Discussion Should You Tell Online Friends You Are Gonna Die?

[OutOfThisBody]

I was friends with this person but then I moved and so we kind of drifted apart but we dm online once every couple of weeks or so.

If I dont tell them im dieing I just wont respond to their message ever and theyll never know why. But if I do it could make them sad, and for the former option they could just assume I wanted to stop being friends or something.

Which is the best?

 

[nattys5thtoenail]

For me just tell them individually how much you enjoy their precense and how you appreciated them being there for you without outright saying you're going to die.

It's a much better send off, they honestly don't need to know.

 

[saturn1402]

what I have been doing is opening a bit up about my mental health so my death won't come as a crazy shock for them. But at the same time I am leaving nice messages to them now and then on how much they mean to me. In a natural and non dramatic way ideally so they won't suspect it's your goodbye message.

Sending you hugs

 

[DeadNotSleeping]

Yeah I agree with what Natty said. You don't have to go into specifics or anything. Just telling them how much they meant to you is good enough. If they read into it and assume the worst then at that point it's kinda on them I guess? Idk. Either way they're going to be hurt there really isn't a way to mitigate that.

 

[3/4Dead]

I think what the other two folks have said is a good approach. Been deciding how I'll do it, if I'll send them (one person lol I have like three friends total) a formal message saying I'm dead, that I've appreciated them etc. etc. or if I'll just kinda leave it up in the air after telling them I love them or smthn and then dissapear. Feels shitty for me to do the latter but it's totally situational i think

 

[Unspoken7612]

I have left instructions for my family on how to contact people. This seems especially important for my D&D group.

 

[cait_sith]

If I had online friends I would make something up why I can't message them anymore so they don't feel bad.

 

[TAW122]

I don't think it is a good idea, especially if they have a way to potentially finding out identifiable information about you and use it to alert the authorities, which would jeopardize your attempt or if you end up failing an attempt and then having to experience the fallout and aftermath, it's not gonna be pleasant at all.. However, it is ultimately up to each individual, their circumstances, and how comfortable one is to reveal all that information. For me, I believe that once I go on a hiatus, there might be some people who may contact me once in a blue moon, but beyond that not much. After all, to them, no news is good news and ignorance is bliss (meaning that when they have no knowledge of something bad, they assume everything is well unless known otherwise or proven otherwise).