when I think about "alternative" or "bad girls"
I can only think of men liking them just for sexual or fantasy reasons
As a guy, when I was reading this article I was having pretty similar thoughts. Men usually view these types of girls sexually, as opposed to men viewing women who dress/act more conservatively as someone they'd potentially marry. At least that's for the majority of normal men, but not all.
It's a bit of a generalization because at the end of the day, some men out there will sexualize anyone regardless of the way they dress/act. And on the other hand, not ALL men who are attracted to girls with this style only view them sexually. In fact some men might just appreciate that style, but not date ANYONE who dresses like that and mainly will date them based on who they are as a person. And for some maybe it's a mix.
I'd say that I don't have highly specific visual preferences for a woman (and I say this in regards to both race as well as fashion). Because anyone who would ONLY date a certain race / someone who wears very specific outfits begins to like them due to an
idea of someone in their head as opposed to who that person actually is as a human being. Which is basically a kink / fetish. And I don't think anyone would like to be dated just because someone fetishes them, it's pretty dehumanizing. I've dealt with this as someone who is asian and back when I was in college there would be some girls who loved Korean drama / kpop and when they'd flirt with me it sorta made me feel uncomfortable. I don't know if that makes sense. But it's like if someone only likes you for how you look then it doesn't feel as if they like you for who you are. It's can be off putting. But if both parties are genuinely attracted to each other not just visually, but personality wise too then obviously that's much more of a healthy dynamic.
Here's my final take from a guy's perspective... 9/10 of men would like to marry a woman who dresses/acts conservatively. It shows that she has respect for her husband by not dressing too revealing and he won't have to worry if she'll leave with half his money after marriage. In regards to personality, I'd say many guys like a girl who can joke with them and when there is friendly banter, that's awesome :-)
However, I've delt with some "bad girls" or whatever you want to call them in my past and when they're toxic to the point that 99% of their conversations are just banter, it just exhausting. So there's gotta be a balance.
Now I do agree with some points in the article like finding simple women as boring... but that's just my personal opinion and I'm probably the minority. That's mainly because (as an atheist) it's hard to deeply relate with basic girls who are deeply indoctrinated into their religious beliefs, want to marry a man who works a 9-5, retire at 60, and have cheese and crackers with their neighbors every day. To some that sounds great, but to me personally that sounds incredibly boring. I'd rather work for myself and marry someone who isn't as brainwashed as these religious people and naturally girls who dress that way tend to share those religious beliefs. Although it's a catch 22 because generally those types of girls aren't
always the best marriage material, but hey that's definitely a generalization. Anyways, those are my various viewpoints on this.
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