Discussion NEETs thread

[Grey-zone]

I have a lot to say about this, even though I'm in a slightly inebriated condition...

a) like some other posters, I had no effin clue what a NEET was until now, even though I've spent years of my life as one.

b) I also managed to get employed, through my girlfriend, and even (gasp) leave my parents' place for the first time at 28. Has my life gone neatly since then? Well, I still want to blow my brains out. Like another poster I was taken out of school at a young age, and that fucked me up irretrievably, although I did the college thing for many years and did well.
My advice is mostly worthless, but I think if your goal is to "de-NEET" yourself for whatever reason, I would say that it's imminently feasable: shit jobs are abundant, and if you don't mind working full-time and have nothing else to do then making money isn't that difficult, whether on the side or as full-time. I save hundreds of dollars now, but all that money doesn't put a dent in my mind's inability to do anything. No friends, no driver's license, just a blank space up there. Every day it's a small lesson in perpetual regret, but if there's an escape from that (as opposed to lacking a job), I haven't found any, although I like the idea of killing myself while travelling.

I'm not technically a NEET because I'm studying, but the thing is I'm at the eighth year of a six-year program, and not close to finishing, so I live like a NEET for some years now. There is a good chance I will be kicked out from university soon, too. Still, I can't make myself study and I hate myself for it.

This was my experience also. After being "homeschooled" I got my GED, went to college, and spent about 7 years on a 4-year degree. I was a good student, but never felt like I was anything but NEET-ing around; I just couldn't think of anywhere else to be.

 

[Donewith_]

IDK how people cope on this..
I am going insane . I am NEET from a year, I was planning to ctb from a year too..
It feels so bad.. I am relying on others.. and I am unable to provide anything to others. That guilt turned to hate, feelings of disgust, worthlessness.
It is hard.. idk I am lost . undecided.
From the time I started to gain consciousness about the things around me.. as soon as I wake up, the first thought that crosses my mind is.. what did I wake up to do? like..what will I do today?
I fail to answer that question.. which makes me a nobody.

 

[RememberWhatUCameFor]

NEET combined with social isolation is probably the worst thing you can do to your body - the studies are very clear on this. elevated stress lvls, speed up ageing, deteriorating social and intellectual skills, more likely to develop insomnia, depression and other mentall illnesses.

its more harmful then smoking or being obsese

sometimes you don't have a choice but if you have: try everything to get out of this state

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

I have only been outside once briefly in the past week. I really do feel my mind turning to mush. I wonder how common that is for NEET people, like where you literally feel insane. I have insomnia, and also lots of nonsensical or repetitive thoughts. My mind feels extremely disjointed and chaotic. Basically what the post above states.

 

[RememberWhatUCameFor]

I have only been outside once briefly in the past week. I really do feel my mind turning to mush. I wonder how common that is for NEET people, like where you literally feel insane. I have insomnia, and also lots of nonsensical or repetitive thoughts. My mind feels extremely disjointed and chaotic. Basically what the post above states.

going outside is not enough. socialising is needed.

 

[dreamsofdestruction]

going outside is not enough. socialising is needed.

Yeah, but it's a start and better than nothing.

 

[Tortured_empath]

How can you people afford this way of life?

 

[dreamsofdestruction]

How can you people afford this way of life?

Most NEETs are either on welfare or disability or are still living with their parents.

 

[Grey-zone]

Yeah, but it's a start and better than nothing.

I would often go on strolls to escape the suffocation. Some socialization is necessary, but if you don't have a car or any friends, it's easier said than done. Crippling depression, anxiety, and social isolation do not make for any social confidence, and without social confidence there's minimal enjoyment, and without that attempting socialization is a tedious chore. I was a NEET from adolescence to my late 20s and it certainly had mental effects: I think my memory has been partly impaired because of it, and my planning/motivational abilities are still almost nonexistent. Granted, getting off meds has helped my energy level, as has exercise.
Just start getting out more, go to a Meetup or two (preferably involving some sort of game playing, rather than all conversation), and, if you have a car, maybe try camping and escaping from the digital madhouse.

 

[Final Escape]

I've been a NEET since like age 34. I gave up on life around then. Ok I do work but just not on paper.

 

[Theon]

I'm sorry, what does NEET stand for?

 

[Taylored]

I'm sorry, what does NEET stand for?

Not in Education, Employment, or Training. Well that is the original meaning at least**

 

[mold]

local neet here :) i had an ok day, didn't do much but that's every day

 

[Donewith_]

me too..I just helped with some work at home.
Thought to go out.. but had pain in my leg.. so, I was unable to go.
I felt bad for a while.. thinking about some things. I feel a bit better at nights, coz i know i can forget things for a while and sleep.

 

[_NoName_]

I'm a NEET for some time now. I keep delaying any sort of self-improvement. Dunno how long that may continue.

 

[Darkhaven]

I will probably becomea NEET by this time next year, if i sucessfully finish my university and will, undoubtely, be cast into uneployment.

 

[Lifetimepunishment]

It's officaly been half of one month since out of college due to me being a recluse

 

[deflagrat]

I have been a NEET for 13 years now. I lost my will to live a long time ago, but life is not bad enough to rush into death right away. My parents are probably the biggest reason why I am still alive. Having to work will be the final straw (that's what will make me ctb), but I will probably stay alive until then. If only life wasn't boring most of the time... I wouldn't do a damn thing to stay alive if I had to put any effort.

 

[Grey-zone]

Salvation, you're describing my own experiences. I lived with my parents until this year, and now I'm in my late 20s. I started working last year, now full-time. The boredom still remains indescribable; I blame my parents, although I'm not so lacking in introspection that I don't suspect some fundamental psychological/genetic reasons for my terminal existential boredom. To me it feels like escape is always just beyond reach, whether in the form of a better life or a final exit.

 

[Thatdude]

Is someone still a neet if they sell things on ebay time to time, and make a few hundred a month from YouTube?
The amount I get in total barely makes enough to buy games. And the funny thing is it isn't like I don't try but it is the best I can do as far as I see it.

 

[Dartz]

Is someone still a neet if they sell things on ebay time to time, and make a few hundred a month from YouTube?
The amount I get in total barely makes enough to buy games. And the funny thing is it isn't like I don't try but it is the best I can do as far as I see it.

Still sounds pretty NEET to me. An entrepreneurial NEET perhaps...

 

[Heart of Ice]

I'm officially a student but in reality I'm a NEET right now. I actually do quite enjoy this life. Perhaps a few years of this would get depressing. but I don't intend to live that long.

Even now it seems that I'm bored all the time despite all sorts of things to do. Still time seems to move so fast, days blend into each other.

 

[Thatdude]

WataMote

Thanks for the heads up on the show. Is there any others other than NHK that I should look out for that relates?

 

[End Piece]

Oh boy, my time to shine. NEET for almost a fucking year, good god. It all started with reverse culture shock, which spiraled into depression, then agoraphobia. I worked for a few weeks in a kitchen this summer, really didn't mind it too much, but we were getting payed less than minimum wage while working overtime so I quit. I was in college for two weeks before withdrawing because I was super duper suicidal. Now I'm spending loads of time looking for a job. Lord knows I've wasted enough of it here at home. I'm ready to move the fuck on.