Discussion The Uncertainty Is the worst part of seeking help

[hourlyrabbit]

I've been looking for places to go to get help and see if it's worth it, but the constant fear of "What if the facility is terrible" and "what if medicine makes it worse" makes it so difficult to even want to find help at this point. I'm terrified of the thought that anything I might do would make my hurt even worse than it already is

 

[TempLoveSlvt]

I definitely feel this. A while ago, I went to a facility thinking it'll benefit me and help me improve. But instead, what happened was I constantly relived my past traumas of being sexually assaulted and abused as a child. Some (or most, dare I say) facilities can be incredibly dehumanizing and, in many cases, might not fit the individual's needs. To stop "seeking help" was actually the best decision I made. Admittedly, I have met people there who say the facility helped. All admit that they had to change themselves to fit into the facility, which ranged from annoying to painful to unbearable for different people(for me, it was unbearable). I don't know where you will fall, but your concern is absolutely valid.

 

[hourlyrabbit]

I definitely feel this. A while ago, I went to a facility thinking it'll benefit me and help me improve. But instead, what happened was I constantly relived my past traumas of being sexually assaulted and abused as a child. Some (or most, dare I say) facilities can be incredibly dehumanizing and, in many cases, might not fit the individual's needs. To stop "seeking help" was actually the best decision I made. Admittedly, I have met people there who say the facility helped. All admit that they had to change themselves to fit into the facility, which ranged from annoying to painful to unbearable for different people(for me, it was unbearable). I don't know where you will fall, but your concern is absolutely valid.

I just wish there wasn't such a cost barrier for so many methods of getting better. The cheapest way for me to get reliable therapy that won't be inaccessible to me when I actually need it is around $250/month after financial aid, and I have literally 0 income right now. Things aren't designed to actually help people like me it feels, just to put me to the side and pretend i dont exist

 

[TempLoveSlvt]

I just wish there wasn't such a cost barrier for so many methods of getting better. The cheapest way for me to get reliable therapy that won't be inaccessible to me when I actually need it is around $250/month after financial aid, and I have literally 0 income right now. Things aren't designed to actually help people like me it feels, just to put me to the side and pretend i dont exist

I know right, it's especially tough when you don't know whether the investment in seeking help is worth it or not. The current system of seeking help is just so incredibly unfriendly and predatory. Some therapists don't even actually care and just goes through their list of questions, note a couple of responses down, pretends to listen and as soon as time's up they interrupt you and show you the way out. It's just so frustrating that the current system doesn't even feel like it actually cares about us, but yet still pretends to care. Honestly, sometimes I prefer for them to stop the show and all the acting to just be straightforward with me instead of feigning empathy. The path to seeking help is honestly a constant uphill battle, both against yourself and the world. It's just so frustrating because in an ideal world people who go through internal struggles shouldn't have to deal with tons and tons of external struggles. Unfortunately, this world isn't the ideal world, and I definitely had to learn this the hard way.

 

[FuneralCry]

I think that any kind of "help" exists only to profit from people's suffering, therapy is certainly a scam and places like psych wards just cause people to suffer even more.

 

[hourlyrabbit]

I think that any kind of "help" exists only to profit from people's suffering, therapy is certainly a scam and places like psych wards just cause people to suffer even more.

I disagree with this notion. I generally know how you feel about it so don't take it too personally, i don't mean to argue at all, I just truly think there ARE good people who just want to help and support those in need. Therapy by design may be designed with profit in mind but I have yet to find a place that does not heavily discount their services if someone genuinely needs help and support.
I do agree that psych wards are more of a "put them away and dont think about them" than any form of help though

 

[Illidan77]

could you like check the facilities first ? idk if facilities means like consultation ?
as for meds, as far as i know it kinda might took time relatively to find the suitable one, the less side effects.

yeah i agree with @hourlyrabbit , my psychiatrist was a very genuine person, and she works for the public hospital, i assume she don't get that much money. the consultation is very cheap, it's the meds that crazy expensive. she also kinda adapt and try, ask to her colleagues about things that might help. and oh well a long list actually.

 

[AlternativeHealer2]

Please dont go to facilities. They will not help. If you are ill try alternative medicine, such as homeopathy or something