Not ready for therapy. What to do?

[JustHeckinKillMe]

I'm too depressed to open up. In my honest opinion I don't think any therapist can help me get better. I'm thinking of taking a 1 month break and not doing anything, then if I'm ready and if my therapist didn't drop me, I'd go see him. Anyone in a similar situation?

 

[fedupsoul]

I've never been to a therapist before and I'm not comfortable with the idea of therapy but may I ask what makes you feel so depressed just to see if we have any reasons in common ? I'm sorry I don't mean to invade your personal space you can not answer if you don't feel like

 

[JustHeckinKillMe]

I've never been to a therapist before and I'm not comfortable with the idea of therapy but may I ask what makes you feel so depressed just to see if we have any reasons in common ? I'm sorry I don't mean to invade your personal space you can not answer if you don't feel like

My mother emotionally and mentally abused me my whole life and that left me crippled with depression and social anxiety and suicide ideation (=can't keep a job) + existential crisis.

 

[seventeenangels444]

The one month break seems like a good idea and if its a good therapist he should not drop you.
additionally if hes a good therapist, you can decide on how therapy should look like, meaning you do not have to open up right away. You could for example talk about a hobby, what you did this month or discuss any kind of topic you may want to.
My therapist also cooks with his patients. I on the other hand also like discussing if karma exists or religion.
Though I have a very young and "modern" therapist, I've met some pretty shitty ones too.

In the end you have to decide if you want to talk with someone regurarely. I like talking with someone every week, makes me feel kind of lighter and the person is not someone close too you, making it easier for them not to judge you or get way too emotional.

 

[Sherri]

I'm too depressed to open up. In my honest opinion I don't think any therapist can help me get better. I'm thinking of taking a 1 month break and not doing anything, then if I'm ready and if my therapist didn't drop me, I'd go see him. Anyone in a similar situation?

Do you have a good friend you can open up on what and how you feel inside?

 

[JustHeckinKillMe]

Do you have a good friend you can open up on what and how you feel inside?

I do but I don't wanna bother them. I'm actually isolating and been ignoring everyone I know because I hate my depressed self right now and I feel like a burden and very negative

 

[Sherri]

I do but I don't wanna bother them. I'm actually isolating and been ignoring everyone I know because I hate my depressed self right now and I feel like a burden and very negative

Well a therapist is almost like a good friend you can talk to, don't think your friend would consider you a burden if he or she is a good friend. That would probably make you more open about seeing you in person. They are usually very friendly.

 

[fedupsoul]

I do but I don't wanna bother them. I'm actually isolating and been ignoring everyone I know because I hate my depressed self right now and I feel like a burden and very negative

I feel this site does more for me than a therapist might be able to do for me. But that's just my opinion...

 

[Sherri]

I feel this site does more for me than a therapist might be able to do for me. But that's just my opinion...

This site does help a lot, u can find a lot of support here. My Pm is open to you If you ever want to talk about anything ok?

 

[JustHeckinKillMe]

This site does help a lot, u can find a lot of support here. My Pm is open to you If you ever want to talk about anything ok?

Thank you !!!