Thank you for the reply. I am mainly worried about the stigma they will have to deal with and their emotional health but I also wish I could help them out financially in the future even though they will likely be fine in that regard.
I do plan on leaving a note that helps them; I just wish there was a way I could prevent the stigma.
Totally understandable, I have the same fear. do you live in the USA? I know in some cultures, filial piety (i think that's the word honoring/taking care of your parents?) is very important. I'm Latina, and latin families can be full of gossips who will say all sorts of nonsense about people, even when they're dead. Some people are just assholes and that trascends language and culture. But you can't think of how you will protect your family from that kind of judgement, because there's no way to stop it. Even if your family is kind and only offers support, your parents might still feel paranoid and ashamed, and that will be their internal, natural reaction to the grief.
the way I try to see it is that they probably deal with the shame already. Idk your situation but if your mental illness has been a big detriment to your life, and you have a relationship with your extended family, there might already be talk about you. Maybe you can ask your family how they feel about that now, and see what could help to make them more comfortable. You might find that they aren't even bothered by that kinda thing, and it'd give them more solace to know that you knew this and you appreciated their belief in you.
The stigma is societal, unfortunately it's a problem that might not be fixed for a couple more generations, and in that time thousands more people will take their own lives. You won't be able to change that even if you lived to old age, so focus on what's actually within your power. Focus on the shame your family might feel in *themselves*, the shame that they may not have done enough for you, that they let you down or did something wrong. The way you decide to deal with that will last them for the rest of their lifetime, because that's their last connection to you. What other people say about you and your life under their breaths will be beyond them honestly, they will be able to confront them and defend themselves, but you won't be able to do that, and your family won't be able to get your feelings on the matter either.