Discussion Talk with my father

[Asprex]

So just about now i had a talk with my father. It started all about the "computers are corrupting your brain" talk but i quickly shifted it to my mental illness. He said that i must help myself before it becomes unbearable. I know hes right but I just can't do it. He said that is fine to seek help to a therapist and that he's fine paying but it doesn't feel fine to me. I honestly don't want to to seek help there I don't know why I've been to therapy once or twice and it really made me feel a lot worse. My father knows about my hs and he's the reason i stopped. I'm eager to start again but everything im about to do it it feels wrong and then i don't. I love my father don't get me wrong but sometimes i feel like he doesn't understand me quite as much. I'm not enjoying the "outside" as much and he thinks its a problem. Also i don't believe that computers (video games and online friends) are corrupting or destroying your brain. Infant the online community has a helped me lots. I really don't know why i wrote that but thanks for reading Till here <3.
Something i want also to discuss is about a girl in my class. I confessed to her last year and we didn't quite match but since then she's trying to become like me (antisocial). I think it's not even possible to become an introvert as an extrovert it just doesn't feel right. Non the less she's sending me messages constantly but im always blunt with her. I don't think i could be friends with her after everything. She also know about my sh and she said that i seem a lot better than last year. I don't know about that
Anyways.
Have a nice day guys lots of love<3

 

[Sulyya]

Hopefully you can get some help from here as well, I get the feeling of not getting help from therapists. Hope you can overcome the urges and make progress

 

[Ultracheese]

I'm sorry about your experiences with therapy. May I ask what exactly about your time in therapy has made it uncomfortable for you? For some people, it can take a while to find a therapist they're comfortable with.

Why do you think the girl in your class is trying to become an introvert, as you put it? A lot of outgoing people can become quieter after going through a traumatic experience. I understand your feelings and apprehension, especially after things didn't work out between you two. She may be trying to connect with you because she thinks you're someone who may understand how she feels. I have tried to do this a few times because I felt embarrassed about making my intentions clear about wanting to share my trauma with someone. I'm not her, so I can't speak for why she's doing what she's doing, but that's just my take.

I hope you're able to be successful in your recovery journey. Sending hugs!

 

[Asprex]

I'm sorry about your experiences with therapy. May I ask what exactly about your time in therapy has made it uncomfortable for you? For some people, it can take a while to find a therapist they're comfortable with.

Why do you think the girl in your class is trying to become an introvert, as you put it? A lot of outgoing people can become quieter after going through a traumatic experience. I understand your feelings and apprehension, especially after things didn't work out between you two. She may be trying to connect with you because she thinks you're someone who may understand how she feels. I have tried to do this a few times because I felt embarrassed about making my intentions clear about wanting to share my trauma with someone. I'm not her, so I can't speak for why she's doing what she's doing, but that's just my take.

I hope you're able to be successful in your recovery journey. Sending hugs!

I think the whole concept of going to therapy is scary. Also the realisation that i need rehabilitation scares me.
About the girl i don't know what is going on in her life but a lot is being said around the area i live in about her father which is depressed as it seems. I don't know about her daily life though. I can't see why she would like to cut ties with her friends for example or some things that like that she's trying to do. It seems rather dull to me. If you have friends who love you and support why abandon them for no reason.
I will try to look for more information i would love to help her as a friend at least.

 

[Valky]

Maybe your father doesn't understand but he is trying and that is incredible.

And he is right, don't be afraid to seek help. Seeking help will sadly not always give you instant relief. Therapy and recovery in general is a path of learning, trying, failing, getting back up and continuing. It often makes you feel worse especially in the beginning because you know that you are there to face your battles but I promise you, it will become so much easier. Therapy can help you understand yourself, find new methods and improve your way of thinking.
Let alone being able to sort and talk through your problems/trauma, etc. will help you immensely, even if you think you already did countless times. Therapy helped me realise things that were so obvious but I never realised them cause I was too stuck up in my own head.

Please try it again, for some months. It is normal to meet therapists that are not fitting you so don't loose hope because it seems to not work with a certain person, or even multiples ones. Once you find the right therapist for your problems it will all get better.

I can't lie to you, Therapy is a long and hard way of facing your fears, talking through them and in the end learning how to handle them or even getting over them. But the realisation is so incredibly freeing and lifts a heavy weight off of you. Trust me, it is worth it. It is hard but definitely worth it.

 

[Asprex]

Maybe your father doesn't understand but he is trying and that is incredible.

And he is right, don't be afraid to seek help. Seeking help will sadly not always give you instant relief. Therapy and recovery in general is a path of learning, trying, failing, getting back up and continuing. It often makes you feel worse especially in the beginning because you know that you are there to face your battles but I promise you, it will become so much easier. Therapy can help you understand yourself, find new methods and improve your way of thinking.
Let alone being able to sort and talk through your problems/trauma, etc. will help you immensely, even if you think you already did countless times. Therapy helped me realise things that were so obvious but I never realised them cause I was too stuck up in my own head.

Please try it again, for some months. It is normal to meet therapists that are not fitting you so don't loose hope because it seems to not work with a certain person, or even multiples ones. Once you find the right therapist for your problems it will all get better.

I can't lie to you, Therapy is a long and hard way of facing your fears, talking through them and in the end learning how to handle them or even getting over them. But the realisation is so incredibly freeing and lifts a heavy weight off of you. Trust me, it is worth it. It is hard but definitely worth it.

Aww thanks so much. I don't really know how to respond but I'll make sure to let my father knows wherever I'm ready to go back to therapy!
And ofc i will update here. Thanks

 

[Valky]

Aww thanks so much. I don't really know how to respond but I'll make sure to let my father knows wherever I'm ready to go back to therapy!
And ofc i will update here. Thanks

Don't worry about it. I said a lot, I really hope some of that stuff will be useful for you!! Wishing you all the best <3