To be a " beautiful soul"

[Defenestration]

I'm told very often, and for a long time now, everywhere I go in real life, that I'm A beautiful soul A beautiful person That I have a very big heart, that I'm very kind...

Okay, but what's the point of all that? These are qualities that are useful for others... but for me? Do they get you a degree? Do they bring in money? Do they give you good health? Do they help you make friends (who aren't opportunists)? Do they help you attract someone (oh no, sorry, you're not good-looking, rejected)?

These qualities are absolutely useless in today's world... they're just a magnet for toxic, opportunistic, and malicious people.

I hâte this life

 

[doomedbynarrative]

I feel you. A lot of people have very good things to say about me (though I am definitely a villain in a few people's stories) even when I don't think there's much good about me.

We live in a world that doesn't value these things. The universe does not care that we are good or kind or that we try to do good. And our society is increasingly becoming one that doesn't value those things either.

 

[jerkbybile]

i wish we lived in a world where kind people did not have to worry about being taken advantage of. it seems at this point there is little reward for goodness in our society. i am sorry you are feeling this way, and i hope someone will be kind to you.

 

[Deepdense]

Depending on the way you utilize these qualities, you can pull yourself up off of others.

 

[behindtheveil]

You are right, they do feel useless at least for the ones who have them. But just like every day is a mystery, here is hoping that somewhere somehow a miracle does happen for the possessor of these qualities.

 

[Defenestration]

J'aimerais vivre dans un monde où les personnes bienveillantes n'auraient pas à craindre d'être exploitées. Il semble qu'à l'heure actuelle, la bonté soit peu récompensée dans notre société. Je suis désolé que vous vous sentiez ainsi et j'espère que quelqu'un sera gentil avec vous.

Me too

 

[Dreamwalker]

I resonate with you !! Living in a perpetual state of anguish really teaches you the value of kindness. I feel like it can come quite naturally.

 

[Terrible_Life]

I'm told very often, and for a long time now, everywhere I go in real life, that I'm A beautiful soul A beautiful person That I have a very big heart, that I'm very kind...

Okay, but what's the point of all that? These are qualities that are useful for others... but for me? Do they get you a degree? Do they bring in money? Do they give you good health? Do they help you make friends (who aren't opportunists)? Do they help you attract someone (oh no, sorry, you're not good-looking, rejected)?

These qualities are absolutely useless in today's world... they're just a magnet for toxic, opportunistic, and malicious people.

I hâte this life

If I could have a functioning life I'd definitely give my best to be as you described a beautiful soul. I wouldn't give a damn if it won't bring me further to anything knowing in the end of the day that I do the right thing would be enough for me.
I get your point many see things like being polite etc as weakness but those people are idiots and if a person doesn't like you because of the reason how you look like then be happy it didn't work because who wants to be with some arrogant trash like that? You want someone who likes you for who you are

 

[Defenestration]

Vous avez raison, elles semblent bien inutiles, du moins pour ceux qui les possèdent. Mais comme chaque jour est une surprise, espérons qu'un miracle se produise un jour pour celui ou celle qui possède ces qualités.

Miracle is ctb

 

[Defenestration]

Other advices?

 

[idontknowwhatiam]

I'm told very often, and for a long time now, everywhere I go in real life, that I'm A beautiful soul A beautiful person That I have a very big heart, that I'm very kind...

Okay, but what's the point of all that? These are qualities that are useful for others... but for me? Do they get you a degree? Do they bring in money? Do they give you good health? Do they help you make friends (who aren't opportunists)? Do they help you attract someone (oh no, sorry, you're not good-looking, rejected)?

These qualities are absolutely useless in today's world... they're just a magnet for toxic, opportunistic, and malicious people.

I hâte this life

Take it as a compliment. It means that you're a good human being

 

[itsgone2]

There was an article on cracked they used to run every new year, maybe still do, that is about this. Basically like doesn't care if you're nice, it just cares what you can do. It had some example like a person being injured in a car crash and you ran up and said I'll help, I'm nice. People would just be like, are you a nurse? A doctor? What do you do?

I used to find it motivating. Yet somehow I didn't actually take the advice. I just sort of realized nice didn't mean much. What a stupid interpretation but sort of besides the point

Ultimately now I realize you do need to be nice. The fact that you're a beautiful soul is important and does mean something. But you still need some skill the world values too. It's kind of sad I guess especially today when even a skill might not matter in this abysmal job market.

So I agree they don't do enough but I don't think they're worthless. It's admirable. I think you should take the compliment but know that no, it's not enough sadly.

 

[Defenestration]

Prends-le comme un compliment. Cela signifie que tu es une bonne personne.

Yes but the World is not done for people like us

 

[SufferingDev]

They say if you have a soft heart, you better have a hard ass. And that is 100% true in life.

 

[Kokonoe]

I'm told very often, and for a long time now, everywhere I go in real life, that I'm A beautiful soul A beautiful person That I have a very big heart, that I'm very kind...

Okay, but what's the point of all that? These are qualities that are useful for others... but for me? Do they get you a degree? Do they bring in money? Do they give you good health? Do they help you make friends (who aren't opportunists)? Do they help you attract someone (oh no, sorry, you're not good-looking, rejected)?

These qualities are absolutely useless in today's world... they're just a magnet for toxic, opportunistic, and malicious people.

I hâte this life

I get told things like this a lot. I don't really like hearing it, at least more often than not.

People say I have such a kind soul, that I'm a wonderful person, etc etc etc. But it doesn't mean anything. Being kind has only hurt me.

I think what it really means is that, "You are the perfect person to abuse and take advantage of." Maybe I'm just projecting, but that's my experience with it. I am always the one who has to sacrifice things, I am always the one who has to be unhappy, I am always the one who has to have nothing, I am always the one who gets taken advantage of. Because I'm kind. Because it's easy to do those sorts of things to someone like me. Because it's easy to not feel bad hurting me. Because it's easy to make me be the one to give up.

I think being a kind person is the way to fail at life. You have to be awful if you want to succeed. But I can't do that. I'm still going to try my best to be kind. I can't imagine doing anything else.

 

[joegoes100]

I'm told very often, and for a long time now, everywhere I go in real life, that I'm A beautiful soul A beautiful person That I have a very big heart, that I'm very kind...

Okay, but what's the point of all that? These are qualities that are useful for others... but for me? Do they get you a degree? Do they bring in money? Do they give you good health? Do they help you make friends (who aren't opportunists)? Do they help you attract someone (oh no, sorry, you're not good-looking, rejected)?

These qualities are absolutely useless in today's world... they're just a magnet for toxic, opportunistic, and malicious people.

I hâte this life

Call me a nihilist but I believe it's just indirect cope from people who believe in a greater power.
No matter what you believe in, it's a fact that we're a clump of cells that create connections between neurons in order to do what's best for survival. Consciousness and spirituality are just concepts that branched from this fact. Emotions and everything we think and feel is just from synapses occurring by the nanosecond.

 

[idontknowwhatiam]

Yes but the World is not done for people like us

I agree but at the end of the day, we're ALL simply human

 

[Defenestration]

On me dit souvent ce genre de choses. Je n'aime pas vraiment l'entendre, du moins la plupart du temps.

On dit de moi que j'ai une âme si pure, que je suis une personne merveilleuse, etc. Mais ça ne veut rien dire. Ma gentillesse ne m'a fait que du mal.

Je crois que ça veut dire : « Tu es la proie idéale pour les abus. » Peut-être que je projette mes propres sentiments, mais c'est ce que je ressens. C'est toujours moi qui dois faire des sacrifices, c'est toujours moi qui suis malheureuse, c'est toujours moi qui n'ai rien, c'est toujours moi qu'on exploite. Parce que je suis gentille. Parce que c'est facile de faire ce genre de choses à quelqu'un comme moi. Parce que c'est facile de me faire du mal sans éprouver de remords. Parce que c'est facile de me faire abandonner.

Je crois qu'être trop gentil, c'est se condamner à l'échec. Il faudrait être odieux pour réussir. Mais je ne peux pas faire ça. Je vais continuer à faire de mon mieux pour être gentil. Je ne peux pas imaginer faire autrement.

This

 

[Defenestration]

Syndrom of favorite personn for borderline

 

[blacksand]

Get told that a lot as well. Older I get the more it feels like a backhanded way of saying I'm a pushover and everyone knows it or something. I recall just last year working at a factory me and this younger guy had to find someone to relieve ourselves of this particularly shitty task we had been on all morning me and him went out looking and he found someone straight away, nobody meanwhile would take up my offer until I eventually had to get a bit more direct and just order someone to.

The younger guy saw all this and was amused and starts going on about how I'm such a kind guy but just the way he said it felt like he "knew" something about me was inherently weak or unserious.

I've got plenty of other examples but this is the most recent.

 

[XdeadfaeX]

Mmm. Yes the old, you make like more beautiful routine and I can't lose you and blah blah blah. I've heard it all. Too bad people only speak to make sound come out that will lead to something that satisfies them. Loves an action. Talk is cheap. And being one of those individuals that sees it for what it is, is actually torturing. So to ask the old, beautiful, souls: I feel ya. Makes me wonder how many times this soul has had to go through this seeing the world through a clean lens.