Stop Doing This Here

[CannotAnymore]

Please, stop invalidating people on here. Most of us who genuinely want to CTB or have attempted CTB have ONE thing in common. We have ALL had our feelings invalidated! You know NOTHING about the person behind the post. So even if you don't agree with the things they post here or their written 'reason' is not what YOU are going through, it doesn't mean you should invalidate that person.

Many of us come here because we are at our wits end and the last thing that we should see is people saying oh that's a dumb reason to want to die or oh you are 'insert slur here' for wanting to ctb for that reason.

Anyone who has made a real planned attempt at ctb knows it is NOT easy and living with the pain of not wanting to be here is so so so hard.

So to everyone who has felt invalidated, I am sorry, your feelings are valid.

 

[egAbwkOofXrX]

Thank you. I've been getting this a LOT, everyone saying my reasons are stupid. Do they think that helps anybody? I could just as easily say their reasons are stupid, but I don't.

 

[HenryHenriksen_6E]

Thank you for putting this out there. Well said. Reasons to ctb can feel irrational from an outside perspective, however there's so much going on behind the scenes, and there are so many underlying causes, that it's sometimes hard to put everything into words. Therefore it may seem "stupid", because the person is only scratching the surface of their struggles. Approach things, knowing there's nuance and context behind them; do not jump to conclusions.

 

[maniac116]

I'm sorry you've had some bad experiences here.
But this forum is open & what you're speaking of is bound to happen, right or wrong, but I think most people here are kind & mean well.
Again, I'm sorry about your experiences here

 

[ijustwishtodie]

Thank you for this. I feel invalidated because a lot of people here act like it's easy to figure out how to ctb and that, if somebody talks about being trapped in existence, they're somebody who pretends like they want death but they actually want others to die without doing it themselves. I hate this type of sentiment and I'm shocked that it exists even on this site. Why are some people unable to acknowledge that not everybody is able to access a ctb method!?

 

[KillingPain267]

Sometimes I wonder if my reasons are not enough to ctb just because I see others in society go through the same but continue their lives. But then again, I know I feel extreme distress daily due to "my reasons" and I don't see a way out.

 

[Goosechan]

Sometimes I wonder if my reasons are not enough to ctb just because I see others in society go through the same but continue their lives. But then again, I know I feel extreme distress daily due to "my reasons" and I don't see a way out

Everyone has a different load they can carry and on the surface you cannot always tell everything. Like do they have conditions that make the same load a heavier burden? How long have they been carrying that load? Have they been helped out carrying it by their community and environment or not?
They say comparison is the thief of joy, but it's most definitely also a thief of empathy.
Speaking about empathy, since I kinda rushed into preaching my insight first, I also wanted to say I hear you and you must suffer a lot to write a post like this

 

[Ironborn]

Everyone is fighting their own battles, even if you don't agree with their reasons you must respect their right to do so.

 

[nattys5thtoenail]

How so called "pro-choice" forum members look at you when you have problems they don't relate to:
Yall, don't be afraid to curse bitches out. Match them with the same exact energy they're giving you and leave it at that.

We're here to kill ourselves and if someone's reasons don't align with yours have some respect and don't tell them what they should and shouldn't do and mind your wack ass miserable hikki business.

 

[sevennn]

there are some situations that are truly so inescapable i can't help but feel annoyed when i see someone have so much i don't, so much more oppprtunity to get better that i don't and still wanting to ctb. i'm just explaining the logic as to why someone might say the things they say. it genuinely does hurt sometimes. that's why you see people do that. it's just hurt people lashing out. don't pay attention. i doubt they are trying to be mean to anyone as a person. it's mostly about them and their situation