Moving to a new city

[waterbaby100]

I always thought I'd ctb before we moved house. Not because I don't want to move city but because I wasn't coping well...and thought the move would cause more stress. But I can't leave my partner while all this stress is ongoing. Is it bad to wait until we've moved and then ctb? I'm just so torn. The new city is much closer to my planned location and may mean a whole new life....by the sea. But I'm struggling to hold on. Any advice

 

[needthebus]

Is there any chance you'll like life more once you are in the new area by the sea?

 

[waterbaby100]

That is one of my hopes.... It's just hard to hold on

 

[needthebus]

That is one of my hopes.... It's just hard to hold on

You should do the move. Perhaps you'll end up happier. A move doesn't always change everything, but sometimes it does. You could make new friends, or find new things you like to do, and he's going to be devastated if you die no matter where you are.

You should give it a try. If you still want to do it a year after the move, you could divorce him, move out of the new place, and then consider your options after you're far away from him so he's not as traumatized. But perhaps you'll be happier and won't need to do anything at all?

It seems like the wrong time to do it now and things could change so do the move. If you are unhappy, just keep pushing through it, get support from places and people if you need it.

hope you are okay

 

[donttalktome]

Impossible to know how you feel. It's difficult because I had no doubts or outs from dying for years, so i don't know how people who have doubts about CTB should proceed. Maybe others will be more helpful.

 

[Worndown]

New possibilities!
If you can look forward and handle the stress, it might be worth giving it a try.

 

[human909]

I guess you could try and see if your life changes before you actually do ctb. But if you really want to it's your choice.

 

[waterbaby100]

Thanks for responses. The closer the move gets the more I think about ctb (due to unbearable anxiety). If it was just me I'd be gone. But I love my wife so much....leaving her during a move just feels awful. Though I guess I've always thought when I get her there and settled. I can ctb. Delaying the inevitable for her is becoming harder and harder on me. I just don't know what to do

 

[waterbaby100]

I always thought I'd ctb before we moved house. Not because I don't want to move city but because I wasn't coping well...and thought the move would cause more stress. But I can't leave my partner while all this stress is ongoing. Is it bad to wait until we've moved and then ctb? I'm just so torn. The new city is much closer to my planned location and may mean a whole new life....by the sea. But I'm struggling to hold on. Any advice

Help needed. I barely hanging on. Is it better to go now before we leave and let me partner still have the option to stay. Or do I wait until the move ...and then once there end it all. I just can't bare to hurt my partner either way