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Ob La Dee
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- Aug 4, 2021
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Just felt the need to share this. Any suggestions would be most welcome.
My Dear Kids,
I don't even know where to begin. As I sit here trying to work up the nerve to end my life there are so many things I need to say, yet I don't know how to explain myself. I live with a lot of guilt over the mistakes I have made, and I have made many of them. It all starts with Fioran and ends with your grandmother.
I was 23 years old when I met Fioran. I brought him into the situation way too soon and I should have known better. Age is no excuse. There were red flags all along that I just didn't pay attention to. By the time I realized what was going on I was already too afraid of him to make a move. He was abusive and controlling. I know you guys lived in fear of him and so did I. He was a sonofabitch and I should have left him 6 months after I met him. V, S & E, I am so sorry for ruining your childhoods. I wish there was something I could do or say to take the pain away but there isnt. It's the biggest regret of my life. I am sorry.
H and H, you had a father who left a lot to be desired. He wasn't abusive to you guys, but he disappeared on you when you weren't old enough to understand what was going on or have it explained to you. I also take responsibility for some of your unhappiness and demons. I wish I had been a stronger person and a better mother. I wish I had set an example for you instead of you guys setting one for me. I am sorry.
I am also sorry for not looking after your grandmother properly. I spent way too much time in my room. I regret that and I have regretted it since she died. It haunts me. I started asking your aunt and uncle for help around that time, an aide would have been a great help for me, but they always refused saying it was too expensive. However I did not charge $9000 to her credit cards. This I can swear to you, it was closer to $1500 and I paid her every penny with the exception of a phone she bought me for Christmas. Its important that you know this.
I don't want you to feel sorry for me, I just want all of you to understand that I am a tortured soul and I just can't take it anymore. I can't go on like this. It's all too much for me. Please forgive me for all my mistakes. I know I couldn't make it up to you in life, but I will be watching over all of you from the other side. I'll make whatever amends I need to make to my parents.
V, I am so sorry for ruining your childhood. All three of you suffered at the hands of that bastard, but you bore the brunt of it. If I could have gone back and done things over again differently I would have done so in a heartbeat. I'm sorry you paid the price for my lack of courage.
S, you are and have always been my hero. Don't you dare feel an ounce of guilt over this. You did everything you possibly could for me, you went way beyond the call of duty and have been a wonderful daughter.
E, I wish we could have been closer. The physical distance between us shouldn't have mattered, I should have made more of an effort to reach out to you and for that I am sorry.
H, you are smarter than you give yourself credit for. Please set some goals for yourself, you can achieve anything your heart desires. I will be rooting for you from the other side.
H, you are and will always be my baby. Strum your guitar, read your books, never lose your childlike innocence. You are my shiny star.
There is something more beyond our little lives, I truly believe this and I hope you do too. If I can give each of you a sign I will try to do it. Maybe a song will come on the radio and it'll remind you of me. At that time I will be with you, I promise I will. No distance can separate a mother from her children the connection is just too strong. I am sorry. I love you to the moon and back.
Love
Mom
P. S. Please listen to a song called How We Operate by Gomez. If you look up "how we operate lyrics" on YouTube you'll find the video I would like you to watch. Here is the link: https://youtu.be/e59f74dwbkg
My Dear Kids,
I don't even know where to begin. As I sit here trying to work up the nerve to end my life there are so many things I need to say, yet I don't know how to explain myself. I live with a lot of guilt over the mistakes I have made, and I have made many of them. It all starts with Fioran and ends with your grandmother.
I was 23 years old when I met Fioran. I brought him into the situation way too soon and I should have known better. Age is no excuse. There were red flags all along that I just didn't pay attention to. By the time I realized what was going on I was already too afraid of him to make a move. He was abusive and controlling. I know you guys lived in fear of him and so did I. He was a sonofabitch and I should have left him 6 months after I met him. V, S & E, I am so sorry for ruining your childhoods. I wish there was something I could do or say to take the pain away but there isnt. It's the biggest regret of my life. I am sorry.
H and H, you had a father who left a lot to be desired. He wasn't abusive to you guys, but he disappeared on you when you weren't old enough to understand what was going on or have it explained to you. I also take responsibility for some of your unhappiness and demons. I wish I had been a stronger person and a better mother. I wish I had set an example for you instead of you guys setting one for me. I am sorry.
I am also sorry for not looking after your grandmother properly. I spent way too much time in my room. I regret that and I have regretted it since she died. It haunts me. I started asking your aunt and uncle for help around that time, an aide would have been a great help for me, but they always refused saying it was too expensive. However I did not charge $9000 to her credit cards. This I can swear to you, it was closer to $1500 and I paid her every penny with the exception of a phone she bought me for Christmas. Its important that you know this.
I don't want you to feel sorry for me, I just want all of you to understand that I am a tortured soul and I just can't take it anymore. I can't go on like this. It's all too much for me. Please forgive me for all my mistakes. I know I couldn't make it up to you in life, but I will be watching over all of you from the other side. I'll make whatever amends I need to make to my parents.
V, I am so sorry for ruining your childhood. All three of you suffered at the hands of that bastard, but you bore the brunt of it. If I could have gone back and done things over again differently I would have done so in a heartbeat. I'm sorry you paid the price for my lack of courage.
S, you are and have always been my hero. Don't you dare feel an ounce of guilt over this. You did everything you possibly could for me, you went way beyond the call of duty and have been a wonderful daughter.
E, I wish we could have been closer. The physical distance between us shouldn't have mattered, I should have made more of an effort to reach out to you and for that I am sorry.
H, you are smarter than you give yourself credit for. Please set some goals for yourself, you can achieve anything your heart desires. I will be rooting for you from the other side.
H, you are and will always be my baby. Strum your guitar, read your books, never lose your childlike innocence. You are my shiny star.
There is something more beyond our little lives, I truly believe this and I hope you do too. If I can give each of you a sign I will try to do it. Maybe a song will come on the radio and it'll remind you of me. At that time I will be with you, I promise I will. No distance can separate a mother from her children the connection is just too strong. I am sorry. I love you to the moon and back.
Love
Mom
P. S. Please listen to a song called How We Operate by Gomez. If you look up "how we operate lyrics" on YouTube you'll find the video I would like you to watch. Here is the link: https://youtu.be/e59f74dwbkg
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