My best friend is an alcoholic- do I have a responsability?

[Susannah]

Sitting home now, my best friend is sleeping on my couch. He's been drunk all day (2 weeks on, 2 weeks off). I'm not really comfortable with drunk people, and I don't know how to handle the situation. I now wonder, being his friend, should I deny him drinking? I like beer myself, and I like to drink some weekends, like tonight. Is it anyhow my responsability not to drink when we're hanging out?

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

No, it's not your responsibility. His problem is his to own or not. It is in no way your problem.

If his behaviors due to alcohol are a problem for you, then it is your responsibility to set and maintain boundaries with him, and to set consequences for when he does not keep them.

 

[Susannah]

No, it's not your responsibility. His problem is his to own or not. It is in no way your problem.

If his behaviors due to alcohol are a problem for you, then it is your responsibility to set and maintain boundaries with him, and to set consequences for when he does not keep them.

Thanks!

 

[Deleted member 1465]

No, it's not your responsibility. His problem is his to own or not. It is in no way your problem.

If his behaviors due to alcohol are a problem for you, then it is your responsibility to set and maintain boundaries with him, and to set consequences for when he does not keep them.

I actually agree with this, and that's speaking as an alcoholic for whom beer has destroyed his life and brought him here.
It's his choice and the only way to come out of alcoholia is to get one mutha of a painful health scare from it. He kinda has to hit rock bottom before he can fight back out of fear.
Drinking around him...if he can't handle it that's his problem not yours.
I wish people could learn from others mistakes. Give me half an hour with him to hear my story and. ..Won't make a difference, he has to come to his own realisations or it would all be worthless.

 

[JustLosingMyself]

I agree.
It's not your responsibility
It's not your problem to solve. Don't make it your problem. You'll only beget heartache

 

[Myforevercharlie]

I actually agree with this, and that's speaking as an alcoholic for whom beer has destroyed his life and brought him here.
It's his choice and the only way to come out of alcoholia is to get one mutha of a painful health scare from it. He kinda has to hit rock bottom before he can fight back out of fear.
Drinking around him...if he can't handle it that's his problem not yours.
I wish people could learn from others mistakes. Give me half an hour with him to hear my story and. ..Won't make a difference, he has to come to his own realisations or it would all be worthless.

Unfortunately that's true. I hope in my case its not to late....

 

[WhiteDespair]

It is more courteous to not drink around him.

Rock bottom can be anything. It doesn't need to be catastrophic.

At the very least you should talk to him.

 

[oneess]

As an addict I agree with all that was answered above, this is his own problem, and he should be the only one that's going to take responsibility for it, don't make it your own problem, don't forget that you have your own problems in life too. Hoping for the best and sending love both to you and to your friend <3