not go for older men until you are an adult.
Not surprising to hear. Thats probably why you can't really connect to guys you're age. I get it lol. I can assure you tho, this will get better if you get to your early/mid twenties. Was the case for me, i got engaged to a dude 9 months younger than me (i was like 21 or so, he still looked like 30 lol) and i wouldn't had left him, he left me but it was nice as long as it lasted.
Seconding this a lot, but also even if you're 18-21, be wary of the dudes who seek out people in you're age.
Feelings are not reality.
Uhhh yeah y'all did phenomenally. So much respect to everyone who helped in here. (I'd name names but don't want to accidentally leave someone out.)Just wanted to give lots of credit to all of you who tried to help! You're awesome!
