Making a promise not to die

[seho_j]

Hi, I've been lurking here for some time (since the subreddit) but this is my first post!

My friend knows my situation and is also depressed. While talking with her recently I promised her that I won't ctb at least until I get a job to reassure her.
I feel really bad for making this promise, I already ordered SN and antiemetics. I'm not sure I can keep my promise when it's all in front of me.

I'm just curious about how many people has promised their loved ones that you're not going to ctb? And will you keep that promise?

 

[TimeToBiteTheDust]

@Jean4

 

[Squiddy]

Not my loved one, but I had to promise my nurse practitioner that I wouldn't ctb in order to avoid hospitalization

 

[TheEndof]

No. I probably would have in the past but I don't really give enough of a crap at this point about anyone (as no one seems to give a crap about me) to lie in an attempt to make them feel better. Or to lie to myself.

 

[R_N]

I would never promised that.

 

[Carina]

See I don't promise things I can't keep. So no, never.

I promised to give someone a heads up before I even start to initiate a ctb plan saying they could try and stop me.

But that's it. no further.

 

[Jean4]

@Jean4

Lordy. Yes, Stan. I know you are here lol.

See I don't promise things I can't keep. So no, never.

I promised to give someone a heads up before I even start to initiate a ctb plan saying they could try and stop me.

But that's it. no further.

And I say you are on the stay with Jean list.

 

[Carina]

Lordy. Yes, Stan. I know you are here lol.

And I say you are on the stay with Jean list.

You remind me of that a lot too :)

 

[seho_j]

See I don't promise things I can't keep. So no, never.

I promised to give someone a heads up before I even start to initiate a ctb plan saying they could try and stop me.

But that's it. no further.

You are right. I realised it was a mistake the moment I made the promise. I should be more honest with myself from now on.

 

[Jean4]

You remind me of that a lot too :)

I am a very good nagger. Just ask @SinisterKid

 

[Throwmyselfaway]

I can't make that promise to anyone but on the flip side no one has really noticed how depressed I am.

 

[BPD Barbie]

I never make promises, but I have told people I will try my hardest, which isn't a lie. I can't promise it, it's not something I could 100% keep to.

 

[Carina]

You are right. I realised it was a mistake the moment I made the promise. I should be more honest with myself from now on.

Yeah, I mean it was something my grandmother told me... never make a promise you can't keep... and I've always lived by that. Don't get me wrong, I"ll be careful in my phrasing of a promise if I feel like I have to make one, but...

Still, don't be too hard on yourself. even if you feel like you should be honest with promises and such--can always just start now :)

 

[k75]

My best friend makes me promise to take care of myself often, which is basically the same thing. I know he really means don't hurt myself.

I'm not sure how long I will be able to keep the promise, but I'm trying.

 

[Polly]

I never make promises, but I have told people I will try my hardest, which isn't a lie. I can't promise it, it's not something I could 100% keep to.

I've promised my therapist that I wouldn't when he was in vacation. He's pretty pro choice and sees my SI fighting hard ( which does not necessarily make me happy) do he is open to listening to my thoughts.

 

[AlreadyGone]

Why would anyone make a promise they can't keep?

 

[WhyIsLife56]

Why would anyone make a promise they can't keep?

Technically no one can keep that kind of promise. Everyone dies.

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

Why would anyone make a promise they can't keep?

To alleviate discomfort when feeling pushed. To get someone to back off. To make someone else feel better.

 

[foreveryoung]

Fortunately I haven't made a promise to anyone, but I made a promise to myself that I'd die in a certain place which i wish sometimes i could get over, because it would be much easier if i could do it here. instead i have to put in all this effort just to get to that one place. Moral of the story? never make promises, but its really hard when you feel emotional.