Help my fp doesn't care for me at all

[lovelulu]

im pretty sure my fp doesn't really care for me or my wellbeing as much as I care for hers. My feelings dont really matter to her at all. Im honestly still hurt from when she just said 'oh' when I told her what was wrong. I wonder if she just likes how I treat her. There's not much to like about me anyway. But im certain she doesn't care for one bit.

 

[chudcell]

im pretty sure my fp doesn't really care for me or my wellbeing as much as I care for hers. My feelings dont really matter to her at all. Im honestly still hurt from when she just said 'oh' when I told her what was wrong. I wonder if she just likes how I treat her. There's not much to like about me anyway. But im certain she doesn't care for one bit.

I lost my favourite person recently too Dont worry, im sure things will get better.

 

[harleen]

losing my fp was one of the most painful things ever. when he pulled away i became so psychotic and overdosed. i cried and screamed and trashed. its a feeling like no other.

 

[chudcell]

losing my fp was one of the most painful things ever. when he pulled away i became so psychotic and overdosed. i cried and screamed and trashed. its a feeling like no other.

I hope you're feeling better now :/

 

[BurningShipFractal]

I lost my favourite person recently too Dont worry, im sure things will get better.

awwh,,, im sorry i know how painful it is to be attached to someone and then lose them; i hope you are feeling better buddy

 

[chudcell]

awwh,,, im sorry i know how painful it is to be attached to someone and then lose them; i hope you are feeling better buddy

Thank you so much for your kind words. Living with bpd is horrible

 

[Eazy]

Thats unfortunate, but have you considered that maybe she did not know how to reply? Alot of people who have never experienced these sorts of things draw a blank when someone close to them expresses these types of feelings. Not saying that's 100% the case but something to consider. That sucks tho you deserve understanding

 

[dreaming]

idk if mine does or not, they act like they do but I don't believe them
whenever I open up about how I feel it's like they're not even listening
I hate being so dependent on someone who probably doesn't really gaf about me

 

[chudcell]

idk if mine does or not, they act like they do but I don't believe them
whenever I open up about how I feel it's like they're not even listening
I hate being so dependent on someone who probably doesn't really gaf about me

they are probably gaslighting you :/

 

[dreaming]

they are probably gaslighting you :/

maybe..

 

[peewee]

i get it...losing my fp is why I'm ctb

 

[chudcell]

maybe..

I hope you feel better soon. Nobody deserves to feel like they arent being listened to in a relationship:/

 

[meatballlover]

Oh you're that person who talked about treating their fp good before you go. I'm sorry things are going this way for you :( I lost my fp before and i know how it feels to be mistreated

 

[HopelessScientist]

im pretty sure my fp doesn't really care for me or my wellbeing as much as I care for hers. My feelings dont really matter to her at all. Im honestly still hurt from when she just said 'oh' when I told her what was wrong. I wonder if she just likes how I treat her. There's not much to like about me anyway. But im certain she doesn't care for one bit.

Sometimes anxiety/ rumination can make you spiral / think someone doesn't care for you when they do.

Though I do not know her or the situation, I think it's worse if indeed there's an imbalance of care in the relationship. I worry about that too sometimes.

 

[plantlife]

they are probably gaslighting you :/

God you borderlines are exhausting.

You put your FPs up on a pedestal and then accuse them of abuse when they don't meet your unrealistic expectations. Nobody's perfect. Sometimes people don't know how to respond. Sometimes they've got their own issues to worry about. Sometimes they don't understand your needs because you never communicated them in the first place. Sometimes they can't support you because their own needs are being neglected. Sometimes they just had a bad day.

Please stop treating your loved ones like validation pumps and start treating them like human beings. They're not responsible for your welfare. You are.

 

[SASU-KE]

God you borderlines are exhausting.

You put your FPs up on a pedestal and then accuse them of abuse when they don't meet your unrealistic expectations. Nobody's perfect. Sometimes people don't know how to respond. Sometimes they've got their own issues to worry about. Sometimes they don't understand your needs because you never communicated them in the first place. Sometimes they can't support you because their own needs are being neglected. Sometimes they just had a bad day.

Please stop treating your loved ones like validation pumps and start treating them like human beings. They're not responsible for your welfare. You are.

They can't help it. That's the problem. That is how they react.Many of them don't want to be that way but they can't do anything about it.

 

[meatballlover]

But if you worry the relationship could crumble, definitely talk. Dont keep it all to yourself otherwise it will crumble apart either way. Just be honest with her, try talking with her as if she was any other friend of yours because speaking from experience, the overattachment could be really exhausting for the other person. Take it easy and talk with her peacefully.

God you borderlines are exhausting.

You put your FPs up on a pedestal and then accuse them of abuse when they don't meet your unrealistic expectations. Nobody's perfect. Sometimes people don't know how to respond. Sometimes they've got their own issues to worry about. Sometimes they don't understand your needs because you never communicated them in the first place. Sometimes they can't support you because their own needs are being neglected. Sometimes they just had a bad day.

Please stop treating your loved ones like validation pumps and start treating them like human beings. They're not responsible for your welfare. You are.

You are not wrong but you could've been a bit more sensitive