Judgment and Bullying

[IntelligentLeg]

We should be able to share our experiences and failures freely on this site with out judgment.
Theres even been name calling. All we want to do is share what we went through. This is supposed to be a safe space for expressing ourselves and sharing our stories with out negative backlash. Our lives are hard enough. Most all of us here are already living in a nightmare. We all want the same thing, to ctb. Do better. (I'll take my own advice too)

 

[SamTam33]

I can find something to appreciate in all the stories. Like the person who said they hit their head. Even if it's made up, it still reminded me to line my bathtub with a plush comforter and stay in there. I'm going to stack dining room chairs up around the tub to discourage me from getting out lol.

When my failed attempt occurs (because I'm an eternal pessimist), I'm coming here with all the details. And if I have enough strength, I'll reply with a customized FU for each doubter.

But I understand that not everyone is like that, and the negative responses might hurt. Just tell your story. How each member interprets it is up to them.

 

[FuneralCry]

I don't really recommend posting on this site especially if one wants compassion and support. This place is anything but a safe space and people should be aware of that. It's definitely best to stay quiet, it won't achieve anything being open about experiences, I think the last thing that suffering people need is to be made to feel worse.

 

[Himalayan]

Or maybe realize that there's no bullying. There's no one witch hunting you here, in this post?
Bullying is way harder than this, the perpetrators follows you like parasites.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Yes, I agree. We do need to be kinder to one another. Especially when our views differ or we read things that we are frightened by or doubt.

Failed attempts are incredibly worrying for those of us considering the same method. I think it's very easy to freak out and start selfishly panicking about our own attempts and forget that the OP may well have just gone through the most traumatic event of their life.

I do understand why people are paranoid about the possibility of pro life infiltrators on here describing harrowing failed SN attemps, in order to frighten people away from what has become a very popular method. (I'm not saying you are.) HOWEVER- seeing as though there is no way of knowing this- no one here should be calling someone an outright liar.

People who are kind enough to come on here after a failed attempt actually do us all a service (presuming the attempt was genuine.) By trying to work out why the attempt failed, it makes it easier to build up a picture of what is more likely to make an attempt succeed.

Unfortunately- this does require a lot of questionning as to what protocol was followed and I'm sure it does feel like a massive inquisition to the OP. I have to apologise because I think I did ask you a couple of questions about the timing first off- I did try to do it sensitively but I'm sorry if I upset you.

It's almost like we need two separate threads- one to support the OP after the event and the other to ask questions if and when they are up for doing so.