Sexually harassed at a party

[dogdrool]

I'd mark this as NSFW but it's gonna be pretty vague.

One of my best friends and I were drinking on Saturday at a house party with some people from our university, most people were strangers so we were (or I was) sort of depending on eachother to look out for one another, which is… pretty standard.

He literally wouldn't stop harassing me all night. Whispering really gross things to me and trying to kiss me. It wasn't just me either, other people too. I had to babysit him all night. We got there at 9.30 and he was fucking stumbling by 10.

I had to round up accounts from peoples friends about what he'd done and given him a list of people he had to apologise to. Not to mention he was so drunk we had to call an ambulance.
He's genuinely lucky this was a relatively safe house party with a lot of kind people, but I can't see him the same after this.

I was drunk too (though obviously not as much as him). We were supposed to be looking out for EACHOTHER. I wasn't there to babysit. I was the only one there who knew the information the ambulance needed to treat him.

I don't have a lot of friends, he's one of two, so this is just really shit. He's apologised but he's pretty much just blaming it on the alcohol.

Not to mention I'm dealing with everything ontop of this and the fact I have to replace my broken laptop. I don't have hundreds of pounds for this shit or the mental energy for any of it.

 

[lpdsvm]

Hard to advise but it could be best to stop being best friends.
Just go and relax at a neutral place. Find new people to talk to. Not necessarily real friends but just some people to get distracted from that unfortunate event.
Block/ignore maybe and be neutral and nice if you meet him again. Just show your new boundaries nicely.
I have been in dumb friendships. Luckily I left that place and don't even text with them.

 

[Always-in-trouble]

I'd mark this as NSFW but it's gonna be pretty vague.

One of my best friends and I were drinking on Saturday at a house party with some people from our university, most people were strangers so we were (or I was) sort of depending on eachother to look out for one another, which is… pretty standard.

He literally wouldn't stop harassing me all night. Whispering really gross things to me and trying to kiss me. It wasn't just me either, other people too. I had to babysit him all night. We got there at 9.30 and he was fucking stumbling by 10.

I had to round up accounts from peoples friends about what he'd done and given him a list of people he had to apologise to. Not to mention he was so drunk we had to call an ambulance.
He's genuinely lucky this was a relatively safe house party with a lot of kind people, but I can't see him the same after this.

I was drunk too (though obviously not as much as him). We were supposed to be looking out for EACHOTHER. I wasn't there to babysit. I was the only one there who knew the information the ambulance needed to treat him.

I don't have a lot of friends, he's one of two, so this is just really shit. He's apologised but he's pretty much just blaming it on the alcohol.

Not to mention I'm dealing with everything ontop of this and the fact I have to replace my broken laptop. I don't have hundreds of pounds for this shit or the mental energy for any of it.

That Could have been a lot worse and violent if people were not there. Why is he brushing it off like this? Especially if he knows he has an addiction that leads into this behaviour.

 

[Alpacachino]

If he doesn't stop drinking then don't be friends with him anymore. I too was behaving like an idiot when drunk, but I stopped drinking since I didn't want to be that way .


That's the problem with alcohol. It dumbs you down and makes you act stupid.