LastFlowers
the haru that can read
- Apr 27, 2019
- 2,170
If you really wish to be ugly then why not be so? It's pretty easy to ruin your appearance.
I'm sorry but I'm really getting sick and tired of this shit.
That privileged thought process is extremely insulting to people who are trapped inside their unattractive faces and bodies and discriminated against their entire lives.
You have things backwards.
People open the door for attractive people in more ways than one, they are given the opportunity to be seen in the first place, so that their personality and other qualities can then be allowed to follow and be seen and appreciated as well.
Conversely, the unattractive get the door slammed shut in their face, nobody wants to even give them the chance to show what's beneath the surface.
They have to struggle and push their way through life, scream at the top of their lungs to be seen and heard, and even when they are, they will always get unsavory commentary and mistreatment thrown their way, alongside any success they've had to grovel in the dirt for.
Even the average Joe or Jane is worse off in the shadow of the beautiful ones.
In this society, based on the human proclivity to assessing via appearances, you have to be visible in the most obvious of ways, before you can be visible with any other aspect of who you are.
Being ugly does not save you from being manipulated and used or taken advantage of, in fact, it makes you a thousand times more vulnerable to it.
If you think being good looking means that you're the only person who suffers via being valued by your appearance, you are wrong, dead wrong.
Every last one of us succumbs to the superficiality of our fellow man, but people who are attractive still have the easiest go at it.
Being less than attractive is not going to help you know that a man, or anyone else for that matter, is pursuing you for your personality, rather than to sleep with you.
Do you know how many people have pretended to be nice to me under false pretenses?
Just to get something out of me? Countless!
And I'm not attractive in the slightest!
They see an unattractive woman and think I'm desperate enough to do anything they say or request of me, and if I don't, they will go straight for the low blows and rub it in-just how ugly they find me, just how worthless I am because of that, and let me tell you, the majority will back them up in their belittlement of me.
I don't get to stand tall and walk away from the abuse, I don't get to make them feel small and say "no thank you, I'm too good for you, see ya!"
I don't get to go home and look in the mirror and at least find comfort in the fact that my physical form is pleasing and freeing, there is no contentment when in the presence of others, nor on my own.
It is a prison sentence 24/7.
And if your problem is with men in romantic relationships, then physical attraction is always going to be a factor, if you don't want it to be, then the relationship would not be sexual or so heavily based on looks in the first place, as nearly all romances are.
I'm not saying that's the way things should be, but rather it is just how they are.
Even people you might consider ugly will still have to appeal to their partner physically in some way, and feel the pressure to keep up with that, or be tossed aside for another.
Not to mention the same type of 'evil' you recognize in certain men, is just as present, if not more so, in those same men, and society as a whole, toward the unattractive.
There are actually people who will sleep with ugly men and women, just to dump them on their asses afterward, because they know they will be "easy" to fuck and even easier to drop like a sack of shit.
Some even get into relationships with those who are less attractive, because it gives them a sense of power over them, it feeds their own ego, and it allows them to feel comfortable and secure, fully believing that their "poor little uggo" wouldn't dream of leaving them for someone else.
They don't see or appreciate the personality of the ugly person over their appearance, any more than an attractive person's.
The idea that they do is preposterous and a way for pretty people to throw pity parties, while the less fortunate are given a fake bone to chew on and ponder-until they realize it's made out of plastic.
It reminds me of that ridiculous quote that attractive people love to pull from 'The Guardians of the Galaxy':
"When you're ugly and someone loves you, you know they love you for who you are. Beautiful people never know who to trust." "Well, then I am certainly grateful to be ugly!"
..which I'm pretty sure was meant to be ironic (as the character claiming to be beautiful was arguably a brute, and the character being referred to as ugly, was very obviously alien-yet good looking), and if it wasn't..just wow.
You have to be daft to actually take a statement like that seriously.
As even in and of itself, it is easily disproved (and then some.)
As outlined above, ugly people are victims of having their trust abused, all the same and more than everyone else.
(Most vulnerable sides of any spectrum are.)
I am not saying you can't suffer or have painful problems/valid reasons to be on this site, you absolutely can, but to make your privilege into one of those problems?
Really? Come on now.
Like I've said before, it's like the rich moaning to the poor.
Know your audience, and realize your preferential position, in this one area, at the very least.
I have privileges too, in relation to others, and I would never dream of comparing them as an issue-to those who lack them altogether.
So I will never understand why other people continue to do this..
And I'm actually sorry to direct this all onto you, because you are far from the only person who is hellbent on twisting things in this way.
If you were, I'd probably let it be, but it's an issue that needs to be told it's an issue, so that a certain awareness in self-reflection can be possible.
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