My bf doesnt love me anymore. I feel like ending it all tbh

[nohopenolife]

I plan on getting sn soon

 

[LaVieEnRose]

Do you want to share a little more about what is going on?

 

[dazednconfused]

same haha. mine still replies to me barely but i think its out of obligation. no 'i love you' nothing. no 'dont do that'. i think hes too stressed n busy to care. i think hes given up on me. its alright though cus i live for the small responses he gives every couple hours lol.

 

[sos]

same haha. mine still replies to me barely but i think its out of obligation. no 'i love you' nothing. no 'dont do that'. i think hes too stressed n busy to care. i think hes given up on me. its alright though cus i live for the small responses he gives every couple hours lol.

wouldn't be there a chance that you're already stating as to why he might be showing less affection? you're saying it yourself "i think hes too stressed n busy"

of course i don't know the entire situation as to what it is like but being stressed could change ones behavior

your thoughts and feelings are in the case of stress somewhere else than where it normally is

but yea idk ur situation

 

[dazednconfused]

wouldn't be there a chance that you're already stating as to why he might be showing less affection? you're saying it yourself "i think hes too stressed n busy"

of course i don't know the entire situation as to what it is like but being stressed could change ones behavior

your thoughts and feelings are in the case of stress somewhere else than where it normally is

but yea idk ur situation

it definitely could but thats the problem. i cant cope with something human and normal. im too scared that when he says hes taking a break from the internet and 'talk to you soon' he means hell forget me and doesnt love me anymore. he has so much going on thats so much more important but im too selfish and smallminded and sensitive to cope with that. thats why i dont deserve to be here, in part.

 

[Esedia]

Friendly reminder that shitty exes will become something you roll your eyes and laugh about someday. Don't let some immature guy being emotionally unavailable make you give up on your entire life.

 

[dazednconfused]

Friendly reminder that shitty exes will become something you roll your eyes and laugh about someday. Don't let some immature guy being emotionally unavailable make you give up on your entire life.

oftentimes its more than that… pain is pain, even at silly reasons. it can be easy to get tired of experiencing things so intense. but ofc, st least for me, that is not the only reason i will be ending it, though its a big part lol.

 

[Esedia]

oftentimes its more than that… pain is pain, even at silly reasons. it can be easy to get tired of experiencing things so intense. but ofc, st least for me, that is not the only reason i will be ending it, though its a big part lol.

I understand. The reason absolutely doesn't lessen the pain. I have been having the MILDEST of disagreements with my S.O. this morning and have been in tears like three times over it, haha. It absolutely happens. I just want to encourage anyone who may not have had lots of relationships to try to be strong.

 

[dazednconfused]

i see, i understand then haha, i often get hurt when i feel my experience with the ppl i love is minimized and put down as just black and white bad and good. life is too grey for that… and thats why its so easy to get stuck. but i understand and can second your sentiment

 

[pthnrdnojvsc]

I just don't see the need to be in a relationship with a human. I want to stay away from them in person or in any kind of relationship.

Nothing else matters either to me only avoiding extreme pain and ctb asap.

No one can convince me anything matters except avoiding extreme pain and ctb asap. Life and everything it is meaningless suffering, garbage

As a plus if I want to go today to drive out to a desert and shoot myself I don't have to ask another primate for permission or to check in with them

 

[MyTimeIsUp]

I just don't see the need to be in a relationship with a human. I want to stay away from them in person or in any kind of relationship.

Nothing else matters either to me only avoiding extreme pain and ctb asap.

No one can convince me anything matters except avoiding extreme pain and ctb asap. Life and everything it is meaningless suffering, garbage

As a plus if I want to go today to drive out to a desert and shoot myself I don't have to ask another primate for permission or to check in with them

Some people do, but I understand, because I have never wanted to be in a relationship, but I've been coerced into them many times. I hate relationships. It's awful. I love just being on my own 24/7

In a healthy relationship (whatever that is) you shouldn't need to ask permission to do things, or check in. I totally understand where you're coming from. Unfortunately some don't realise people are coerced into things.


I'm so sorry you feel this way OP, but I can assure you ending your life over a relationship isn't worth it. You are worth more than that, and you'd see that as time went on.

Our validation as people isn't how much a person loves us, it should be about loving ourselves, although I know how hard that is, and I don't do that for myself

What I'm trying to say is, you are worth more than this. Feeling like your boyfriend doesn't love you, going through a roller-coaster of emotions because of one individual.

In years to come you'd look back, and think 'wtf was I thinking when I was with that person?'. I bet lots of people on this site have also. We also tend to sugar coat things, and pretend that things are perfect, or good even, when the reality is, they aren't that great in the first place. Someone that's supposed to love you shouldn't make you feel that shitty about yourself - that isn't love.

I hope you stay and give yourself time to heal, and one day realise he isn't worth it

I wish you all the best

 

[Leiot]

Friendly reminder that shitty exes will become something you roll your eyes and laugh about someday. Don't let some immature guy being emotionally unavailable make you give up on your entire life.

My ex told me in couple's therapy that she couldn't decide if she'd pick me or the dog. That hurt. Now I have cats.