online gf blocked me because of bpd

[KitSych]

we were planning to meet irl until I insulted her out of nowhere in a conversation. I tried to explain and apologize, but she blocked me.
a year has passed and I still remember her, because I still have no one else in my life and she's a suicidal loner too.

should i try to text her again? i have no friends, purpose in life and don't want to spend another year in miserable loneliness until I become old.

 

[itsgone2]

Try it. You may still be blocked. Doesn't hurt to try though

 

[martyrdom]

should i try to text her again? i have no friends, purpose in life and don't want to spend another year in miserable loneliness until I become old.

No. Blocking you is setting boundaries. Don't try to violate her boundaries. If she wants to reach out, she will, but if she hasn't, she doesn't. It's best to move on from her.

 

[Lady_V]

If she's a suicidal loner too, the last thing she needs in her life is a verbally abusive bf who insults her when he gets upset.

 

[martyrdom]

If she's a suicidal loner too, the last thing she needs in her life is a verbally abusive bf who insults her when he gets upset.

Especially if he goes on to try and circumvent a block and hover over her. That kind of thing makes you feel trapped, suffocated and like you can never escape.

 

[Lost Impact]

sometimes it's better to just leave people alone when you've already cut each other off. if she wanted you to contact her again, she'd probably let you know.

 

[Alpacachino]

we were planning to meet irl until I insulted her out of nowhere in a conversation. I tried to explain and apologize, but she blocked me.
a year has passed and I still remember her, because I still have no one else in my life and she's a suicidal loner too.

should i try to text her again? i have no friends, purpose in life and don't want to spend another year in miserable loneliness until I become old.

Create a nice big heartfelt apology message.Send it to her.

This happened to me as well. Although I didn't really say anything too bad.The other person was a bit of a drama queen . We weren't dating, we were just friends. But good friends. Anyway, I apologized. And now we continue to be friends. She sent me a friend request again.Sometimes you just need to let go of your ego and reach out. But just do it once and then let it go once and for all of she doesn't reciprocate.Go for it dude,I'm rooting for you.

 

[Jumpingisnotacrime]

we were planning to meet irl until I insulted her out of nowhere in a conversation. I tried to explain and apologize, but she blocked me.
a year has passed and I still remember her, because I still have no one else in my life and she's a suicidal loner too.

should i try to text her again? i have no friends, purpose in life and don't want to spend another year in miserable loneliness until I become old.

I HATE when ppl block me but you can try again! maybe try another number but write a paragraph about you feeling

 

[shiny_quill]

BPD doesn't make you insult people out of nowhere, that's all you, and while the emotional imbalance that caused the outburst was out of your control, whatever you said to her was still you, not your disorder, those were your words that hurt her. She didn't break up with you because of BPD, she broke up with you because you insulted her. She didn't block you because you have BPD either, she blocked you to set boundaries, and if you cross them, you're only letting her know that she made the right choice getting away from you, because you do not respect her. I know it's tempting to try and reach back, but you'll just end up hurting both of you, it's not worth it.

 

[-Link-]

online gf blocked me because of bpd

She didn't block you because of BPD; she blocked you because of how she felt in response to your behaviour. Regardless of how this situation played out or how any specific situation plays out (be it in the past or in the future), the presence of a general deferral of responsibility as alluded to in the topic title would contribute to a toxic vibe in the whole of any relationship.

This, you can work towards improving upon.

But first, I think you'd be well-advised to remove any and all reminders of this person from your life. Leave no trace of her in your life. Nothing. If you're still attached to her even a year removed from last contact, then this, I think, is the only path forward here. Anything else, you're just tormenting yourself.

You met a girlfriend online before. You can do it again. Eliminate all reminders of your ex and focus on other aspects of your life, including meeting new people.

In the meantime, about this "...because of BPD" mindset: Obviously, borderline personality disorder manifests itself in ways that, left unchecked, can have a detrimental effect on relationships. But part of managing this involves owning your own behaviour and accounting for your wrongdoings by apologizing (sans excuses), acknowledging responsibility, offering to make amends, stating what you'll do differently in the future, and then following through on that commitment with meaningful effort to do better.

Improve upon this mindset, keep learning and practicing coping mechanisms for managing BPD in general, take steps to meet new people, and something better will soon follow. There is no question that you do have this in you -- somewhere.

 

[landmine]

ultimately, if someone blocks you.. it's best to leave things as is and move on.
they chose to block you after all. the only thing to do is to self improve yourself! I say that as someone with bpd too.
I never mean to hurt others, but I'm always sorry and learn from that.

 

[NearlyIrrelevantCake]

She made her choice, leave her the fuck alone.