Venting kind of realize why my boyfriend cheated on me

[sillyprincessmeow]

i was looking at myself and like my side profile and its actually so bad. i look autistic or something. i look so goofy i literally wanna kill myself because of this! i understand why he cheated! id cheat on me too! im so sad but literally everything makes sense like why i dont really have any friends,no one wants to talk to me, i dont get compliments, no one has every rly liked me, why my bf treats me like shit etc.. im literally j fugly as hell which is pretty funny imo! why do i look the way i do smh. just realized that i will never be percieved the way i wanna be. i will never be pretty im so silly!!!

 

[voc_89]

don't beat up yourself. No one deserves to be tricked or played around with for x/y reasons. It may be harsh but who you were with was a dick who didn't appreciate or understand you as, if they did, they would have known that their actions would have had a significant impact on your mental psyche. Don't waste your time thinking/pining for them. U will find someone better. Trust and believe. In the interim work on things u think will make you more of a catch (than u already are). For instance, seduction strategies (sorry but some of you women have no game lol).

p.s. i hope i was right assuming you were a woman

 

[Rocinante]

Side profile isn't that important unless you suffer from an overbite or underbite, or have a large nose. Most people that see you in 3d rarely ever focus on side. Probably just hyperfixation. I suffer from it too, will always try to find a flaw In my face.

 

[SexyIncél]

You wrote this before:

hes the only person ive ever loved or been attracted to. ... he makes me feel good sometimes, like when we're good it's really really good… but other times its like im just a side piece.
...
hes cheated on me, lied, abused, assualted.. done everything in the book to me.

Jumped out at me. Sounds like he's your drug. The rollercoaster of highs/lows that addict gamblers

Unlike many entertainers, you don't have a platoon of handlers, makeup artists and photographers who'll make you into art. Nor mentors who teach how to wield attractiveness. So you get bogged down in inessential details

You have no power in this relationship. He has many alternatives, you refuse yourself any. You give him confidence to take risks when pursuing others, because you're his cushion if he falls. And his punching bag. You could humiliate him, but instead you humiliate yourself

Virtually none of his decisions are likely caused by your side profile

 

[Holu]

i was looking at myself and like my side profile and its actually so bad. i look autistic or something. i look so goofy i literally wanna kill myself because of this! i understand why he cheated! id cheat on me too! im so sad but literally everything makes sense like why i dont really have any friends,no one wants to talk to me, i dont get compliments, no one has every rly liked me, why my bf treats me like shit etc.. im literally j fugly as hell which is pretty funny imo! why do i look the way i do smh. just realized that i will never be percieved the way i wanna be. i will never be pretty im so silly!!!

Anybody that cheats can catch fists, tools, blades, and bullets to their face. I will overstep boundaries and acknowledge that you are sweet on him but honestly give me a name and address and I'll take both his eyes and legs. These type of people deserve every ounce of suffering they inflicted tenfold.

I want to say leave him, and that you're worth more, but to some degree that makes me a hypocrite. I have been heartbroken for four years, partially due to her maintaining contact. Whether it's her drawing me in or my dumbass making a stupid decision and crawling back. It still feels like love is there but I know it's not. Sometimes I wonder if I'm happier just being with her, regardless of how much pain that entails.

We make our own decisions, and chose our own paths. Regardless of anything he is abusive, and regardless of how little you think of yourself you are worth so much more.

Finally, there is 0 possibility it's because of your side profile. I know your hurting, I know it's easy to fixate on flaws, but I promise you it is not that.

If you need someone to vent to, please feel free to continue asking here, or dm me. We are with you, don't ever forget that.

 

[jamie_]

im here because of emotional betrayal too. it has completely destroyed my ability to function. being a victim of it is one of the most painful experiences you can go through in life, up there with a loved one dying.

i dont really have any friends,no one wants to talk to me

this is literally the exact reason they gave me. they straight up admitted it lmao.

Side profile isn't that important unless you suffer from an overbite or underbite

i have an overbite because neither my dentists or my parents didn't think i would care i guess, so never got braces like a normal person and now that i'm older my jaw is 1) already developed in place 2) have to wait a lifetime waiting on the shitty NHS to ever get further treatment, even simple braces.

 

[uniqueusername39]

i feel this. im ugly as well. people can be objectively ugly or objectively beautiful and im objectively ugly. for some reason the pretty people like convincing the ugly people that they look just fine so they don't have to feel bad for them or something i guess. it's also why i dont have friends. i do take care of myself. it's just that the structure of my face is fckd up and can't fix it unless i have a ton of money probably. but then would i really want to have friends again i'm pretty enough when no one would even want me when i'm ugly? a lot of people are trash. and that includes me. i often had a feeling that when i did have friends it was only because they can't feel insecure around me because im ugly.

 

[MrShino]

Hmm... it's terrible that this is what society has become. So obsessed with appearances, like that's all that matters. We've become so shallow and superficial. Many people struggle with self-image, though, and many people that look perfectly normal or even good hate their own looks and think they are ugly. It's crazy. What matters is that you are a good person.

Find someone who loves you for who you are. They are out there!