I've told my therapist i don't want to see her anymore and she wants an 'ending session '

[Cherrypea]

Yeah! These people use your time to talk about themselves! Narcissists!

Lol, I'm starting to believe we had the same therapist

She told me at the first session we actually live quite close to each other, I'll be ninja diving into the bushes if I see her

 

[Mm80]

She told me at the first session we actually live quite close to each other, I'll be ninja diving into the bushes if I see her

She sounds like she might charge you for each second of eye contact.
No in fairness i dont know her and what shes like but trying to push a closing session on you and charging you when you gave her enough notice, and talking about herself so much.
Just doesnt sound right.

 

[Lupgevif]

Typical therapists. Just don't. She doesn't care about you, she's just trying to squeeze as much money as she can from you before you are completely gone.

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

Typical therapists.

I've never had a "typical" therapist, they've all been very different. I've had some really good therapists and I've had a couple really bad therapists. And I worked with dozens of therapists in a community mental health setting; the clients didn't pay out of pocket, it wasn't private, and there were both good and bad therapists, only a handful were just there for a paycheck. I've never had one act like the OP's in any way.

 

[BitterlyAlive]

Typical therapists. Just don't. She doesn't care about you, she's just trying to squeeze as much money as she can from you before you are completely gone.

Typical BAD therapists. There are some good ones out there who care about more than just a paycheck

 

[BipolarGuy]

I've already commented on this thread, maybe twice, but what she basically means is this:

"I'd already calculated roughly how much I was going to earn from you, and this is being cut short so lets at least have another meeting".

 

[Cherrypea]

I don't think she's really a bad person, just maybe out of her depth with my fucked up head.

I've already commented on this thread, maybe twice, but what she basically means is this:

"I'd already calculated roughly how much I was going to earn from you, and this is being cut short so lets at least have another meeting".

Comment away, I like hearing you while you are still with us xc

 

[esse_est_percipi]

she emailed back about the importance of an ending session

Trouble is I hate feeling I'm doing wrong by someone and sort of feel obliged to go

This is exactly the emotional response she's gambling on.
She's betting on the idea that her email will elicit that kind of guilty reaction,
so she can get one final paycheck out of you.
Ignore it and don't see her anymore.
I understand you may feel bad and guilty, but you don't owe her anything.
It's not illegal to refuse someone's services.

 

[DyingAlf]

It is important for you to email her so that it's in writing that you quit (so she can't try to screw you out of another £60 for "missing" your next session).
Keep it brief but make sure that you include the fact that you have already quit & that this is "written confirmation" & that it's "effective immediately" because you don't want or need a wrapping up session.

I quit therapy recently (private & in UK) & my therapist didn't try to make me do an extra session.

 

[Lupgevif]

I've never had a "typical" therapist, they've all been very different. I've had some really good therapists and I've had a couple really bad therapists. And I worked with dozens of therapists in a community mental health setting; the clients didn't pay out of pocket, it wasn't private, and there were both good and bad therapists, only a handful were just there for a paycheck. I've never had one act like the OP's in any way.

Of course you didn't, the therapists you worked with had a fixed paycheck and didn't rely on the clients paying. We are talking about a therapist who relies on client payment here.

Typical BAD therapists. There are some good ones out there who care about more than just a paycheck

#NotAllTherapists

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

Of course you didn't, the therapists you worked with had a fixed paycheck and didn't rely on the clients paying. We are talking about a therapist who relies on client payment here.

No, I meant I was employed in community mental health. All but one of my own therapists was private, and I've had many over the years. Only one suggested a closing session, I'd been seeing her a long time and we were wrapping things up. It was really nice. It wasn't creepy like this.

 

[BitterlyAlive]

#NotAllTherapists

Just a bit defensive because I know a few really good ones. Is it a bad thing to speak up for them?

 

[Mm80]

Just a bit defensive because I know a few really good ones. Is it a bad thing to speak up for them?

No not at all imo. This thread seems to discussing a poor one but its good to hear that there are good ones out there.

 

[Lupgevif]

@GoodPersonEffed Oh, my bad, I completely misunderstood what you said.

 

[Deleted member 1496]

Dear Not so helpful Therapist,

I think it is important for me to move on with my new therapist as soon as possible. For any remaining issues that need to be covered, I will cover them with the new therapist. I appreciate your time with me, but I feel the need to progress forward.

However, if you still wish to see me, please note that I charge £60 per visit, payable at the time of the appointment. Please arrive 15 minutes prior to your scheduled time to fill out paperwork.

Regards,
C

 

[Cherrypea]

Well ive emailed and said thank you but I don't think it'd benefit me to have an ending session as I'm moving on to different therapy. (I had already explained that in my first email to her and tried to soften it by saying my insurance was now paying) I think she just needs it for herself. She can take me out for a coffee if she's that desperate to talk! Of course now I feel bad though.

 

[marcusuk63]

she said I had to pay the full amount for the session.

"Curing" people doesn't pay the bills

 

[Meditation guide]

Therapists are not in charge of you and your life, you are. This is one thing I noticed when I went to a shrink every week, this feeling like they know it all and I know nothing and therefore have to do the things they say and take the drugs they tell me to take.

They do NOT have your best interests at heart. They have their OWN best interests at heart, and that mean getting out of you whatever they can.

It is all about how much money they can milk you for. I wish I had been told this before I wasted time and money on one.

 

[TheQ22]

"Curing" people doesn't pay the bills

This is so true in many professions. The faster and better you solve the problem, the less you earn, and once you've done the job you then have no income until you find the next customer.

So in this money-fuelled world we live in it becomes necessary to do a worse job and make it last as long as possible so you can keep earning.

 

[Meditation guide]

So in this money-fuelled world we live in it becomes necessary to do a worse job and make it last as long as possible so you can keep earning.

Exactly. They want you to be crazy as hell and feel dependent on them. And they manipulate you to feel like this in various ways.

 

[Giraffey]

On a different thread, you apologised to me on behalf of nurses for the terrible experience I'd had. So now @Cherrypea, I'd like to return the favour and apologise on behalf of the hard-working therapists for this ridiculous 'professional'. An ending session is standard practice, but its purpose is to be used to provide closure to the client when the course of therapy comes to a natural close. I've never heard of a therapist requesting an ending session when a client has decided not to see them anymore, that tells me everything I need to know about this lady, and you've made the right decision seeking out somebody else.

As somebody else said, you've given 24 hours notice of your cancellation, so unless there is a specific clause in your contract stating that a minimum of 48 hours notice must be given, you've done nothing wrong and should politely decline to pay. 24 hours is considered to be "reasonable notice".

Once again, I'm so sorry you've had the misfortune to encounter such an incompetent therapist; in my experience, it's sadly not an uncommon occurrence, but I'm glad you are giving therapy another go with a different practitioner. I shall keep my fingers and toes crossed that this time you are able to receive the support and guidance you deserve from a professional who cares about more than the lack of wall clocks in their practice room.

 

[Cherrypea]

On a different thread, you apologised to me on behalf of nurses for the terrible experience I'd had. So now @Cherrypea, I'd like to return the favour and apologise on behalf of the hard-working therapists for this ridiculous 'professional'. An ending session is standard practice, but its purpose is to be used to provide closure to the client when the course of therapy comes to a natural close. I've never heard of a therapist requesting an ending session when a client has decided not to see them anymore, that tells me everything I need to know about this lady, and you've made the right decision seeking out somebody else.

As somebody else said, you've given 24 hours notice of your cancellation, so unless there is a specific clause in your contract stating that a minimum of 48 hours notice must be given, you've done nothing wrong and should politely decline to pay. 24 hours is considered to be "reasonable notice".

Once again, I'm so sorry you've had the misfortune to encounter such an incompetent therapist; in my experience, it's sadly not an uncommon occurrence, but I'm glad you are giving therapy another go with a different practitioner. I shall keep my fingers and toes crossed that this time you are able to receive the support and guidance you deserve from a professional who cares about more than the lack of wall clocks in their practice room.

Thank you. I can understand why she would want an ending session, she never asked for any feedback during our sessions and must be wondering about it now. But as you say it would be for her and not me and I'm glad I said no.

 

[Secrets1]

By professional standards for a long term client it's something the therapist should offer free of charge. It's never happened to me but I haven't left the door open for further interaction recently when dropping my T.