Venting Told I was unlovable by the person I loved.

[patheticq]

Me and my ex were on good terms until I started going manic, I couldn't read many of the texts he sent because my friend read them and just said it's stuff you should never say to someone who has BPD who's especially suicidal, but from what I did see my ex just said "And if you ever. Ever. Want ANY relationship to work out in your future you need to quit this fucking self abusive self fucking obsessed deprivation fucking crusade you have." Ouch. He sent so many other messages on discord but god I'm trying to just save myself some sanity by not reading it. He was my fp and still is sadly. I'm not sure what to do but really for once give up

 

[nancyboy]

People without bpd pretend to understand our struggles when in reality they never will. They can't tell us our flaws without being aggressive about them, and that only makes us worse. They don't understand that there's no "quitting" – this is our lives sadly. I've been told my flaws as a person with bpd so many times in the same rude fashion and it's only made me bite back. Don't be scared to block him, and I hope you know that we can be loved. We can have relationships work, it's all about trial and error. I know it's hard considering he was an fp, my partner who was my fp dumped me yesterday myself. I'm struggling alot in that regard. Try and surround yourself with those who will listen judge free. Distractions help me alot personally, anything that can absorb my attention and take me out of the moment. Take your time, you've got this

 

[Worndown]

My ex was untreated BPD. There wete times she was great. There were also times she was like a wild animal in your house. By refusing treatment, it only got worse over the years.
No, those without BPD do not know how it feels. We try to understand,. We try to help. We ultimately fail. The condition does not lend itself to outside assistance. At some point you step away. Not because you no longer care but because you have nothing left to give. Survival mode.
He did not state this well. He might be running on empty too.