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itistimetoleave

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Just know hun, you don't miss him, rather the connection you had with him, if someone wants to leave they have taken into account that they won't see you ever again, and so you have to. You need to find other people you trust for company and to help lessen the pain. Just know that he did you a favour by leaving. Allow yourself to grieve and do stuff to keep your mind away. Good luck!

Thats well said 'if someone wants to leave, they have taken into account that they won't see you again' I will remind myself everyday.
Hi, i am in the same situation. My girlfriend left because I lied to her and betrayed her. She was my great love and now i am alone. This is the reason i want to end my life.

Don't end your life because of another person. They don't deserve that. She has hurt you enough already. Live for yourself. I wanted to ctb till two days ago but after the breakup, I don't want to anymore. You cannot give them the pleasure of hurting you more. They have done enough. You get your shit together and prove her wrong.
 
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you cannot force anyone to be with you...have friends support you...
 
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Agreed. If he walked away so easily he doesn't deserve you. Concentrate on yourself @itistimetoleave You're worth more than being treated like that. I know it hurts like hell, but you'll get through. You deserve someone who appreciates you for you.

I know you guys are right - People think that suicidal people have no self respect or sense of self - you can treat them whichever way you want because they live on your mercy. But, that's so far from the truth. We take control of our lives and decide that we don't deserve this pain anymore.
I'm so sorry, love. I'm currently in a rocky relationship of almost 3 years and what's impacting it is my mental health. He's come around and is aware of how severely mentally ill I am and has told me he is worried about our future due to it. We also deal with cultural differences that put a strain on our relationship as well. His mother? She doesn't even know I exist. I haven't met her. And if she did meet me she would not like me at all, because I have nothing to offer her son. Career / financially wise. It hurts me deeply, and in many ways I can relate to you and your situation... My heart goes out to you. That is so fucked up, and honestly... I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with a man that is still controlled by his mother.

Yeah I feel you. I was thinking of giving a break and taking some time off but I don't think I can forgive him for this hurt ever. How can I ever be with someone who just walked out on me becoz his mom said so?
I'm sorry to hear this. I've been broken up with being told I was "too damaged to love". after all these years I can replay that moment in my head. it doesn't hurt anymore bc in a way time does heal I just wish he still saw me as the girl he once was in love with. not bc I want to be with him but bc that's the way I want him to remember me. if it's meant to be with you and your s/o you'll find your way back, be kind to yourself rn ♥ cry if you need to, give it time.

Yeah this is the worst and he doesn't realize that he is leaving me becoz of my depression. He thinks it is for my best - if he genuinely believed that, he could have stood by my side as a friend and helped me get better and not just block my number. How insulting it is to get your number blocked by the person who loved you the most two days ago?
I am going to be the devil's advocate here. Nobody here knows the whole story. You are hearing one side.

Maybe it was actually the right decision of him. Maybe it wasn't. I don't know.

I don't see no reason to start calling the man names if you don't know his actual reasoning.

I am not hurt that much becoz of the breakup but more because of how he did it. There is a decent way to end things. He shouldn't have just walked out and called me manipulative and toxic. He could have said - I need some time becoz I am exhausted with your health issues. I would have given him all in the time in the world for his self care. I understand it's exhausting to be with someone who is suicidal and taking care of them like a child but he just walked out. He could have handled things in a much better way.
 
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