Stay positive

[copioushopelessness]

Among many other gaslighting phrases. Like I didn't already try to be positive until I broke.
I have a "friend" who loves to talk about how miserable they are but as soon as I tell them how sick I am and how many terrible things are going on in my life it's met with bull$hıt.
I'm severely ill, I can no longer care for myself.
I have no one and I'm told that being this sick is my fault that I should "take responsibility" for how sick I am. I tried treatment. I've tried eating clean. My organs are still shutting down.
"You can be mad at me and never speak to me again but you need to hear this etc etc etc"
No, I'm not mad, I'm hurt. You'd like that if I never spoke to you again wouldn't you....
The whole conversation is exhausting to dissect but this person has a disagreement with their spouse and wants to die but if I say I'm scared of how sick I am then blah blah blah. Makes me feel like being sick is a choice. "I want you to be mad at your disease and I want you to use whatever energy you have left to fight it whether your last breath is tomorrow or 40 years from now."
I've fought long enough. I have no energy left. I'm dying and it gets downplayed.
I don't even have the energy to end my life. My damaged brain doesn't even understand how to tie a knot. I'm bedbound and life is crashing down on me. I have no where to go. No one to turn to.

What things have people said to you all that is not helpful?

 

[AngelTear]

Oh Gosh I have a bunch of shit people have said to me
The ones that really piss me off is the most obvious shit and the religious shit

But honestly everything anyone says to me doesn't help
And people are absolute fucking idiots with "comforting", it's like any intelligence they had disappears when they try
Words don't do shit to make the situation better I don't care what anyone says otherwise
If they took action to make me feel better it'd be a different story

If I try to remember the shit people have said to me
Or look back in chat messages
I think I'll get too upset XD

 

[copioushopelessness]

Oh Gosh I have a bunch of shit people have said to me
The ones that really piss me off is the most obvious shit and the religious shit

But honestly everything anyone says to me doesn't help
And people are absolute fucking idiots with "comforting", it's like any intelligence they had disappears when they try
Words don't do shit to make the situation better I don't care what anyone says otherwise
If they took action to make me feel better it'd be a different story

If I try to remember the shit people have said to me
Or look back in chat messages
I think I'll get too upset XD

Why do people say the dumbest shit to eachother... like it would be easier to admit they just don't care that much unless it's about them. I have empathy for those suffering but my suffering has always been met with it somehow being my fault... story of my life. Next time they complain to me I'm going to tell them suck it up buttercup.
My disease is genetic, my fault though for being born. I took genetic testing.

 

[Hollowman]

"Just be happy" "happiness is a choice" etc etc. things like that used to piss me off. I'm so numbed out now I could care less what anyone says.

 

[copioushopelessness]

"Just be happy" "happiness is a choice" etc etc. things like that used to piss me off. I'm so numbed out now I could care less what anyone says.

Yes, it no longer upsets me it just leaves me feeling empty. My situation is incurable but I ought to just try harder or something.

Yes, it no longer upsets me it just leaves me feeling empty. My situation is incurable but I ought to just try harder or something.

If happiness was a choice more people would be happy. Doesn't seem like an easy choice. If it were so easy then why the f would so many people "choose" to suffer...

 

[TAW122]

Oh yes, the many platitudes spewed by the masses and everyday people, especially all the platitudes and such. Growing up throughout my life, I've heard it all, and as I grow older, the more grating and irritating they sound. It vexes me to even hear such platitudes and filth being thrown around as if they were gospel or some sort of axiom. I just try to ignore the people IRL who spew such things and go about my day though I will admit there are times where I genuinely get disgusted by such inane statements that common everyday people use..

 

[AngelTear]

"Just be happy" "happiness is a choice" etc etc. things like that used to piss me off. I'm so numbed out now I could care less what anyone says.

I feel like hearing that would just turn me violent cuz what the fuck

 

[copioushopelessness]

This person is on disability for ptsd. I'm not downplaying pstd. I have complex ptsd but that would be like me saying you choose to be traumatized. Im on disability for physical health reasons. They complain their spouse hasn't worked in all the years they have known them but they don't work either.
No wonder why no one takes disability seriously, even the disabled crap on eachother and call it "tough love" ...
If tough love worked we would all feel so loved.

Oh yes, the many platitudes spewed by the masses and everyday people, especially all the platitudes and such. Growing up throughout my life, I've heard it all, and as I grow older, the more grating and irritating they sound. It vexes me to even hear such platitudes and filth being thrown around as if they were gospel or some sort of axiom. I just try to ignore the people IRL who spew such things and go about my day though I will admit there are times where I genuinely get disgusted by such inane statements that common everyday people use..

Seriously, it's not only obnoxious it's dimissive to the point of cruelty.

Oh yes, the many platitudes spewed by the masses and everyday people, especially all the platitudes and such. Growing up throughout my life, I've heard it all, and as I grow older, the more grating and irritating they sound. It vexes me to even hear such platitudes and filth being thrown around as if they were gospel or some sort of axiom. I just try to ignore the people IRL who spew such things and go about my day though I will admit there are times where I genuinely get disgusted by such inane statements that common everyday people use..

Platitudes are bad enough but it's platitudes one minute, attacking me the next, and back around again.
What do I need to take responsibility for? I've already blamed myself for things that were and weren't my fault. I hate "playing victim", but you know who blames themselves, victims.
I wish these projectors would take their own meaningless advice. Miserable people telling other miserable people It's their fault.
"NO EXCUSES" excuses for what... I am in excruciating pain I've been rapidly declining this past year. I've been strong for 20 years now.
We all die and unless it's sudden and tragic these people who've shit on me for being sick are going to get sick.
Or "it could be worse" that's like saying you lost one leg but at least you didn't lose both, while still being in a wheelchair.

 

[littlecutecorpse]

holy shit, that reminds me. i had a 'friend' who i'd talk to all the time because i thought i could relate to her. she always went on about how miserable she was, wanting to die, and was actively self-harming. but funny enough when i make an attempt and she found out she reported ME which got me HOSPITALIZED for the first time ever. then when i came back she had the audacity to call me "selfish" for trying to ctb. nowadays she just shames me for sh even though she still self-harms to this day and gets upset if i bring up suicide....while she still mopes and jokes about wanting to die. pisses me off

i'm sorry to hear what's happened, really. it's a shame there are too many senseless people out in the world who have no idea of the suffering we go through everyday.... sending hugs