Not being accepted in SS community

[palatinus]

WOW that would not be pretty. I would assume thats not your way to CTB then.

There's one for the "unconventional methods" threads!

 

[Jean4]

There's one for the "unconventional methods" threads!

Death by Jean's cooking?

 

[palatinus]

Death by Jean's cooking?

Haha! I'm an ollllld school lurker. I joined for the partners thread. Earlier today, someone was posting about a gathering with Thai food.

Could that poster be such a bad cook as the image?

 

[Oyoy]

Thank you.. that mean a lot. I don't have friends (ZERO) and I'm not in a lot of social groups..

But people can relate to me put me at ease... I love you for that thank you so much

Thank you for this topic. I have a hard time communicating on so many levels.

 

[Dreamless Sleep]

I can see why people feel this way. I'm guilty of it myself. I think when we are socially awkward or isolated and find this group, we maybe have some expectation of being welcomed with open arms here, and are disappointed when it doesn't happen.

I made the mistake of browsing profiles and got upset to see people with less posts than me with welcome posts and seeming to have established friendships already.... which of course made me feel like I was doing something wrong.

I had to step back and remind myself that my priority for being here is not to make friends or be popular. All I can do is be myself and post honestly, and if any friendly discussions come from that it's just gravy.

 

[ComingClose]

Maybe we all feel kind of 'left out' but, speaking only for myself, I think the onus is on me to be more sociable except .to be honest..I read most of the posts but don't really join in simply because I figure that if what I think, feel, say and do irl have no value to anyone, it probably won't be any different online so I mostly just read and try not to bug others. It's kind of like being the wallflower at a party. But thats just me, nothing to do with the conduct of anybody in the group, they all seem to be lovely:) And, if it takes you a while to find your feet here, there's always an empty chair next to me..

 

[Jumper Geo]

I can see why people feel this way. I'm guilty of it myself. I think when we are socially awkward or isolated and find this group, we maybe have some expectation of being welcomed with open arms here, and are disappointed when it doesn't happen.

I made the mistake of browsing profiles and got upset to see people with less posts than me with welcome posts and seeming to have established friendships already.... which of course made me feel like I was doing something wrong.

I had to step back and remind myself that my priority for being here is not to make friends or be popular. All I can do is be myself and post honestly, and if any friendly discussions come from that it's just gravy.

I must admit I have never joined a forum before so this was new to me but I never joined to be popular or find friends, but I did realise there are genuine people here trying to help others and will quite happily spend time with them trying to advise them, I found it really helpful on all the different method to ctb, I've made my choice.

I have made mistakes thinking I am giving sound advice and realised It had the opposite effect I'm not a therapist, so it was trial and error I will tone down my advise I give to people I start typing and get carried away, lol. Anyway after all the positive messages you've received I hope you are starting to feel better.

Cheers Geo

 

[Deleted member 1465]

* I had no idea where I was going with this post , and still not sure where it went lol ..

You have been hanging around with me too much

 

[262653]

Forum stats says there are currently 118 members online. Can you imagine that much people in a group? I wouldn't expect everyone here to like everyone else. And even then, our time, attention span and other resources are limited, so we can't spend quality time with everyone and have to set priorities in a way which allows us to spend more resources on people we like more.

And of course, by the time a new player kicks in, some of us might already have well established connections and priorities.

And sometimes you have to put in a backpack some parts of your personality to be accepted in some instances.

By expressing yourself you're also announcing your presence before lurkers (whose population here is unknown to me). Some of them might like your content and introduce themselves as I did a couple of times.

I'm just another random person among awesome and amazing people..

I think that it's normal for some people to be more liked/valued/appreciated than others. Just as someone who provides lots of valuable information concerning methods could be more welcomed than someone who comes here only to complain about life once in a while, or someone who mainly shits on others in hope of increasing one's own social status (but in a dumb way so everyone and their lil sis are aware of the bullshit; have to do it subtle).

Pushing the right buttons would make you (feel) accepted, maybe. Send virtual hugs, say that you're with them, care about them and you're here to talk, and how no one deserves bad things and everyone deserves good things... unless they're our enemies, of course.

Basically observe which comments gather a lot of likes and hope that your brain will spot some nice patterns which afterwards you try to mimic in a way that appears to be genuine. There you go, you are likable

 

[HelensNepenthe]

Normally I do not pay attention to the Recovery forum, as it does not pertain to me unless there is a thread that pops up that calls my attention; that never happens anyway. This thread in particular got my attention after hearing from other voices on the forum that he has engaged in emotional predatory behavior. This behavior is not new and was outlined in a prior thread of users asking for sexual favors in the past. I do not know the intentions of what this user wants on the forum, besides some valid opinion that people "care" about him -- for a lack of better words. This post rubs off that people are entitled to give him attention when in fact, he is an actual problem. If socializing was a problem for him, he wouldn't be asking users to rock his socks off. No matter the amount of posts that you've made about your BPD, BPD is not an excuse for this.

I've been going through several posts of his whenever he has posted, since he has given off unusual red flags. One in particular was when his ex broke up with him and he is wanting someone to make him "feel like new". There are a few forum posts of his wanting to offer comfort to identified women on the forum, or show feminine attributes in their name, avatar, or writing styles. In addition to following only women on the forum and seeking their attention.

We are all free bodies who are on an emotional board contemplating whether our bus is coming or not. I cannot personally tell you to not engage with him, or anyone for that matter. When you're on this forum, you are prey to predators who know how sensitive you are emotionally, because you are in a weakened state emotionally. It isn't necessary to beat a dead horse why we're on here, anyway.

Stay safe. Practice safe OPSEC and don't guide yourself into a trap for someone who is looking for some casual encounter. Be aware of red flags. There is something unusual about this user and him thinking people owe him attention.

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I have nothing further to comment on. Please do not solicit a PM to me asking for more context. It's awfully shitty to do that anyway when it contains sources.This isn't my issue but is an issue among a few forum members who do not want to be vocal.

 

[Epsilon0]

Normally I do not pay attention to the Recovery forum, as it does not pertain to me unless there is a thread that pops up that calls my attention; that never happens anyway. This thread in particular got my attention after hearing from other voices on the forum that he has engaged in emotional predatory behavior. This behavior is not new and was outlined in a prior thread of users asking for sexual favors in the past. I do not know the intentions of what this user wants on the forum, besides some valid opinion that people "care" about him -- for a lack of better words. This post rubs off that people are entitled to give him attention when in fact, he is an actual problem. If socializing was a problem for him, he wouldn't be asking users to rock his socks off. No matter the amount of posts that you've made about your BPD, BPD is not an excuse for this.

I've been going through several posts of his whenever he has posted, since he has given off unusual red flags. One in particular was when his ex broke up with him and he is wanting someone to make him "feel like new". There are a few forum posts of his wanting to offer comfort to identified women on the forum, or show feminine attributes in their name, avatar, or writing styles. In addition to following only women on the forum and seeking their attention.

We are all free bodies who are on an emotional board contemplating whether our bus is coming or not. I cannot personally tell you to not engage with him, or anyone for that matter. When you're on this forum, you are prey to predators who know how sensitive you are emotionally, because you are in a weakened state emotionally. It isn't necessary to beat a dead horse why we're on here, anyway.

Stay safe. Practice safe OPSEC and don't guide yourself into a trap for someone who is looking for some casual encounter. Be aware of red flags. There is something unusual about this user and him thinking people owe him attention.

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I have nothing further to comment on. Please do not solicit a PM to me asking for more context. It's awfully shitty to do that anyway when it contains sources.This isn't my issue but is an issue among a few forum members who do not want to be vocal.

My misanthropy just went up by a factor of 1000. It makes me sick to my stomach to read your post.

Thank you for reminding me of how easy it is to forget not everyone has good intentions.

 

[Rome Horseman]

Normally I do not pay attention to the Recovery forum, as it does not pertain to me unless there is a thread that pops up that calls my attention; that never happens anyway. This thread in particular got my attention after hearing from other voices on the forum that he has engaged in emotional predatory behavior. This behavior is not new and was outlined in a prior thread of users asking for sexual favors in the past. I do not know the intentions of what this user wants on the forum, besides some valid opinion that people "care" about him -- for a lack of better words. This post rubs off that people are entitled to give him attention when in fact, he is an actual problem. If socializing was a problem for him, he wouldn't be asking users to rock his socks off. No matter the amount of posts that you've made about your BPD, BPD is not an excuse for this.

I've been going through several posts of his whenever he has posted, since he has given off unusual red flags. One in particular was when his ex broke up with him and he is wanting someone to make him "feel like new". There are a few forum posts of his wanting to offer comfort to identified women on the forum, or show feminine attributes in their name, avatar, or writing styles. In addition to following only women on the forum and seeking their attention.

We are all free bodies who are on an emotional board contemplating whether our bus is coming or not. I cannot personally tell you to not engage with him, or anyone for that matter. When you're on this forum, you are prey to predators who know how sensitive you are emotionally, because you are in a weakened state emotionally. It isn't necessary to beat a dead horse why we're on here, anyway.

Stay safe. Practice safe OPSEC and don't guide yourself into a trap for someone who is looking for some casual encounter. Be aware of red flags. There is something unusual about this user and him thinking people owe him attention.

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I have nothing further to comment on. Please do not solicit a PM to me asking for more context. It's awfully shitty to do that anyway when it contains sources.This isn't my issue but is an issue among a few forum members who do not want to be vocal.

So you think I'm I have bad intentions?


You don't know me or what I deal with!

One thing for sure I'm not trying to use anyone or hurt anybody.. I make mistakes but it's not to hurt anyone! Not on purpose, I'm in DBT working on myself taking meds and going to therapy trying to better myself!! Throw someone under the bus because you don't like I said in the past is evil! I not trying to hurt you nor anyone else dude you trying to make me look bad is so wrong when I just trying to state how I feel!

Normally I do not pay attention to the Recovery forum, as it does not pertain to me unless there is a thread that pops up that calls my attention; that never happens anyway. This thread in particular got my attention after hearing from other voices on the forum that he has engaged in emotional predatory behavior. This behavior is not new and was outlined in a prior thread of users asking for sexual favors in the past. I do not know the intentions of what this user wants on the forum, besides some valid opinion that people "care" about him -- for a lack of better words. This post rubs off that people are entitled to give him attention when in fact, he is an actual problem. If socializing was a problem for him, he wouldn't be asking users to rock his socks off. No matter the amount of posts that you've made about your BPD, BPD is not an excuse for this.

I've been going through several posts of his whenever he has posted, since he has given off unusual red flags. One in particular was when his ex broke up with him and he is wanting someone to make him "feel like new". There are a few forum posts of his wanting to offer comfort to identified women on the forum, or show feminine attributes in their name, avatar, or writing styles. In addition to following only women on the forum and seeking their attention.

We are all free bodies who are on an emotional board contemplating whether our bus is coming or not. I cannot personally tell you to not engage with him, or anyone for that matter. When you're on this forum, you are prey to predators who know how sensitive you are emotionally, because you are in a weakened state emotionally. It isn't necessary to beat a dead horse why we're on here, anyway.

Stay safe. Practice safe OPSEC and don't guide yourself into a trap for someone who is looking for some casual encounter. Be aware of red flags. There is something unusual about this user and him thinking people owe him attention.

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I have nothing further to comment on. Please do not solicit a PM to me asking for more context. It's awfully shitty to do that anyway when it contains sources.This isn't my issue but is an issue among a few forum members who do not want to be vocal.

Like are you trying to drive me into ctb or something.. what you post is really triggering!

 

[Mr2005]

Normally I do not pay attention to the Recovery forum, as it does not pertain to me unless there is a thread that pops up that calls my attention; that never happens anyway. This thread in particular got my attention after hearing from other voices on the forum that he has engaged in emotional predatory behavior. This behavior is not new and was outlined in a prior thread of users asking for sexual favors in the past. I do not know the intentions of what this user wants on the forum, besides some valid opinion that people "care" about him -- for a lack of better words. This post rubs off that people are entitled to give him attention when in fact, he is an actual problem. If socializing was a problem for him, he wouldn't be asking users to rock his socks off. No matter the amount of posts that you've made about your BPD, BPD is not an excuse for this.

I've been going through several posts of his whenever he has posted, since he has given off unusual red flags. One in particular was when his ex broke up with him and he is wanting someone to make him "feel like new". There are a few forum posts of his wanting to offer comfort to identified women on the forum, or show feminine attributes in their name, avatar, or writing styles. In addition to following only women on the forum and seeking their attention.

We are all free bodies who are on an emotional board contemplating whether our bus is coming or not. I cannot personally tell you to not engage with him, or anyone for that matter. When you're on this forum, you are prey to predators who know how sensitive you are emotionally, because you are in a weakened state emotionally. It isn't necessary to beat a dead horse why we're on here, anyway.

Stay safe. Practice safe OPSEC and don't guide yourself into a trap for someone who is looking for some casual encounter. Be aware of red flags. There is something unusual about this user and him thinking people owe him attention.

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I have nothing further to comment on. Please do not solicit a PM to me asking for more context. It's awfully shitty to do that anyway when it contains sources.This isn't my issue but is an issue among a few forum members who do not want to be vocal.

I remember you saying this. I didn't think you meant about them. If having sexual desire is a crime I think we're all guilty. There's a lot of loneliness here so I'm giving them benefit of the doubt they didn't just come here for entertainment. Plus they were nice to me so it would be nice to believe that's possible. You must be quite certain because otherwise what you said is just confirming everything they said

 

[Oyoy]

I don't understand judging people's sincerity when it comes to pain. Why are some manipulative and others are deserving of support?

 

[HelensNepenthe]

So you think I'm I have bad intentions?


You don't know me or what I deal with!

One thing for sure I'm not trying to use anyone or hurt anybody.. I make mistakes but it's not to hurt anyone! Not on purpose, I'm in DBT working on myself taking meds and going to therapy trying to better myself!! Throw someone under the bus because you don't like I said in the past is evil! I not trying to hurt you nor anyone else dude you trying to make me look bad is so wrong when I just trying to state how I feel!




Like are you trying to drive me into ctb or something.. what you post is really triggering!

You don't owe me any reply. You owe the forum members you've wrote trying to stop people from punching their ticket in and wanting to fuck. Don't tell me you're denying this when I received conversation logs about this.

It's disgusting behavior. Please don't ever try to excuse this toxic, selfish, and disgusting behavior by saying you're going to therapy. Suddenly by commenting that you're in therapy does not stop the harm you put upon that person. You do not know who is behind the screen. How do you know if asking someone to fuck is emotionally triggering to them because of their past? You don't. Yet you insisted on doing it anyway for your own benefit.

And if anyone is pushing yourself to CTB, it isn't me or anyone. That's entirely something you have control for — and your actions as well. Don't put any of that self pity on me because I have no time for it. These are exact signs of emotional predatory behavior. When you don't even acknowledge the unsolicited "do you want to fuck" comments you sent to people.

I don't have to know what you're going through or you know what I'm going through to acknowledge that comments made towards those members is disgusting. One member wanted to acknowledge this thread because they thought that they were the reason behind this thread.

 

[APharmaDestroyedLife]

I think everyone here feels that way to an extent... Its part of why a lot of us are here. None of us fit in, so we all fit in together , even if we dont feel like it.

 

[BlackPoppet]

Death by Jean's cooking?
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Lol! Great gif.....I'm sure Jean is a great cook!

 

[Rome Horseman]

You don't owe me any reply. You owe the forum members you've wrote trying to stop people from punching their ticket in and wanting to fuck. Don't tell me you're denying this when I received conversation logs about this.

It's disgusting behavior. Please don't ever try to excuse this toxic, selfish, and disgusting behavior by saying you're going to therapy.

And if anyone is pushing yourself to CTB, it isn't me or anyone. That's entirely something you have control for — and your actions as well. Don't put any of that self pity on me because I have no time for it.

I asked only one person.. ik I'm toxic that's why I'm trying to get help! Dude the freak! Why would you put something I did once out like that it's not like I asked every female on to forums about it! I came back to the forums to tell people I'm getting better but you really triggered me! So much omfg! I know I'm a random person on the internet to you but omg! You're very harsh!!! I'm sorry I asked once! I'm sorry but made me seem like a freaking monster! Omfg, you can delete this thread I will leave this Forums as well just like you want.. I'm sorry for existing! I already apologized to the female I asked when she rejected me so the "people" you want me to apologise to is already done!!








Omfg you're freaking evil!


Can't don't one thing without looking like a dick! And I can't even be accepted in a suicide forum wtf..


I wish I can show you how much you hurt me! Again I know I don't dumb shit why do you think I'm in a FUCKING SUICIDE FORUM!


OMG

You don't owe me any reply. You owe the forum members you've wrote trying to stop people from punching their ticket in and wanting to fuck. Don't tell me you're denying this when I received conversation logs about this.

It's disgusting behavior. Please don't ever try to excuse this toxic, selfish, and disgusting behavior by saying you're going to therapy. Suddenly by commenting that you're in therapy does not stop the harm you put upon that person. You do not know who is behind the screen. How do you know if asking someone to fuck is emotionally triggering to them because of their past? You don't. Yet you insisted on doing it anyway for your own benefit.

And if anyone is pushing yourself to CTB, it isn't me or anyone. That's entirely something you have control for — and your actions as well. Don't put any of that self pity on me because I have no time for it. These are exact signs of emotional predatory behavior. When you don't even acknowledge the unsolicited "do you want to fuck" comments you sent to people.

I don't have to know what you're going through or you know what I'm going through to acknowledge that comments made towards those members is disgusting. One member wanted to acknowledge this thread because they thought that they were the reason behind this thread.

Dude... You really crushed my mood,




IK YOU DONT KNOW IK

IK
IK !!

I'm just some random fucker on the internet.. but damn you're one heartless person...

I'm glad you want to live but you're ways are harsh as hell.. very very harsh.. I can't even thing straight after all the things you're saying! Why are you doing this dude?! WTF WHY TRIGGER ME WHEN IM DOING SO MUCH BETTER!!

DUCKING CRYING OVER HERE..


AND IK YOU DONT CARE


DAMN IT.. I just have to leave this Forums.. I feel bad if a person with a mental condition do something you don't like in front of you.

 

[Oyoy]

#hetoo

 

[Rome Horseman]

As Joan Jett says.. I don't give a damn about my bad reputation...


Well I shouldn't but if I have people that wants to point out my faults, I guess this is another place that rejects me..


And the person I asked to sleep with.. I want to apologise again for asking since this jerk wants to public *sighs*

 

[one4all]

Well I shouldn't but if I have people that wants to point out my faults, I guess this is another place that rejects me..

Sorry to chime in. Just my opinion though. Someone "pointing out your faults", whether it's true or not. Doesn't mean you are rejected for the community. Anyone can correct me if my thoughts are in correct

 

[the box is empty]

I don't understand judging people's sincerity when it comes to pain. Why are some manipulative and others are deserving of support?

That reminded me of a buddhist quote that went something like "Drowning in 20 feet of water is the same as drowning in 6 feet of water." It had to do with the idea that suffering was subjective and that you can't really compare pain.

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

Normally I do not pay attention to the Recovery forum, as it does not pertain to me unless there is a thread that pops up that calls my attention; that never happens anyway. This thread in particular got my attention after hearing from other voices on the forum that he has engaged in emotional predatory behavior. This behavior is not new and was outlined in a prior thread of users asking for sexual favors in the past. I do not know the intentions of what this user wants on the forum, besides some valid opinion that people "care" about him -- for a lack of better words. This post rubs off that people are entitled to give him attention when in fact, he is an actual problem. If socializing was a problem for him, he wouldn't be asking users to rock his socks off. No matter the amount of posts that you've made about your BPD, BPD is not an excuse for this.

I've been going through several posts of his whenever he has posted, since he has given off unusual red flags. One in particular was when his ex broke up with him and he is wanting someone to make him "feel like new". There are a few forum posts of his wanting to offer comfort to identified women on the forum, or show feminine attributes in their name, avatar, or writing styles. In addition to following only women on the forum and seeking their attention.

We are all free bodies who are on an emotional board contemplating whether our bus is coming or not. I cannot personally tell you to not engage with him, or anyone for that matter. When you're on this forum, you are prey to predators who know how sensitive you are emotionally, because you are in a weakened state emotionally. It isn't necessary to beat a dead horse why we're on here, anyway.

Stay safe. Practice safe OPSEC and don't guide yourself into a trap for someone who is looking for some casual encounter. Be aware of red flags. There is something unusual about this user and him thinking people owe him attention.

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I have nothing further to comment on. Please do not solicit a PM to me asking for more context. It's awfully shitty to do that anyway when it contains sources.This isn't my issue but is an issue among a few forum members who do not want to be vocal.

Much respect and gratitude to @HelensNepenthe for calling out. I will gladly provide a link to one such post as I have been keeping my eye on the OP since.

https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/people-reading-you.32367/

Specific text:

I'm feeling really down! My ex came over, my little brothers, and my roomie..

I was trying to have fun but my brothers no one else was here, but they knew something was wrong and asked me if I'm okay.. I tried to hide it but they knew.. When my little brother was playing videogames my ex and I had sex, she came and I did as well.. I well feeling a bit better then my annoying as roomie came home.. I decided to leave and get some alcohol (driving wreckless). When I made it home I took 10 shots and laid in the grass.. I'm not good at hiding how I feel


OMG! I'M SO SAD!!!!

I responded on that thread, to which I received no reply or react: Hmmm, seems the point of this thread is to announce there's at least one good thing you're hiding. I meant to say good at hiding, but oh well, it was an off day for me.



There is some potential validity to what @Mr2005 says, at least in the first sentence: If having sexual desire is a crime I think we're all guilty. There's a lot of loneliness here so I'm giving them benefit of the doubt they didn't just come here for entertainment.

Sexual desire is not a crime. But as a male, it's a lot easier for you to give the benefit of the doubt to a homeboy because you are not a target.

I noticed when this thread was posted, another appeal for pity/empathy/compassion. Has he taken the compassionate advice and engaged in the forum to combat his loneliness and separateness? See his posting history for the answer. You might want to wear earplugs, the crickets were pretty loud last time I checked.

Then when he gets called out, straight from the playa handbook: you don't know me, I'm suffering, you're going to push me to ctb. See the Manipulation Tactics thread in Off Topic if you're unclear about how manipulators identify targets (post 5, high empathy and ethics are two such identifiers), and for tactics used to discredit and turn things around on those who defend themselves (playing the victim, villifying the victim, rationalization, minimization, brandishing anger, etc.).

IMO, everyone who read the OP on this thread was an intended target for manipulation and a potential tool to be his flying monkey or his puppet and assist him in achieving whatever it is he truly seeks. All that pity and love sows seeds of doubt for the ultimate intended targets.

If he claims my words will push him to ctb, guess what? I am not responsible for how he reacts to stress in his life, and such a threat is abusive. He might as well sob, Why do you make me hit you???

I don't have to put a label on him, only on his behavior: manipulative. I don't have to know his goals, only recognize his behavior, and repeated behavior is the best indicator of character and intentions. Personally, I think his intentions were clearly stated if somewhat, ahem, buried in the post I quoted: to play hide the bone.

Peace to all, including the OP. I don't hate, but I don't play, either. I'm not doing anyone, including the OP, any favors by being quiet.

 

[Rome Horseman]

So what my ex gf had sex with me! That makes me a bad person?! Who freaking cares! Why heck does that matter and how am I being manipulative?!

I don't get what I did wrong! I see now I'm really am a white belt at talking.. I don't even know what I did! Or how I am the bad guy!


I will leave


I'm looking how to delete my account

 

[one4all]

 

[Beautiful_Disgrace]

I know how you feel. I often lose the motivation to attempt to talk to people and build connections and relationships early on. I just feel like people will leave me even if I do manage to make friends. Every time I find someone new to talk to it always ends up with them leaving and me feeling worse than before. But I'm trying to push through those feelings because I'm so tired of feeling alone. Hopefully we can find a place to belong here. :)

Edit: Big yikes...just caught up on the thread.

 

[Jean4]

I know how you feel. I often lose the motivation to attempt to talk to people and build connections and relationships early on. I just feel like people will leave me even if I do manage to make friends. Every time I find someone new to talk to it always ends up with them leaving and me feeling worse than before. But I'm trying to push through those feelings because I'm so tired of feeling alone. Hopefully we can find a place to belong here. :)

Welcome! I am always here if you need to talk or need a friend. The forum doesn't let me leave. You have a home here and are part of our family.

 

[one4all]

Welcome! I am always here if you need to talk or need a friend. The forum doesn't let me leave. You have a home here and are part of our family.

Isn't this a Jim Jones concept?

 

[Beautiful_Disgrace]

Welcome! I am always here if you need to talk or need a friend. The forum doesn't let me leave. You have a home here and are part of our family.

Thank you. I've found this place to be incredibly supportive even though I'm still a stranger. I look forward to talking with you and everyone else.

 

[Dear Flabby]

Keep posting and it may get better. I don't think you're unwelcome here.

Also I know it may be annoying to hear this, but to a certain extent your feelings may be all in your head and not a reflection of what people actually think of you. I'm guilty of this myself.

I sometimes wonder if some users on here get annoyed by me because I think I have a tendency of talking about myself too much. No one on here has actually said that to me so it could all be in my head, but I do think I could focus on other people more.

@waterbottleman @Rome Horseman , neither of you are annoying!
Both of you speak honestly about the things that led you here.
The tedious posts are when lazy people ask questions that are easily answered By Doing Research and Using The Search Function!!