Postponed. Try to stop spazzing.

[Flippy]

People can be such arseholes! I've had similar experiences. I'm male, but I've found people quite often male colleagues start pretty quickly trying to undermine me. I never raise my voice or go crazy at people. I always present as calm and I think this only serves to wind them up even more. I've had people explode into massive tantrums and diatribes, screaming and shouting at me. I have concluded that I just give off the signals that make them think that there won't be any comeback, so they can behave in disgraceful ways knowing I won't respond in kind. Perhaps the same thing is happening to you? They just don't think there will be any consequences.

 

[Defenestrator]

People can be such arseholes! I've had similar experiences. I'm male, but I've found people quite often male colleagues start pretty quickly trying to undermine me. I never raise my voice or go crazy at people. I always present as calm and I think this only serves to wind them up even more. I've had people explode into massive tantrums and diatribes, screaming and shouting at me. I have concluded that I just give off the signals that make them think that there won't be any comeback, so they can behave in disgraceful ways knowing I won't respond in kind. Perhaps the same thing is happening to you? They just don't think there will be any consequences.

Normally it doesn't bother me, I've gotten kind of used to it - recently it's just become much more difficult for me to cope with though. I've heard it described as being a snail without a shell.

 

[Flippy]

I managed to rise above it most of the time too. Eventually though there comes a point where it exhausts you. No-one should have to absorb the abuse of other people like that. I'm not surprised you don't have the energy to keep dealing with it. They certainly wouldn't!

 

[Defenestrator]

I managed to rise above it most of the time too. Eventually though there comes a point where it exhausts you. No-one should have to absorb the abuse of other people like that. I'm not surprised you don't have the energy to keep dealing with it. They certainly wouldn't!

I think people like that are just nasty by default to be honest. I've met a lot of nice people, more so than horrible people, so I don't want to make it sound like it's majorly common. But in any situation where there are a number of people (like at work or university/school) you are statistically more likely to meet arseholes, but it goes both ways fortunately.

 

[ctbUniquectb]

Still waiting for rebuttal .

@Jean4