GoodPersonEffed
Brevity is my middle name, but my name was TL
- Jan 11, 2020
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Screenshots, threats and tormenting are stalking behaviors, in case you didn't know.
I know y'all are hurting and I honor that, but please get some help. You're crossing the line.
Effects of stalking on mental health
From WebMD:
"Here's something else to consider: Are you a stalker? If you see this obsessive pattern in yourself, see a therapist or join a support group like Co-Dependents Anonymous, he says. 'A lot of times, stalkers have addiction issues. They may be drinking or doing drugs. It's important for them to reach out. But they also have to reach in -- admit something is going on, get to a therapist or support group so they don't feel all alone.'"
Which type of stalker are you?
"The resentful stalker. These are self-righteous, self-pitying people who may threaten, but they are the least likely to act on it."
"The predator. This is about...gratification, control, and violence."
"Stalkers are lonely and lack self-esteem, yet they feel very, very important."
Seriously, c'mon, you're being predatory and abusive under the guise of righteousness and being important. You can double down on that, and you'll be losing your good selves on top of your children, or you can get the very help that you keep recommending for us. When you become an intimidator and a controller, you're an abuser, not a knight on a white horse, no matter how powerful and empowering it feels. It's really entitlement.
I believe you're better than this, than the memes in the spoiler below. Please stop, for your own sakes if not for members'. Please think about the effects I listed. You're doing real harm. You're doing the exact opposite of what you desire, to make people safer. You're putting your own mental health at risk as well, to the point of compounding your possible PTSD or developing personality disorders.
I sincerely don't mean to shame you. I'm setting off an alarm to wake you up from this trance, before you do something that really hurts someone and finally come to awareness in a harsh reality you can't undo.
Compassionately and respectfully, but from a safe distance,
GoodPersonEffed
P.S. There's nothing you can do to save me. God, I wish you could. I wish I could save everyone in the world. You can at least save yourselves from doing moral injury to yourselves by victimizing innocent others, that is within your power. Your actions upset me but I have the inner strength to manage it; many members do not.
I know y'all are hurting and I honor that, but please get some help. You're crossing the line.
Effects of stalking on mental health
- Denial, confusion, self-doubt, questioning if what is happening is unreasonable, wondering if they are over-reacting
- Frustration
- Guilt, embarrassment, self-blame
- Apprehension, fear, terror of being alone or that they, others or pets will be harmed.
- Feeling isolated and helpless to stop the harassment
- Depression (all symptoms related to depression)
- Anxiety, panic attacks, agoraphobia (frightened to leave the house, never feeling safe)
- Difficulty concentrating, attending and remembering things
- Inability to sleep – nightmares, ruminating
- Irritability, anger, homicidal thoughts
- Emotional numbing
- Symptoms of Post-traumatic Stress disorder e.g. hypervigilance (always on the lookout), flashbacks of frightening incidents, easily startled
- Insecurity and inability to trust others, problems with intimacy
- Personality changes due to becoming more suspicious, introverted or aggressive
- Self-medication alcohol/ drugs or using prescribed medications
- Suicide thoughts and/or suicide attempts
From WebMD:
"Here's something else to consider: Are you a stalker? If you see this obsessive pattern in yourself, see a therapist or join a support group like Co-Dependents Anonymous, he says. 'A lot of times, stalkers have addiction issues. They may be drinking or doing drugs. It's important for them to reach out. But they also have to reach in -- admit something is going on, get to a therapist or support group so they don't feel all alone.'"
Which type of stalker are you?
"The resentful stalker. These are self-righteous, self-pitying people who may threaten, but they are the least likely to act on it."
"The predator. This is about...gratification, control, and violence."
"Stalkers are lonely and lack self-esteem, yet they feel very, very important."
Seriously, c'mon, you're being predatory and abusive under the guise of righteousness and being important. You can double down on that, and you'll be losing your good selves on top of your children, or you can get the very help that you keep recommending for us. When you become an intimidator and a controller, you're an abuser, not a knight on a white horse, no matter how powerful and empowering it feels. It's really entitlement.
I believe you're better than this, than the memes in the spoiler below. Please stop, for your own sakes if not for members'. Please think about the effects I listed. You're doing real harm. You're doing the exact opposite of what you desire, to make people safer. You're putting your own mental health at risk as well, to the point of compounding your possible PTSD or developing personality disorders.
I sincerely don't mean to shame you. I'm setting off an alarm to wake you up from this trance, before you do something that really hurts someone and finally come to awareness in a harsh reality you can't undo.
Compassionately and respectfully, but from a safe distance,
GoodPersonEffed
P.S. There's nothing you can do to save me. God, I wish you could. I wish I could save everyone in the world. You can at least save yourselves from doing moral injury to yourselves by victimizing innocent others, that is within your power. Your actions upset me but I have the inner strength to manage it; many members do not.
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