Should I tell my new friend I'm going to vanish soon?

[Scythe]

Against my better judgement, I have acquired a new connection. I should've told them from the get-go that this is going to be short-lived but I didn't. However, I can still make it up(?)

Firstly, they won't be finding out I'm gonna die, I'm not telling them that. I'm thinking of telling them I'm cutting everyone off from the same community when I leave the community. And that this is a habit of mine or smth. I'm debating on when, it's been eating away at me so I'm here looking for advice.

Either I tell them now or tell them a few month before I die. I'm also open to better reasons for cutting them off.

 

[skyisblue]

I've also wondered if I too should let my friends know at least something before I CTB, but I've decided not to because i don't see how it could benefit them. Plus I'd be embarrassed if I ended up living and no one cared.

I'm thinking of telling them I'm cutting everyone off from the same community when I leave the community. And that this is a habit of mine or smth. I'm debating on when, it's been eating away at me so I'm here looking for advice.

Why do you think it'd be better lying though? I think if my friend was suffering, I'd want to know the truth of the situation rather than an excuse for your disappearance. I think you should attempt to communicate with your friends what it is you are going through. You should try to be open with your friend now, you never know how much their words can change your perspective.

 

[monotine]

I've been thinking about the same thing but I think it's going to do them more harm than good

 

[Scythe]

Why do you think it'd be better lying though? I think if my friend was suffering, I'd want to know the truth of the situation rather than an excuse for your disappearance. I think you should attempt to communicate with your friends what it is you are going through. You should try to be open with your friend now, you never know how much their words can change your perspective.

Humans seem to feel better when someone leaves for reasons instead of someone dies. Even though the end result is the same.
I also just met this guy, and I'm probably never going to tell them of my plans.
I chose to let them know because we just met and they can leave before they get attached, if they stay then they will also have the mental prep that I'm going to disappear.

I've been thinking about the same thing but I think it's going to do them more harm than good

In the end it'll hurt no matter what you do, that's how it is. Matter of prespective and I think depends on the person whether telling them beforehand is better or worse.