Help never been to a hotel

[sevennn]

stupid quiestion. but i have so much social anxiety. can anyone tell me how a hotel stay usually is. from booking to getting there etc. thank you and can someone save you at a hotel. and ruin your suicide attempt? thanks

 

[ladylazarus4]

This is my experience in America as someone who's been to a lot of hotels. Airport hotels usually have a free shuttle to get to them but otherwise you have to drive. You park your car and walk into the doors at the front of the building. Go to the check in desk and you can either book your appointment there (which is risky because they might not have rooms available) or you can tell them you have a booking already. If you already have a booking, you will have gotten a confirmation email that you show them or they may ask your last name (or both). Then you pay (if you didn't have a booking already). The front desk worker will give you your room key and tell you how to get there.

If you go to a motel, all the rooms have doors to the outside but in hotels it's usually one big building with multiple floors (in this case the first number of your room will be the floor number).

Usually a cleaning service comes daily but you can put a do not disturb sign and they won't come. If it comes to the end of your booking and you haven't checked out by check out time (they will tell you what checkout time is), then they will come into your room to check on you. If there are loud noises, then someone in a room next to you could call and they would send someone to check on you. But other than that, there's no reason someone would come into your room.

 

[sevennn]

i see. thanks. eases anxiety a bit. im kind of scared i'll be making loud noises and someone will complain or check on me (going with SN)

 

[amnesia999]

Well, first you go to the motel's web site! (For a short stay you want to go to a motel, which is a drive there and park your car in their parking lot affair, hopefully finding a parking space in front of your room, rather than a hotel, which is more upscale and more like renting an apartment.) The web site will tell you the check-in time (say 3pm) and the check-out time (usually 11am the next day). The web site will tell you the price. You can usually reserve a room over the phone or on the web site, but most motels will require you to check in in person, be over 18, and present a picture ID. They might take a copy of your ID! A place like Motel 6 will let you get a 1 bed room for 1 night.

See, it's really rather easy. If you're going to be so nervous that you make them wonder what the hell is wrong with you, you might want to bring a friend and get a 2-bed room. Let your (less flummoxed) friend reserve the room. And just don't make too much noise.

(One time my African American wife and I were staying in a small town in Idaho and I reserved the room, because I'm white and we had a bad feeling about what might happen if they saw her. Not kidding.)

 

[sevennn]

Well, first you go to the motel's web site! (For a short stay you want to go to a motel, which is a drive there and park your car in their parking lot affair, hopefully finding a parking space in front of your room, rather than a hotel, which is more upscale and more like renting an apartment.) The web site will tell you the check-in time (say 3pm) and the check-out time (usually 11am the next day). The web site will tell you the price. You can usually reserve a room over the phone or on the web site, but most motels will require you to check in in person, be over 18, and present a picture ID. They might take a copy of your ID! A place like Motel 6 will let you get a 1 bed room for 1 night.

See, it's really rather easy. If you're going to be so nervous that you make them wonder what the hell is wrong with you, you might want to bring a friend and get a 2-bedroom. Let your (less flummoxed) friend reserve the room. And just don't make too much noise.

(One time my African American wife and I were staying in a small town in Idaho and I reserved the room, because I'm white and we had a bad feeling about what might happen if they saw her. Not kidding.)

dont have a car. can only go to hotel. and idk how much noise i'd be making after taking SN. guess anxiety can't be ruled out. nothing certain.

 

[Lost Magic]

I've been to quite a lot of hotels. I just pay online with a site like booking.com. The day is arranged and I take my phone with the booking for proof of booking. Cleaners will want to come in, but you can put a sign that says, do not disturb. I can't say what it would be like if you wanted to cbt there though. That's completley down to you.

 

[amnesia999]

dont have a car. can only go to hotel. and idk how much noise i'd be making after taking SN. guess anxiety can't be ruled out. nothing certain.

Motels are usually cheaper than hotels, and it's usually easier to get into your room with less scrutiny because the doors open to the parking lot. Of course you can take the bus or train there if you want to. Probably the biggest risk is being discovered. I have no idea how much noise the typical CTB'er makes (if there even is such a thing as a typical CTB'er). Good luck to you.

 

[sevennn]

Motels are usually cheaper than hotels, and it's usually easier to get into your room with less scrutiny because the doors open to the parking lot. Of course you can take the bus or train there if you want to. Probably the biggest risk is being discovered. I have no idea how much noise the typical CTB'er makes (if there even is such a thing as a typical CTB'er). Good luck to you.

motel sounds better somehow. maybe cus i saw it in cool american movies so much. lol

I've been to quite a lot of hotels. I just pay online with a site like booking.com. The day is arranged and I take my phone with the booking for proof of booking. Cleaners will want to come in, but you can put a sign that says, do not disturb. I can't say what it would be like if you wanted to cbt there though. That's completley down to you.

where do you want to ctb? wish i lived alone. then no hotel. could just drink SN at home. but can't cus others live here. suicide ironically hard when exhausted because going to hotel is just another headache on top of everything else

 

[bitofftoomuch]

one could go into a bathroom, run the fan + shower + sink, and cover up with a blanket while CTB'ing. that should muffle any "CTB" noises enough that nobody hears it.

fancy hotels will have much better soundproofing between rooms than cheap motels. if one can only afford a motel, having TV and music on (loud but not obnoxiously so, and done in the mid-afternoon) to help drown out any "CTB noises" might be optimal.

i worked in radio where people always talked about noise isolation and you'd be surprised how much a simple blanket can muffle sound. it may be frightening for some but covering up with it greatly reduces the chance of noise escaping the room.

 

[sevennn]

one could go into a bathroom, run the fan + shower + sink, and cover up with a blanket while CTB'ing. that should muffle any "CTB" noises enough that nobody hears it.

fancy hotels will have much better soundproofing between rooms than cheap motels. if one can only afford a motel, having TV and music on (loud but not obnoxiously so, and done in the mid-afternoon) to help drown out any "CTB noises" might be optimal.

i worked in radio where people always talked about noise isolation and you'd be surprised how much a simple blanket can muffle sound. it may be frightening for some but covering up with it greatly reduces the chance of noise escaping the room.

thank you. very useful info. you mean covering self with a blanket. or some part of the room?

 

[nihilistic_dragon]

can someone save you at a hotel. and ruin your suicide attempt? thanks

Like someone else already said, in most hotels cleaners tend to come in every day to straighten up your room a bit. So they can discover you and "save" you. Ask the front desk when the cleaners usually come in and most importantly - put out the "do not disturb" sign on the door. Some people also barricade the door just in case.

 

[Decided98]

motel sounds better somehow. maybe cus i saw it in cool american movies so much. lol

where do you want to ctb? wish i lived alone. then no hotel. could just drink SN at home. but can't cus others live here. suicide ironically hard when exhausted because going to hotel is just another headache on top of everything else

Yes I feel you I feel so exhausted. I've booked a very high rated hotel with a lot of reviews in a big city. Thats what a lot of commenters on here said if it's a hotel chain they won't care for a suicide as much and will cover it up. I've booked a fair few hotels all have been online it's quite easy just go there state your name you booked it under and they'll give you all the info and you pay for it! Just put your do not disturb sign on the front door. As for ctbing there I would assume there will be a fair few noises in the hotel so should be okay.

 

[SVEN]

In the UK we have motel type chains like Travel Lodge which are much more private than hotels. They also are likely to have vacancies if you're not wanting to book in advance.
If you do wish to reserve a room you can do so by 'phone or online. If you don't have a car then taxi direct to the motel or the nearest public transport available will be fine. Not everyone arrives by private car. If anyone asks (they won't) just say you're hitching or your car broke down.
In the UK the usual checkout time is midday, so the room will be cleaned when you check in, and the cleaners won't be round until the following morning. That means you'll have a good chance of most of the adjoining rooms being empty as most travellers arrive in the evening.
Best wishes in everything going well.