Discussion Telling online friends?

[DumbBoi]

After diving through alot of the options of why this is the right choice for me its come up that quite literally the only people who may even have a iota care for some of us are those we conversate with online only often, especially for those like me who never go outside and simply cling onto online connections. As a result ive begun to question whether I should tell them, I do care greatly for them, or atleast as much as one as empty as i am can, but of course they dont have shred of my full self, so from that perspective theres not only no reason to tell given that theres no progressing our connection without letting them into the weight of everything we deal with but given that, teling them would just be just throwing them into a situation that we have no right to throw them into
But, I can't help but think that if they continually see that you're offline they may question it, even moreso for those of us that are normally always online, and trace back to times where parts of our void seeped through and be overcome with worry, not because they had an especially deep connection to us, but because they're good people who would question something as sudden and decisive as this
So what are the stances on this,pros and cons of tellling them

 

[AwokenToReality]

I'm currently in the same position, met some great online friends that I've pretty much spent the last year speaking to via messages and calls every single day. Most are aware of my feelings, and are aware that I made a failed previous attempt, so I'm in a stuck position of whether to tell them when it'll be happening, or to just gradually disappear. If I just disappear though, they're more than likely going to know what's happened from past conversations :/

I've been trying to distance myself a lot lately from them, but it's so difficult when they're the only people that seem to care about me, to just throw them away.

 

[RepressedMind]

Mainly the people I have spoken with online, already know about my choice to die.

 

[DumbBoi]

Its definitely a tough spot, I care about them, and they're all probably the closest i've ever gotten with people but I still can't let them in in spite of how connected I feel to them. Im constantly chcking in on them and being there when I can but when I lay out the facts of our time together i'm just not that important given how much I hold back preventing us from bonding more so I can't begin to expect them to handle this
Yet I know they're strong, genuinely good people who would worry over someone, even if they werent that important to them so I almost feel as though I have to let them know so they don't get stuck questioning where I am or what happened, and that by simply vanishing I would actually be doing worse by them

 

[mathieu]

Those who I know from this site I would tell, others no.

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

Unless you have a way to send a delayed message after it's done, I would not tell them. I think it would cause distress because they would want to feel empowered to do something to stop you. They might even report it to a mod if it's that kind of environment, and the mods could contact emergency services and give them your IP address. I think it's probably best to leave things as if you've just turned off your computer. That would be the least upsetting, as it's not unexpected in online environments that sometimes people will drop off with no explanation.

 

[MsMaudlin]

I would happily tell any of my friends on here, they know anyway.

I told 2 FB friends, first one stopped speaking to me, second one went on a 'you have put me in an awkward position' rant, I have never met this guy, no mutual friends, just online chat etc. Once I had said it, I regretted it instantly x

 

[Aftex]

Honestly I wish I could tell them since otherwise I will just disappear and they will never know what happened but most of them know one of my cousin's and while he doesn't know where I live he could always contact my family so I might end up getting rescued before I ctb :(

I don't think they would find out through him as they don't really speak anymore but they would have no issues contacting him if they where concerned about me since he spends all day streaming games.

 

[DumbBoi]

Its definitely some comfort to online connections in knowing that their beyong physicality, meaning they can't stop you from continuing down this path but they're also not limited by the physical
Granted, im heavily biased because I get drawn toward them so easily and they're the only connections I really have, I still feel so indecisive about them in relation to my plan
I have no right to throw these good people into it, for one they've dealt with their own hardships so its just adding baggage so im not sure I can do that given how good it feels seeing them feel okay but, I couldnt let them in before, so its almost an insult them, that I couldnt open myself up to them, that I couldnt be more when they were willing to let me be more

 

[lostangel]

I did in my first attempt over two years ago. They saw my message and called me. I got very lucky they didn't call the police. The attempt failed. I went back and said it was a misunderstanding and I'm safe. They talked to me for a while. But if I passed out with hanging and they called the police, I could have been in a worse condition.

Bottom line is I would not tell them. But if I was you I would tell them how much they mean to you without telling them you're gonna die. Hope this helped. Best of luck.

 

[Aap]

No, someone will Karen you out.

 

[DumbBoi]

Defintiely a concern, though in my case they don't have any specifics that could send police my way so i'm lucky atleast, but as a result its harder to attempt a post message

 

[ugly_loser2008]

as others have said nobody will be surprised by my decision. funny thing when i told my buddy about my choice his first question wasn't why? but how?

 

[TheSkyIsBlue]

So, I don't consider them frienda, but there are few people I have been messaging with.
One of them knows I'm suicidal and knows about my past attempt and he told me that if I do it, I should at least say goodbye. So I think I would announce it to him when I'm prepared.
To others, I wouldn't probably say anything.