Discussion Little things people say that you hope they will come to regret if you ever ctb

[NoPoint2Life]

I'm not sure how to quite phrase the question.

Many of us have big reasons we want to CTB or even someone we hope we will really hurt by doing it.

Maybe it's just me, but have you ever had someone say something in passing that they would probably never think about and you think you want them to feel guilty about that comment in hindsight?

Like a couple of times a few people where I used to work used to talk about giving me a makeover because I didn't wear make up and my face was a "blank canvas." Each time I remember walking away thinking to myself that I hope if I ever jumped off a bridge that they would feel guilty about that comment. Especially the one time when they could see it made me feel bad. They would probably never think of it ever again. But if they happened to hear that I CTB would little moments like that in hindsight make them feel bad? Another good one is people that I had known for years who would mix up pronouncing my name with another similar name. The ones that did it repetitively especially that I worked withI would always wonder if they would regret never bothering to say my name right

I know I've had many more of those moments, but I honestly can't think of them off the top of my head right now. They are usually minor things overall. But it's like I say to myself that I should add that to the mental list of comments that I hope people will regret if I ever do it. Does this make any sense?

 

[areyousafe??]

I can only think of one thing. My sister said that she won't be coming to my cremation/funeral, that I'm a hopeless loser with no coping skills. Other than that, no one (that I can recall) has ever said anything mean/nasty to me (directly to my face anyway, there's been plenty of bitching behind my back).

 

[Jadeith]

Things like that are said to:
a) hurt someone and the ones that do engage in such comments with ill intent don't care if you off yourself or not
b) just express their opinion, without intention to harm you. Those comments will be soon forgotten by those making them and most probably won't be connected in any way to your departure.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Yes, it does make sense. Whether they were malicious or just plain thoughtless and careless, stuff like that will upset people. If nothing else, it might make them reconsider how they behave towards others. Not that a future moral lesson was your motive.

Comments by strangers (more or less) that hurt me the most were work related. To be fair though, they were true! Which is why they hurt so much. They made me feel so inadequate. Not sure I'd exactly want them to feel guilt though.

The person who far far and above bullied me in childhood and was the reason I became suicidal to begin with, I doubt will feel anything but justified in themselves or, sorry for themselves. I believe them to be a narcissist. So, I'm sure they will create a reality in their mind where they are the hero or the victim.

That's the thing really. I think there are people who live their life by undermining others and being cruel as part of their personality. Imagine how much guilt they'd go through if they truly started feeling remorse about all the things they did. Could they even bare it?

Plus, if they did feel that much remorse and empathy, would they still be the same person? Maybe that would be enough to make them think before they hurt the next person. Maybe some suicides are the catalyst for change in others but, I also kind of doubt it!

 

[ghost-shock]

Yes, people have called me ugly, not their preference/type, mean, not worth it, look like a man, look like a monkey, look too dark. I was told this thing from a teen to now as an adult. I was also abused as a child and a teen, and told alot of awful things ever day by my mum and step father. I hope those people have a horrible life.

 

[butimstillsoblue]

Many people have saidand done awful things to me throughout my life.
I have thought about what you're asking, but I tend to believe that people who would say or do such things probably wouldn't regret it or care if I was gone.

 

[dontwakemeup]

Like the saying goes..hurt people, hurt people. When people say nasty things to me it says more about them than it does to me. I guess I been through so much that I'm numb, don't care anymore.

I don't even argue anymore, I'm so tired, been there and done it.

I think people inflict their insecurities on you. Whatever is internally bothering them they project it on you. I don't value people very much, they all let you down at some point. Don't let anyone words have that much power to you, I know it's easier said than done.

I just want to close my eyes forever. They can day what they want.

My advice to you is smile and keep going. You don't owe anyone a response. I hope my views can somehow help you. Yeah, there just words combined that equals nothing.

 

[Forveleth]

Everything that has ever come out of my partner's mouth.